Saying "forever"

[lucybelle]

I can't do it. I don't know why. I don't want to say I'll love him forever, because I don't know that I will. I don't want to say we'll be together forever, because I don't know what the future holds.

Last night my SO was talking to me about how his cousin just broke up with his girlfriend of 2 years. My SO asked me "You won't break up with me, will you?" I said "Not right now." He got a little upset. I told him I don't know what will happen in the future. He says "If you know your present, you know your future." I think part of it might be age differences. I'm (almost) 24 and he's 30. Maybe he's ready for "forever". And I'm not.

Part of a Lily Allen song reminds me of how I feel:
"I could say that I'll always be here for you
But that would be a lie and quite a pointless thing to do.
I could say that I'll always have feelings for you
But I've got a life ahead of me, and I'm only 22."

Do you all say "forever and ever" to your SO?

**After thinking about all my recent posts... I think I have some serious commitment issues!

[Micah]

I do say forever, just because I wear my heart on my sleeve. Also, I would prefer to look at our relationship as something permanent and something that I will work at for a lifetime. I don't know what the future will hold, but right now I want my future to be with my boyfriend for as long as we are meant to be together, which could potentially be forever. I know sometimes plans fall through (I've been divorced), but I think positive thought can go a long way. At the same time, there's nothing wrong with being realistic like you are. I just think there might be better ways to approach those questions, like saying, "I hope we're together forever." instead of, "I won't break up with you right now." That might give your SO a bit more security.

[NaNi]

We do say forever and ever.

[blankita719]

We say forever, but again we're a little older. We've both been through a serious relationship previously and been through that heartbreak, so we're realistic enough to know that like Micah said, things sometimes fall through. But I also feel like this time is different for us because we've known each other forever.
Even though I felt it, when he and I had our first discussion about what this was and what we were doing, I was terrified of telling him forever because I didn't want to feel that vulnerable again. But now I look at it as the first step in really committing myself to him and our future together. It's ok if you're not there yet, you are still young. I can see where he would be hurt, but I think Micah's suggestion is great - just give it a different spin. If you love him, tell him that you do and that you hope you don't stop.

[Karringtyn]

I WILL love him forever, no matter what. I also am realistic and don't have the rose colored glasses on. That is why for now I take things..."one day at a time.."

[Caroline]

It took me a while before I could even say "I love you".
I do say forever now. I know I'm young but at the moment I can't imagine being with anyone else ever, in my mind I will love him forever.

Also if something horrible did happen I still think a part of me would always love him.

[BabyGund]

I will always love him forever, even if we're no longer together. We really do have a bond that can't be broken easily.

[ber6810]

we do say forever & ever. it took me a while i would always tell him " you know forever is a long time " lol but now we say it all the time. ♥

also. i am a strong believer of " you either always love someone or never did " even though many disagree this is my own opinion. this i am aware of.

by this i take that. if its love and its meant to be wether you are together or separated love is forever. maybe you have "loved" before. but it in fact could have been falsified lust. something you believed at the time to be love. even if their actions, mentality, or behavior has changed them into something you do not enjoy anymore. love is love.
-i also believe there is only "one true love". so with that said i do believe in forever <3

[LostInLove]

I don't way it, but we're pretty early in our relationship. We've got a lot of trials ahead of us so who knows if we'll even make it through the year much less last "forever". I think I'll saved that for if and when we've closed the distance.

[Moon]

Nope, no way. Sure, I'd like to think that way, but realistically, I've been around the block enough times to know life is tricky, and always sends you in directions you'd never expect. You just can't predict forever.

That being said, I'm gonna tell him I'll love him forever....when we're 70

[Caitlin2009]

we do say forever, or "im not going anywhere" i do believe me and Denise will be forever until were like 90 something years old

[Rugger]

We haven't made the step to forever yet. Would I like to love him forever? Yes. DO i know it's gunna happen? No.

[leonsfangirl]

I don't think i've ever said i will love him forever and he hasn't said that to me, but i have said i will always be there for him no matter what happens. Like many of you have said, you really dont know whats going to happen in the future. At this moment in time i can only see myself with him but people and feelings change and i may not always feel that way.... but i honestly,truely and deeply want to feel that way forever.

[Mfashnik]

My SO used to say forever a lot, but I have a problem with it too. I'm 19. Forever for me is an impossibility. I think he understands that now. I do love him, with all my heart, every day, but we've been through a lot of stuff and we still have at least three more years of distance left. Forever would be a lie and I won't lie to him about something so important.

[Zephii]

I say forever and always, and I mean it when I say it. I don't see us breaking up over something so terrible that it would destroy our friendship. I feel like I have always loved him and will continue to do so - in some way, perhaps not with such passion though - until I kick the bucket. He's been such a huge part of my life, and such a strong influence on who I've become, how could I not?

But love does change, love is fluid.

We're both aware that for now I have a chance to leave if this isn't what I truly want. I say forever, but I make no promises... not yet anyway.