Recently, my SO and I have been going through a bit of a rough patch, and it's just been a bit confusing and hard to determine exactly where the issue is. I think that part of it might be possible over communication that we let get in the way of having alone time or our personal moments. Being she is 4000 miles away, we certainly get a lot of time not on Skype, but lately I've felt that we haven't been exactly ourselves for the past 3-4 days. I've talked to her about it, and she is unsure what it is as well. One thing that I've been thinking about, is we really do talk a lot. It used to be no problem, we considered it a really strong point about our relationship, and it made long distance easy for us. We felt we connect everyday, and we never got tired of that. But now, both of us are going through some very tough emotional and very tough stressful situations in our lives, and we are looking forward to closing the gap in July, for good!
I did this assignment for an advisor of mine, and basically, I mapped out my 168 hours during the week. I was curious how much we actually video chatted, so I counted up the hours. All in all, we spent about 15 hours on video chat during this past week. I know that it's individual per relationship what is too much, or what isn't, but I was just wondering how often other people talk, and if they ever feel the way that I'm feeling now. There are times where I feel like although we both want to talk, and we love talking to each other, it can be at the end of her very long day (i'm 6 hours behind), and she'll be very tired, and me being so far away, I can't help the way I'd like, so I almost feel as if I'm making the situation worse by us talking for so long. It's nothing that shes aware of consciously, but I think it could be a contributing factor.
Thoughts?
I did this assignment for an advisor of mine, and basically, I mapped out my 168 hours during the week. I was curious how much we actually video chatted, so I counted up the hours. All in all, we spent about 15 hours on video chat during this past week. I know that it's individual per relationship what is too much, or what isn't, but I was just wondering how often other people talk, and if they ever feel the way that I'm feeling now. There are times where I feel like although we both want to talk, and we love talking to each other, it can be at the end of her very long day (i'm 6 hours behind), and she'll be very tired, and me being so far away, I can't help the way I'd like, so I almost feel as if I'm making the situation worse by us talking for so long. It's nothing that shes aware of consciously, but I think it could be a contributing factor.
Thoughts?
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