My SO and I are doing better than ever. Now that we've made ourselves exclusive and worked through this, it's like a second honeymoon phase, but better since we already know each other so well. Yesterday, we were being sappy and I asked if I was special to him, and he said, "More than special, you're my one and only." If any of you have read my threads before, you know that that is something he would have never said before. His ex was still trying to get him to give her another chance, still is, I think. He tells me he's still afraid about "choosing" and choosing wrong; it's a really big issue for him, he feels guilty for being in a situation where someone is going to end up hurt. When he told her this in the past, she was all over trying to get him to be with her. That doesn't work with him, I doubt it works with anyone, so I told him it was fine. We're not engaged, we're seeing if this works. If it doesn't, at least we tried. He hasn't chosen me as a life partner yet, I mean, we've hardly been totally exclusive a month.
Mmk. His ex (who was also an LDR) is coming to visit next summer, she has family in the area. It is without a doubt impossible for me to visit him any time at all for at least another year, so that's totally out. I know she'll try to get back with him, or at least rub it in his face that he made the "wrong" decision. He personally thinks she's going to ask him to have sex. =S We don't really talk about the future much, as like I said, really long term commitment just makes him nervous, we aren't ready for the security of being engaged or anything, we just aren't. I know it makes him anxious, so I don't bring it up, but we had a conversation about his ex (let's call her Ana, I think I used that pseudonym for her in the past XD) last night. He said that basically even if we weren't together, he doubted it would be anything more than a simple kiss, not sex or anything extreme like she thinks. I mean come on, if we ended things tomorrow and they got together the next day, they'd only have three months to pursue their feelings for each other. He loves her as a friend still, I respect that. He's one for friend kisses on the cheek and hugs and stuff and I told him that I respect that also, but he needs to understand what a truly romantic gesture would mean to me. I think he thought I was being insecure about us, which usually I'm not, so he told me that "YOU are my silly" etc.
All in all, he told her all about us when we became exclusive. She cried, it was an hours long discussion where she bombarded him with things that were wrong with me (from my understanding anyway). He stuck it out. Ana still hates me, even though the last time we talked she assured me she trusted my word and thought I was a cool person. It gets to me, I don't like people hating me, I don't like people calling me an ugly bitch behind my back, I don't like her trying to get back with him when he's told her point blank he and I are a thing. He's told me that they don't have much to talk about anymore, just her new trophy boyfriend and school and he feels like he's just nodding along all the time. She and I of course don't talk, he said it would just cause even more drama.
What do you think I should do? I'm confident he won't cheat, I just wish the situation for us two and her was better and easier and that Ana would accept this and STOP thinking he's going to up and leave me and get in bed with her this summer.
Mmk. His ex (who was also an LDR) is coming to visit next summer, she has family in the area. It is without a doubt impossible for me to visit him any time at all for at least another year, so that's totally out. I know she'll try to get back with him, or at least rub it in his face that he made the "wrong" decision. He personally thinks she's going to ask him to have sex. =S We don't really talk about the future much, as like I said, really long term commitment just makes him nervous, we aren't ready for the security of being engaged or anything, we just aren't. I know it makes him anxious, so I don't bring it up, but we had a conversation about his ex (let's call her Ana, I think I used that pseudonym for her in the past XD) last night. He said that basically even if we weren't together, he doubted it would be anything more than a simple kiss, not sex or anything extreme like she thinks. I mean come on, if we ended things tomorrow and they got together the next day, they'd only have three months to pursue their feelings for each other. He loves her as a friend still, I respect that. He's one for friend kisses on the cheek and hugs and stuff and I told him that I respect that also, but he needs to understand what a truly romantic gesture would mean to me. I think he thought I was being insecure about us, which usually I'm not, so he told me that "YOU are my silly" etc.
All in all, he told her all about us when we became exclusive. She cried, it was an hours long discussion where she bombarded him with things that were wrong with me (from my understanding anyway). He stuck it out. Ana still hates me, even though the last time we talked she assured me she trusted my word and thought I was a cool person. It gets to me, I don't like people hating me, I don't like people calling me an ugly bitch behind my back, I don't like her trying to get back with him when he's told her point blank he and I are a thing. He's told me that they don't have much to talk about anymore, just her new trophy boyfriend and school and he feels like he's just nodding along all the time. She and I of course don't talk, he said it would just cause even more drama.
What do you think I should do? I'm confident he won't cheat, I just wish the situation for us two and her was better and easier and that Ana would accept this and STOP thinking he's going to up and leave me and get in bed with her this summer.
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