I haven't heard from Francesco in a week

[Silencedsongs]

Wow...

If you're willing to have some sort of annual affair, ruin his reputation, or seek out vengeance of any kind for whichever reason - whether you find the reasoning valid or not, that's just petty and tactless and obviously not love of any kind.

[Tanja]

This has turned into a real show this thread!

OP: Everyone can see you're hurt. Obviously. You were expecting something from this guy you never got and now you're pissed off. There's a reason for the saying "Hell has no fury like a woman scorned".

You got burnt and you wanna get back at him. I can see that. But the way you wanna do it is so wrong. Imagine yourself in his shoes for a minute. You've spoken to someone for 2 weeks and they start to plan a visit, talking about marriage and kids and you think "ok, this is too much for me" and you stop talking to this person. Next thing you know, the person shows up at your door step in your COUNTRY,in your work place and bad mouths you to everyone, ruining your reputation. What would you think of such person, seriously?

You would think they're mental and obsessed and you would be seriously afraid of that person. Take a minute to really read what you're saying. What you're about to do is crazy. You need to let go of your anger and admit that you let yourself get carried away with this guy. Everyone makes mistakes and gets hurt at some point in their life. That's the risk you gotta take when you open your heart to someone and there's nothing to be ashamed in that.

I'm sorry this happened to you but you're not the first woman to have it happened to. This guy is not worth all the trouble, trust me. If you go ahead with your plan and find him you can get into serious problems.

If you wanna go to Italy then go, see the country and all the things you wanna see but do it for YOU. Don't go on a wich hunt cause it will not end well. If you want closure then email him, write him a letter or something but don't go after someone across the world you've never even met and only spoken to for 2 weeks - that makes YOU an idiot instead of him.

[bluishskin]

Oh wow man...I was absent for a few weeks and look at how much this thread has grown!
As harsh as I might sound in the next few minutes, you and this guy need to forget each other and move on with your life. There are heaps of better people out there, and from all things going on here I'm afraid that you two are not good for each other.
I agree with Tanja: everybody makes mistakes. Next questions: Are you willing to admit that you've just made a mistake? Are you willing to be introspective towards yourself? It does take time and courage to do so. But you seriously need to let go and move on with your life. Don't dig your own hole. If you think the comments and opinions given by all of us here are just bullshit, well...you're simply being disrespectful and unnappreciative towards us. We're just trying to help you out.
You're 22 years old, not 12. Grow up, let go, move on and try not to do anything stupid.
Good luck.

[JennyRW]

Lol this thread became my dayly soup opera hehehe
On the begining I was on her side, and thinking that he was mean playing with her feelings. But after all her posts I changed my mind, poor guy! She is crazy, and not funny crazy but scary crazy! Girl this guy just chated with you what two weeks, one month? and then he desapear? Big deal! You are acting like he killed your mom!
Look for help as soon as posible, you may need medication!

[MadMolly]

This girl is either BATSHIT FUCKING CRAZY!! Or a troll. I'm going with troll. Please, continue, this is great!

[Zapookie]

lol this has become a soapie for me too.. pass me the popcorn, please!

[bluishskin]

*handing over popcorn to Zapookie*

Coca-Cola anyone?

[uniquefem]

**pass coke to bluishskin**

....do we need 3D glasses to watch this?? i love psycho thriller...... never know the end!

[Xanahtas]

I want pop corn too! lol this is just great to sit and watch :P

[Minerva]

I usually have a great sense of humor (no really! I know any statement that starts off that way is immediately disproved by whatever follows, but I do have a sense of humor, honest).

Thing is, I think this girl, if not a troll, is seriously disturbed. Her advice to people on other threads is usually violence. Now I'm a drama queen and I can give terrible over-the-top advice, but who actually seriously advises someone to kick their boyfriend in the balls? Who, when presented with the definition of stalking, thinks stalking is not that bad?

Who flys to another country to try to seduce a man she spoke with for less than a month and who stopped talking to her two months ago and thinks if he rejects her it's ok to mess up his life?

If not a troll, this girl has MAJOR issues, and I think it's best we don't play with fire here.

[bluishskin]

Her advice to people on other threads is usually violence.

Seriously? Oops...

[WakeUpSusie]

You know what? I'm not even reading this thread anymore. This is getting way too bizarre for me. Either the OP is completely off her rocker with her reasoning or this is a made up story to get attention. Either way, it's weird and I don't care.

OP: If you follow through with this, you are very possibly going to end up in some serious legal trouble in Italy. You have NO idea as to what a bad idea that is. But you seem pretty determined to go through with it anyway, so say hi to Amanda Knox for me while you're at it.

[Dziubka]

I'm with Minerva on this one.
I may be paranoid and I don't even know what exactly it is, but this thread makes me uneasy.
I'd like to believe that she's a troll, I think we really could be making things a lot worse... You know there's people out there that are a lot more crazy than any of us can imagine.

The OP has a facebook profile and has written about her boyfriend on there, which of course doesn't prove anything, but it seems a bit... too much hassle to just troll, to me...

[kteire]

I usually have a great sense of humor (no really! I know any statement that starts off that way is immediately disproved by whatever follows, but I do have a sense of humor, honest).

Thing is, I think this girl, if not a troll, is seriously disturbed. Her advice to people on other threads is usually violence. Now I'm a drama queen and I can give terrible over-the-top advice, but who actually seriously advises someone to kick their boyfriend in the balls? Who, when presented with the definition of stalking, thinks stalking is not that bad?

Who flys to another country to try to seduce a man she spoke with for less than a month and who stopped talking to her two months ago and thinks if he rejects her it's ok to mess up his life?

If not a troll, this girl has MAJOR issues, and I think it's best we don't play with fire here.

Agreed. And it really does frighten me that she thinks stalking isn't that bad... I was stalked by a guy I went to elementary school with, and although I was not physically hurt, it was terrifying. He was very unwell and has been committed, and anyone who does think that stalking is ok really needs to get help.

[Engel]

@Dziubka

She has a facebok profile link in here? i didnt see it. and if she does have a fb link i agree is too much energy put into trolling. so or she is someone with no time in her hands, or someone that needs medical help.