Hi everyone, thanks for reading this in advance
I'll try to keep this as short as possible.
We met online, talked for about a month on the phone, then we started a relationship that went for 4 months. She lives in Cleveland, I'm from pittsburgh, so it is about a 2 hour drive. We would see each other on average every other weekend, sometimes back-to-back. Everything was great, really, for those 4 months. Maybe 1 fight because of frustration from the distance.
One day I'm talking to her on gchat, and she tells me she has something she wants to tell me later but not now, so I call her later that day, and she says she wants to break up with me. She says that she doesn't have the same feelings for me/it wasn't meant to be. I'm in disbelief because it seems out of nowhere, besides her being kinda "distant" and less happy when we would see each other recently before this phone convo. So I was crushed and in disbelief as you could imagine.
I didn't know what to do, so in that same phone conversation where she was breaking up, i asked her if we could do a "break" instead. She asked if I really wanted to do that, and I said yes of course, anything to be with her still, so I had asked her ok what about until September 1st, (this phone conversation took placed July 25th) and she said ok. I said goodbye and she started crying, as she was through a lot of the conversation, and said bye.
Basically I didn't hold up very well... I contacted her (texted her/called her/talked to her on gchat) altogether probably 8 or 9 times during the past month. Each time except once or twice she was happy to talk to me, and talk to me for quite awhile actually. She would even say she missed me sometimes, or talked about things that reminded her of me... This left me very confused, so eventually later on during this past month the past few times I've talked to her i asked her if we could stop the break and get back together, but each time she would say that "she didn't know." Or if I asked her if she wanted to be with me she would say "I don't know". This was very confusing and hurtful because by her tone and the things she was saying, I felt almost certain she would say yes and want to get back together with me.
Here is the other piece of the pie, however...She has been going through a stressful time, her roommate bailed on her out of nowhere so she was worried about a place to live, and work has been tough on her, and she even said early on in our conversations on break that that was probably why she was feeling the way she is right now and why she wanted to break up with me originally. But I just don't know what to think anymore. She has never contacted me, it was always on my side, and even though we were supposed to remove each other from twitter (i didn't, i missed her too much...), I would read her tweets and by the tone of them she seemed like everything was going well in her life, but I could see if I'm looking far too much into that.
Anyway, I don't know what to do anymore. The heartache has gone on now for 6 weeks. Tomorrow is the 1st of September... I am going to call her and see how she feels, but if she still doesn't know, I am feeling like I should call it off for the sake of my sanity and to end the hurt that I have been feeling since July 25th. I don't want to, I want to be with her... But I don't know if she wants to be with me, and maybe I have just been fooling myself that she does want to get back together with me.
I'll try to keep this as short as possible.
We met online, talked for about a month on the phone, then we started a relationship that went for 4 months. She lives in Cleveland, I'm from pittsburgh, so it is about a 2 hour drive. We would see each other on average every other weekend, sometimes back-to-back. Everything was great, really, for those 4 months. Maybe 1 fight because of frustration from the distance.
One day I'm talking to her on gchat, and she tells me she has something she wants to tell me later but not now, so I call her later that day, and she says she wants to break up with me. She says that she doesn't have the same feelings for me/it wasn't meant to be. I'm in disbelief because it seems out of nowhere, besides her being kinda "distant" and less happy when we would see each other recently before this phone convo. So I was crushed and in disbelief as you could imagine.
I didn't know what to do, so in that same phone conversation where she was breaking up, i asked her if we could do a "break" instead. She asked if I really wanted to do that, and I said yes of course, anything to be with her still, so I had asked her ok what about until September 1st, (this phone conversation took placed July 25th) and she said ok. I said goodbye and she started crying, as she was through a lot of the conversation, and said bye.
Basically I didn't hold up very well... I contacted her (texted her/called her/talked to her on gchat) altogether probably 8 or 9 times during the past month. Each time except once or twice she was happy to talk to me, and talk to me for quite awhile actually. She would even say she missed me sometimes, or talked about things that reminded her of me... This left me very confused, so eventually later on during this past month the past few times I've talked to her i asked her if we could stop the break and get back together, but each time she would say that "she didn't know." Or if I asked her if she wanted to be with me she would say "I don't know". This was very confusing and hurtful because by her tone and the things she was saying, I felt almost certain she would say yes and want to get back together with me.
Here is the other piece of the pie, however...She has been going through a stressful time, her roommate bailed on her out of nowhere so she was worried about a place to live, and work has been tough on her, and she even said early on in our conversations on break that that was probably why she was feeling the way she is right now and why she wanted to break up with me originally. But I just don't know what to think anymore. She has never contacted me, it was always on my side, and even though we were supposed to remove each other from twitter (i didn't, i missed her too much...), I would read her tweets and by the tone of them she seemed like everything was going well in her life, but I could see if I'm looking far too much into that.
Anyway, I don't know what to do anymore. The heartache has gone on now for 6 weeks. Tomorrow is the 1st of September... I am going to call her and see how she feels, but if she still doesn't know, I am feeling like I should call it off for the sake of my sanity and to end the hurt that I have been feeling since July 25th. I don't want to, I want to be with her... But I don't know if she wants to be with me, and maybe I have just been fooling myself that she does want to get back together with me.
Just gonna take a little time. Like LeilaniJoy said, we're all here for you to help you, should you want to discuss things further with us 
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