On my first official date with my girlfriend, I took her to a scenic spot in Hong Kong (for those who know and are wondering, it was the peak) and we just for the first time talked more and got to know each other better. However, I slipped up and lied to her that she was the only girl I've ever kissed, despite telling her that I dated 4 other girls before her (truth). I've always wanted to tell her the truth but she seemed so happy about that fact I just couldn't bring myself to do it every time, which ended up leading to me repeating the lie a few other times. Keep in mind, all that happened when we were both in Hong Kong. Now, I'm back in US to continue my studies while she stayed behind waiting for me.
Anyways, so the last day or so, we talked about our first kiss. Which somehow lead to her asking me again if she was really the only girl I ever kissed. I finally decided not to lie and told her the truth. I apologized multiple times and told her straight forward that I was planning to come clean but she seemed so happy about it I just couldn't find a chance to. She kept telling me it's fine and don't worry. But I know deep down she's upset and I felt horrible that I had to tell her the truth because she asked. I also feel horrible because she never lied to me, at least I believe she never did, and it was because I told her we should be honest to each other and not keep secrets.
I tried so hard to build my trust in her because she told me before that she don't really trust guys in general, and she finally opened up and told me more stuff. Now I feel like I ruined the trust and will have to work to build it up again, if she gives me the chance to. So, is there any advice as to how I can build trust in my girlfriend that I will never lie to her again? She told me not to promise her, and just do it, but I just don't know how!
I'm feeling so horrible that I started thinking over everything I told her, at least as much as I can remember, to make sure I didn't make any other lies. I told her too that if there are anything she want to confirm with me, I will tell her nothing but the truth. I don't know what else I can do...
Also, I have been lying to her that I quit smoking, but I have been secretly. I do plan to quit, but it is much easier when I'm with her. Should I tell her that also?
Thanks in advance, and this is my first post here so if there are any mistakes please let me know!
Anyways, so the last day or so, we talked about our first kiss. Which somehow lead to her asking me again if she was really the only girl I ever kissed. I finally decided not to lie and told her the truth. I apologized multiple times and told her straight forward that I was planning to come clean but she seemed so happy about it I just couldn't find a chance to. She kept telling me it's fine and don't worry. But I know deep down she's upset and I felt horrible that I had to tell her the truth because she asked. I also feel horrible because she never lied to me, at least I believe she never did, and it was because I told her we should be honest to each other and not keep secrets.
I tried so hard to build my trust in her because she told me before that she don't really trust guys in general, and she finally opened up and told me more stuff. Now I feel like I ruined the trust and will have to work to build it up again, if she gives me the chance to. So, is there any advice as to how I can build trust in my girlfriend that I will never lie to her again? She told me not to promise her, and just do it, but I just don't know how!
I'm feeling so horrible that I started thinking over everything I told her, at least as much as I can remember, to make sure I didn't make any other lies. I told her too that if there are anything she want to confirm with me, I will tell her nothing but the truth. I don't know what else I can do...
Also, I have been lying to her that I quit smoking, but I have been secretly. I do plan to quit, but it is much easier when I'm with her. Should I tell her that also?
Thanks in advance, and this is my first post here so if there are any mistakes please let me know!
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