Don't you hate it when...

[megfashion]

dont you just hate it when SOME (and i say again, SOME) guys, when theyve come to visit you finally after a long time, just forever are obsessed with breasts, the down-stairs area and bum!

ahh!! -.-

its like... "thanks dear for coming all this way to just have a feel, i have missed you too" -.-

[LeilaniJoi]

LOL

Well.. uhm... No I'd have to say I never hated that part of the visits. When we'd visit we always spent the better part of most days in bed or some variation of it O.o

[JennyRW]

I think that is funny, my bf is really horny so yeah when he finally see me he want it hehehe, but I don't hate it, I actually enjoy it.

[Haley53]

I think for me it depends more on the timing of it, and also on if I'm being considered a partner or a sex toy.

For example, my SO and I had sex pretty straight off the bat - not instantly and after some kissing and cuddling and much-needed (for me) sleeping - and I don't regret it, primarily because I was the one who initiated it/in the mood for it to happen. It was something I felt comfortable doing. With my ex, he was really quick to jump into wanting it, not sex, per se, but even feeling me up, and I wasn't, so his pushiness put me off. My current partner is also so tuned in to my bodily cues that I imagine he'd even be able to determine a real "yes, I'm okay" from a false one if I were, for whatever reason, to ever not be honest about whether or not I actually was; this provides my relationship with a level of safety and security, because I know if I want to stop, no matter what, my partner will stop.

On the one hand, it's going to make sense that your partner is going to want sex/going to act sexually. :P But on the other, if he's pressuring you into it or "obsessed" with it, as you put it, when you don't want it, then I can see where you would feel the way you do. My question is, do you ever put your foot down about it? If you don't want him feeling up your boobs, for example, have you ever told him to stop, and subsequently walked away if he didn't? If it's a situation where he's learnt that he can get something sexual out of pushing you a little bit... Unfortunately, there are a lot of people who will use that to their advantage with anything. No, it's not respectful, but I do think it can sometimes send mixed messages to someone, like "maybe she needs time to get in the mood," for example. If you have put your foot down and refused and he continues to act the way he does, then maybe it's time to have a serious discussion with him about his behaviour and about both of your expectations from visits. And if you haven't spoken to him about it at all and you're merely harbouring the resentment from it, perhaps it's time you do.

[HollzHeartsChris]

Haha I honestly think it's quite funny, my SO gets quite wound up just by looking at me most days so I'm quite used to it :P Personally, I just take it as a compliment and as a form of flattery I haven't met him yet, I'm just taking that from what's happened when we've gone on webcam with one another or looked at photos of one another xD

[HollzHeartsChris]

Haha I honestly think it's quite funny, my SO gets quite wound up just by looking at me most days so I'm quite used to it :P Personally, I just take it as a compliment and as a form of flattery I haven't met him yet, I'm just taking that from what's happened when we've gone on webcam with one another or looked at photos of one another xD

[kiara_silver]

lol this threads funny. I haven't had this problem, our first visit he was very good to me, and I was the one who initiated everything. So he didn't make me feel like a object or toy at all. And when he comes back again, we both miss each other, I doubt i'll feel like this when he's here. we both have the same wants lol

[megfashion]

I think for me......time you do.

noooooooo i didnt mean during... i meant just day to day general stuff, once out of that mood. its quite cute at times, agreed, if you just need abit of an ego-boost (teehee), but then non stop its just *cooome oooonnn* :P


edit: oh and by the way, this isnt a mean jibe in any way to my SO. its just a lil nag which we both laugh at :P

[DemonxOisin]

Hehe, with me and my SO, we figure we have months to have long conversations and be sweet and cute and such. We only have x amount of time to make merry lol, so oh my, do we go at it when we´re together xD

[SquishyLove]

Me and my SO have a very compatible sexual appetite, so the amount of touching and feeling from him is fine for me and I never feel annoyed or uncomfortable by it personally. I'm a very huggy and cuddly person, though, and I love and appreciate that he's so free with the affection, sexual or snuggly (or a mixture of both)

[Ms.Justine]

I would not mind that one bit...honestly it'd probably be me having to calm down bahaha!

[Engel]

LOL

Well.. uhm... No I'd have to say I never hated that part of the visits. When we'd visit we always spent the better part of most days in bed or some variation of it O.o

HAHAHA, yeah, me too.
i actually am the first one to guide him there. *whistles*.

i am a horny dog, such luck i have a SO.

[rsvpnj]

Not me... we usually spend the week before a visit talking about all the sexual things we are going to do when we are together... for the past few days our texts, emails, and phone calls have been pretty hot and heavy... I fly to see him in 3 days. It really helps to build the sexual tension and excitement in our relationship.

[Moon]

Actually, I think I'd be more offended if he didn't act like that, after all the months between visits!

[milaya]

That is actually one the things I look very much forward to.
When we're finally together again after time apart,... certain things can't happen soon enough XD