Do you often fantasise about a future with your SO?

[Haley53]

So...

Went shopping at Target earlier and was daydreaming about how when my partner is out here on a Work Visa (we're thinking 2014), we may be looking at sharing an apartment together, leading to me fantasising about shopping with him at Target to fill up our apartment with necessities and furnishings we'll only hope to afford. :P Of course there ended up being a wee one in the check-out line - couldn't have been more than 2-3 months old! - which in turn led me to thinking about motherhood and deciding whether to know if it's a girl or a boy and decorating the baby's room and picking out cute little clothes and tiny little shoes (xD) and celebrating first birthdays and every birthday after that... And this isn't to touch on how much time I've spent looking through engagement rings and wedding bands and wedding dresses, and the time I've spent looking at blogs or sites every time a single link is posted on one forum or another.

The thing is that this isn't planned to happen until around 2016/2017, and maybe not even then. That's about when we'd be looking to close the distance, and we would need to get married within 90 days of his obtaining the Visa (this may or may not mean a postponed ceremony in relation to the actual marriage/union). And children are unlikely to be happening until I'm at least 30!, which is when I hope to be out of school and somewhat settled into a career. But sometimes I can't help thinking and planning these things and sharing such thoughts and ideas with my boyfriend. :P He's often more than happy to oblige in discussing these things with me, but I can't help feeling like such a complete and total girl; despite the fact he considers it adorable, I absolutely detest it, in part because I hate being so stereotypically female and in part because I hate the fact I want a future this bloody badly. xD

Does anyone else do this too?

[JennyRW]

My fantasies are about us already married and with kids hehehe

[Ms.Justine]

While my SO is away I cleaned his entire house for him from top to bottom 10 hours work lol...And i took the liberty of buying him some necessities such as towels (he is a bachelor and therefore had like 2 towels & i appreciate and require a clean towel after every shower), some candles for his bathroom and living room (the place was beginning to smell stale) and pump action hand soap cause nobody likes using the dirty bar soap with the hair left on it. All of course making sure it was okay with him...but I got kind of excited thinking about furnishing my own place one day, or if we ever did move in together decorating a space...It's a nice feeling c:

[11MikesGirl21]

We started out CD, but the fantasies and conversations about the future started almost immediately, for us both.

[kiara_silver]

Heh i so do this. Today example was out shopping with my nana, and i walked off on my own to the kitchen stuff, and i was in my own fantasy world. Imagining Nathan there with me, and we were picking out kitchen supplies, which led me to daydream living together, waking up and making breakfast. I day dream like this all the time, sad to admit i do this maybe to much.... I do it alot lol... I'll be sitting on the couch ignoring the tv, with thoughts imagining him on the couch with me, but not just him but our baby... lol and yeah i've sat and looked through tons of wedding sites, which i've actually showed him things from. Fortunately none of this scares him. He knows I don't mind waiting for him and im not rushing, but he's just as eager as i am to start our life together.

[Madge]

I do this all the time! Even more so when I am with my SO

I imagine about our wedding day (coming up soon!) our kids and furnishing our own little place.

End of next year can't come soon enough!

[Rosebud]

Funny you should mention this. I've ALWAYS fantasized about my wedding, even before I met my boyfriend-now that he's here I fantasize about twice as much, and I adore looking through wedding gowns and cakes the absolute most. For some reason I don't look at rings all that much, which is weird cause I know it's very important to me to have one that truly represents our relationship...maybe because that's something I really want us to do together or maybe it just I simply don't wear rings all that often.

But on a more immediate basis, last night I actually went on this really weird frenzy, looking up apartments that we could move into, price ranges, which accept pets (he knows I won't move anywhere that doesn't accept pets), where I can transfer from my job, making sure it's all within range of his school, etc. This isn't entirely out of the blue as we have discussed my moving in with him in early 2013, but I do think it's a taaad bit early to be scoping these place out just yet. But I work at TJ Maxx which sells everything from home furniture to kitchen supplies so pretty much every time I go in to work I find something that gets my mind reeling about how much I really want to make and decorate a home with him <3 As I have absolutely zero desire for children however I am at least safe from those fantasies, thankfully there are enough adorable children from my cousins for me to spoil with all the cute baby and toddler things!

[bluishskin]

Both of us fantasise about our future and we share with each other what we have in mind, though we know we have to wait for at least one year before those things could happen. We imagine our wedding day, how he would look like wearing traditional Indonesian wedding costume and I wearing traditional Persian wedding dress (we are planning to hold the wedding in both countries). We also imagine about how what kind of house we would live in, shopping for furnitures and appliances to put in our house, future baby names, beinga family with kids and many other things.
Sometimes when I fantasise I have to push the brakes a lil bit because I'm a bit afraid of becoming too much of a dreamer, realising that anything can happen and we never know what the future has in store for us. On the other hand, those dreams keep coming anyway. They do put a smile on my face, and my SO's.

[Engel]

Now we are going to get married and will start looking into buying a house, yes i am fantazising. about when the house will be ours, and i will have his family name, and when we will have kids. yes, i do.

[xo_Kayla]

I love fantasizing about the future. It gives me hope and motivation to keep things going strong! Plus, it's so fun.

[milaya]

My SO kinda force that on me XD Especially after we got married.
He's a planner and he likes to think/plan ahead. So he'll often ask questions such as:
- Where do you want to live in Japan? Big city? Small city?
- How big do you think our house should be? What kind of kitchen do you like? Do you think we should have a Japanese style room? What kind of entrance do you like?
- Should we have one car or two? What kind of car would be good?

He also like to ask about how I would like to raise our kids (Our countries has very different views on a lot of things regarding that).

Think my personal fantasies are more limited to, how it'll be to have our first child, what we should name our children. (well if it's girls that's pretty much decided). And then I like to think that we'll have a nice extra room, my mother or/and friends can use when/if they come to visit. (well pretty sure my Japan-loving friends are ready to come, especially since hotels are normally the most expensive thing about traveling).

[Rosebud]

Shoot, this thread has inspired me to start looking at engagement rings...eek! Maybe a nice, cheaper promise ring will do for now...

[Mara]

Maybe I'm a bit of an oddball, but I fantasized a lot about this stuff when I was younger and it was further away. Now that we are actually getting to the point in our lives where these things will be happening in the next few years [getting married, potentially starting a family, getting our first place together] I don't really fantasize about them anymore. It seems terribly odd to me now that one day probably not too far in the future I am going to be someone's wife and mother.

[kat4301]

Yes, I do this all the time, even when we had longer to go LDR. At 7 months away I guess planning can begin. We don't know where we are going to be living next year so I have picked out apartments in lots of potential places. Since we used to live together I fantasize about silly things of ours that he has, like half of our dish set, the dishes will be reunited, haha. I fantasize about having someone in the car with me when I go places, I am so sick of driving alone. One of the biggest scenes I play out in my head is packing up my apartment. I remember how much I was crying when I first had to unpack my stuff in a new apartment, new city all by myself.
And of course, despite vaccinations ( haha), I caught the wedding bug. So I think what it will be like, when, where, who, the whole shebang. How it will be symbolizing the end of the this crazy LDR.

[CanadianGirl]

Are you kidding? I've caught myself having imaginary conversations with our imaginary children. Partial to Max for a boy, girl names are undecided and I definitely know what kind of puppy we should have (beagle!). And I keep trying to figure out what configuration of last names works for me. Or thinking about what scientific project we could collaborate on so we could write a husband/wife research article..uh, yeah. Couldn't even think past my school years before I met him, to be honest.

He's the one that planted this seed in my head, I should point out. He has no qualms bringing up the future and asks me questions all the time (ex. If we got married..., If we ever had kids...). So I know he has this habit just as much as I do, but I wonder if his fantasies are just as embarrassing..