I've been thinking about starting this thread for a few days, and the Dr. Phil thread make me decide to go for it.
For the last year, I was a regular on a relationship forum that seemed pretty cool. I met some great people, and made some friends.
Then I began to see the obvious bias against LDRs. Anyone in a LDR was told they should "find someone local".
There was even a Long-Distance Relationship sub-forum...and no matter what anyone posted, it was inevitable to find numerous people simply saying, "LDRs suck" and "you should find someone local".
Any time any of us in an LDR posted an issue we were having with our SO, there was the flood of people who basically said that the ONLY reason for our problems was that we were long distance, and that we NEEDED to find someone local.
I used to respond with, "Really? If finding someone local is the magical answer, then why is it that 99.9% of the people posting in the Breaking Up and Infidelity forums are in local relationships?" I never got an answer, of course...but the very next thread stating a problem in a long-distance relationship, there they would be, repeating the same mantra.
In fact, several of us had a joke that we could create a thread about how WONDERFUL our LDR was, how s/he was the PERFECT SO: Wealthy, handsome/beautiful, kind, caring, loving, giving, compassionate, and generous...and there would still be people who would say, "That's all well and good, but you NEED to find a local relationship!"
Anyhow...some of you must have surely encountered the resistance some seem to have against LDRs...how do you handle it?
For the last year, I was a regular on a relationship forum that seemed pretty cool. I met some great people, and made some friends.
Then I began to see the obvious bias against LDRs. Anyone in a LDR was told they should "find someone local".
There was even a Long-Distance Relationship sub-forum...and no matter what anyone posted, it was inevitable to find numerous people simply saying, "LDRs suck" and "you should find someone local".
Any time any of us in an LDR posted an issue we were having with our SO, there was the flood of people who basically said that the ONLY reason for our problems was that we were long distance, and that we NEEDED to find someone local.
I used to respond with, "Really? If finding someone local is the magical answer, then why is it that 99.9% of the people posting in the Breaking Up and Infidelity forums are in local relationships?" I never got an answer, of course...but the very next thread stating a problem in a long-distance relationship, there they would be, repeating the same mantra.
In fact, several of us had a joke that we could create a thread about how WONDERFUL our LDR was, how s/he was the PERFECT SO: Wealthy, handsome/beautiful, kind, caring, loving, giving, compassionate, and generous...and there would still be people who would say, "That's all well and good, but you NEED to find a local relationship!"
Anyhow...some of you must have surely encountered the resistance some seem to have against LDRs...how do you handle it?
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