Positives of Your LDR

[lucybelle]

Well I'm CD now, but I think I appreciate every moment with him now. Maybe I wouldn't have if we started CD.

But my favorite thing is being from 2 different cultures. I learn something every single day. I love it.

[Kerry]

since we have to get to know each other over the phone and online we've grown so close in a ton of different ways. and how we've done this is talking... I mean REALLY talking. not just about surface stuff. I was with my ex-bf for a year and we lived 20 minutes apart and we never got anywhere as close as myself and my current bf.

[Rugger]

Perks of an LDR
- I get to have my own life without worrying about balancing my time
- I can get away with not shaving !
- We have plenty of things to talk about
- Every time we see each other is special


When we finally get together, our relationship will be indefinably stronger than most CDRs.

[Haley53]

Haha, I like Rugger's "I can get away with not shaving!" So true.

I'm not entirely sure. I want to say that it has allowed us to achieve a deeper level of emotional and mental connection, but I attribute some of that to the fact that we were friends first with no idea that we would ever end up in a relationship. :P The feelings were there, but the timing wasn't right (at the time), and that allowed us to develop a friendship which in my opinion is more of what contributed than the distance. That said, I do feel the distance has helped aid us in communicating effectively, and overall, friendship included, allowed us to open up more to one another in the beginning, simply because anonymity is comforting in ways. I also like the independence of it. I've always believed in that living separate lives allows for a stronger life together, and I feel that being long-distance makes it somewhat easier.

[Eric1221]

The positives of my LDR would have to be:

I'm growing emotionally stronger because he physically cannot always be there for me and I'm forcing myself to be stronger and press on through the day.

Another thing is the fact that we both can grow on our own while knowing we still have each others support through it all. It's nice to be able to pursue your own goals and ambitions.

We both are going through school right now trying to get our stuff together so than we will be able to be together in the future. I think another nice thing about all Long Distance Relationships is the fact that if your truly serious about that other person-you have a light at the end of the tunnel. You know that your doing what your doing for yourself and also to be with them in the future.

[liv4cause]

So far I must say that having an LDR has helped us more than it has been a problem.
We started to talk through Facebook first, then emails, then skype, then skype with video. We made it a point to be completely honest from the start. It was a breath of fresh air really because here is finally someone who has no preconceptions about you what so ever. A blank canvas. And what we have planted on it is truth, honesty and trust. We met 4 months later and found that we were so comfortable together, like we had known each other for years. Now I am back in Australia, he is in Egypt.. so we try and keep our relationship stable by really working on the foundation, making sure that trust and honest always come first. It has forced us to become more sensitive to each other in manners of speaking, being able to tell each others mood through texts, reading each others faces through webcam.. It all had the effect that being together for real finally was so easy and so smooth that we really appreciate our time together. You learn to savour every moment. It teaches us patience, to swallow our pride, to apologise, to be honest at all times.. sooo many benefits that I think will make our relationship so much stronger.

[Jgui]

I've always had CDR and it does have many perks, such as seeing more often and so accessible.

This is my 1st LDR and it's made me so much more independent. I have my own time to pursue my dreams and spend time with friends and family. Every time we see each other feels like the 1st time all over again. Yes, it sucks waiting for each visit to arrive but when that day arrives i have nothing but good feelings. It gives us both time to breath from the relationship.

[Shadowbear]

I think the positive side of being in a LDR was the getting to know each other before meeting.. having to rely on words to describe every thing , from the likes and dislikes, to who we really are inside. It gives a better understanding of the person andyou fall in love with them before meeting so there isnt much awkwardness involved. When my SO finally come here The emotion was raw. I had a perfect 2 weeks. Nothing could make it go wrong. I cherished his time and spent 90 percent of my day with him. I think it made me appreciate the time and love first which it may not have been if we were CD .

[rusty15]

Positives :Time to myself to do homework, watch all my TV shows, and hang out with friends!

[CynicalQuixotic]

This is very specific, but being long distance has done wonders for the way JP and I resolve conflicts. We're both somewhat emotionally reactive people--he tends towards anger, I tend towards feeling guilty and self-blame and trying to appease--and not being physically together has allowed us to not automatically feed off of the other's emotional response, but to step back, assess the situation, and talk about it, usually to overwhelmingly positive results. (Though both of us are fairly proficient in the other's language, with his English admittedly being better than my French, there are many more misunderstandings that I had thought there would be initially). This, I think, will make things infinitely more harmonious when we close the distance.

[lademoiselle]

For us, I'd say the most positive thing about being LD is that the space has allowed us to continue to grow and develop as separate people. We're both quite strong-minded and autonomous and I think we've benefitted a lot from having the chance to live apart at the same time as building a strong relationship together (albeit from across the miles!). Of course we'd like to stay with one another forever, but I believe if we'd started out CD that dream would have far less of a possibility of being realised; years down the line we probably would've ended up feeling we'd settled down too soon. During these years at a distance we can still have experiences independent of one another and that's something which I feel is vital for us both as individuals and as a couple.

[dglynn77]

deeper emotional and mental connection, knowing that he's willing to stick out this insane relationship just for me.

Well said!