I found out earlier tonight that my SO had a gun put to his head and was robbed of everything on him.
As I've posted before, my SO lives in Nicaragua and I live in the US. We have super limited communication b/c he does not have access to internet and thus send messages to each other on facebook and that's it. We hadn't spoke in 6 weeks b/c he dropped his cell phone in water leaving the mic useless. My SO recently got a new cell and we spoke for the first time in 6 weeks on Wednesday. He promised me now we would have better communication from this point on and I really believed things would improve. He told me I could now call him whenever I want. Yesterday, I called him and the phone just rang and rang. At first, I thought maybe he wasn't hearing the calls (he mentioned the volume on his new phone was a lot lower). But then after trying about 10 more times throughout the day, I realized there is no way he would miss so many calls from me. I remained worried all last night and all day today and thought of all the worst case scenarios. A few hours ago I receive a message from him on FB saying he was robbed at gunpoint just a day after we spoke. My SO doesn't go out a lot, but what he does love to do is play pool, and spends a lot of time at the pool hall right up the street from his house. Well, this is where he and his friends were robbed by a group of 4 men brandishing guns who entered the pool hall and left with the belongings of everyone there, including the owner. My SO was robbed of his cell, his wallet, his clothes and his shoes.
I know I should be happy that my SO is okay (and I am), but I am so distraught over this. I feel empty inside and began crying when I first read his message. I don't know how I will not worry that this won't happen again. It doesn't help that he lives in a very poor, rural area of Nicaragua that actually doesn't even have a police force (there is no money supplied by the gov't for this). There is instead, a volunteer police force made up of about 3 men who sadly don't do a whole lot. I lived in my SO's town for over a year and a half so I know how it is. The fact is there is a lot of very violent crime that is left to go on. During my time there, one of the students in the local high school was actually killed in a machete attack b/c his brother was affiliated w/a rival gang. Knowing these things happen really scares me b/c my worst fear is that my SO will be a victim of a crime. And I seriously don't know what I would do without him.
Our closing the distance plan from day 1 has been me moving there to be w/him and his family. Now, I don't know what to think. I can't talk to my family about this b/c my Mom already thinks I am crazy for even wanting to move there.
And we're back to no communication yet again b/c now he has no cell. He was messaging me from a friend's phone...I just feel so defeated inside. I just want to be able to talk to my SO and not have to constantly worry about his safety. Why is that so hard?
As I've posted before, my SO lives in Nicaragua and I live in the US. We have super limited communication b/c he does not have access to internet and thus send messages to each other on facebook and that's it. We hadn't spoke in 6 weeks b/c he dropped his cell phone in water leaving the mic useless. My SO recently got a new cell and we spoke for the first time in 6 weeks on Wednesday. He promised me now we would have better communication from this point on and I really believed things would improve. He told me I could now call him whenever I want. Yesterday, I called him and the phone just rang and rang. At first, I thought maybe he wasn't hearing the calls (he mentioned the volume on his new phone was a lot lower). But then after trying about 10 more times throughout the day, I realized there is no way he would miss so many calls from me. I remained worried all last night and all day today and thought of all the worst case scenarios. A few hours ago I receive a message from him on FB saying he was robbed at gunpoint just a day after we spoke. My SO doesn't go out a lot, but what he does love to do is play pool, and spends a lot of time at the pool hall right up the street from his house. Well, this is where he and his friends were robbed by a group of 4 men brandishing guns who entered the pool hall and left with the belongings of everyone there, including the owner. My SO was robbed of his cell, his wallet, his clothes and his shoes.
I know I should be happy that my SO is okay (and I am), but I am so distraught over this. I feel empty inside and began crying when I first read his message. I don't know how I will not worry that this won't happen again. It doesn't help that he lives in a very poor, rural area of Nicaragua that actually doesn't even have a police force (there is no money supplied by the gov't for this). There is instead, a volunteer police force made up of about 3 men who sadly don't do a whole lot. I lived in my SO's town for over a year and a half so I know how it is. The fact is there is a lot of very violent crime that is left to go on. During my time there, one of the students in the local high school was actually killed in a machete attack b/c his brother was affiliated w/a rival gang. Knowing these things happen really scares me b/c my worst fear is that my SO will be a victim of a crime. And I seriously don't know what I would do without him.
Our closing the distance plan from day 1 has been me moving there to be w/him and his family. Now, I don't know what to think. I can't talk to my family about this b/c my Mom already thinks I am crazy for even wanting to move there.
And we're back to no communication yet again b/c now he has no cell. He was messaging me from a friend's phone...I just feel so defeated inside. I just want to be able to talk to my SO and not have to constantly worry about his safety. Why is that so hard?
Things like that happen in America too. Bad things happen everywhere, so just be careful when you close the distance.
My boyfriend has been robbed twice in the time that I've been with him. One time he was ganged up on and the other he was asleep and they took his phone from his bag. When he was approached the first time, they took his wallet from him, including the only color picture he had of his dad. He was so, so upset and I felt just awful. The second time he had gotten a really nice phone as a replacement and I was really enjoying the decent cam it had... up until it was stolen. I had to convince him not to buy another expensive phone in case it happened again. Now I'm always afraid that it will happen again if he falls asleep on the bus.
). Shit happens, but all you can do is continue to be as safe and as alert as possible. I highly suggest you look into another city. Or maybe in Honduras or El Salvador. It might be easy for him to go there since they have that shared visa thing.
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