Well first off my SO and I have been down this road a lot.
I have a habit of being needy without realizing it.
-I talk about myself and vent to him all the time, even when he isnt in a good mood
- When he wants to get off the phone I find myself begging him to stay on, or trying to find something else to talk about.
- I say " I love you " way to much to the point for us its just become an everyday saying or word for us.
We have had tons of talks about this, and had this problem like four or five times.
Last night he gave me an ultimatum get better with it or he is gone,
He said he wont leave me if he knows I'm trying.
The thing is ( and I'm not defending my needy/clingyness. ) I have a lot of errors in my thinking,
Most the time I feel useless, unwanted/needed, stupid, I feel like I cause my SO more hurt than good, like I always make him angry and like he'd be better off without me.
I deal with depression and yes I'm on medication they help keep me emotionally stable.
I know these thoughts are errors but I'm not sure how to change them.
Robert suggested I go to the library and find some good relationship self help books so I'm going to do that soon.
Please note he isnt attacking me on the matter, we've just had the same issue over and over and he's tired of it.
What I'm asking here is how can I break the habits? I have a hard time catching myself when I do something I'm used to doing that I need to change. How can I catch myself on it.?
I have a habit of being needy without realizing it.
-I talk about myself and vent to him all the time, even when he isnt in a good mood
- When he wants to get off the phone I find myself begging him to stay on, or trying to find something else to talk about.
- I say " I love you " way to much to the point for us its just become an everyday saying or word for us.
We have had tons of talks about this, and had this problem like four or five times.
Last night he gave me an ultimatum get better with it or he is gone,
He said he wont leave me if he knows I'm trying.
The thing is ( and I'm not defending my needy/clingyness. ) I have a lot of errors in my thinking,
Most the time I feel useless, unwanted/needed, stupid, I feel like I cause my SO more hurt than good, like I always make him angry and like he'd be better off without me.
I deal with depression and yes I'm on medication they help keep me emotionally stable.
I know these thoughts are errors but I'm not sure how to change them.
Robert suggested I go to the library and find some good relationship self help books so I'm going to do that soon.
Please note he isnt attacking me on the matter, we've just had the same issue over and over and he's tired of it.
What I'm asking here is how can I break the habits? I have a hard time catching myself when I do something I'm used to doing that I need to change. How can I catch myself on it.?
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