Hello everyone,
Ok, to the point, this is going to be too long anyway
I met this guy three years ago; we were in the same group of friends in Uni, and we really connected very quickly, in a friendly, not-at-all-romantic kind of way. OK, being honest, I thought he was extremely cute and I fancied him, but I was trying really hard to work on a relationship at the time and regarded him as "that friend you have a small crush on but will never do anything about it".
So, I was seeing someone (on an off) and I liked my friend. Never did anything about it, because I wanted things to work with the other guy, but we had a couple of nights in which we ended up sharing some innocent kisses in the pub. (I know, I felt terrible) and one night when we were the only ones awake at a slumber party and we had to stop ourselves from going too far.
Anyway, although I had a hard time thinking how it was possible that I could like two guys at the same time, I ended up going for the on and off boyfriend, who became my steady boyfriend some time after that. Fast forwarding, I moved to London from Spain, and after two years, one of them of LDR, my boyfriend broke up with me.
Since then, I thought a lot about the first guy, thinking that maybe I had made the wrong choice, specially because we are still good friends and I still fancied him after all this time. So one day, a couple of months ago, out of the blue, I told him via FB. It was a "not-so-innocent" message saying "If I regret something, that something is not giving us a shot when we were in Uni together". And then magic happened and he answered me that he felt the same way.
We have been messaging, chatting, sending each other stupid jokes, and talking almost every day since. We ended up deciding that we wanted to see each other again.
He has visited this weekend and only left some hours ago back to Spain. We had the most amazing weekend, but it was not what you would call "100% romantic". It was more of a friends who really fancy each other but still annoy each other with friendly jokes, and play around and behave like teenagers (we are both 25) and at night we share a bed and feel extremely awkward but end up sleeping together (as in having sex), and it feels right.
So, my question is, are we starting something? is it just a "friends who play a game" kind of situation? as I said, it is not overly romantic, although it is physical, kisses and sex, but not romantic kissing randomly in the street, and there is also a holding hands while watching tv kind of situation.Is this how a LDR may start? Is it mixed signals, or am I just overthinking it?
And if you have read the whole story, than you, if only for that! Would love to see what everybody thinks!
Joey
Ok, to the point, this is going to be too long anyway
I met this guy three years ago; we were in the same group of friends in Uni, and we really connected very quickly, in a friendly, not-at-all-romantic kind of way. OK, being honest, I thought he was extremely cute and I fancied him, but I was trying really hard to work on a relationship at the time and regarded him as "that friend you have a small crush on but will never do anything about it".
So, I was seeing someone (on an off) and I liked my friend. Never did anything about it, because I wanted things to work with the other guy, but we had a couple of nights in which we ended up sharing some innocent kisses in the pub. (I know, I felt terrible) and one night when we were the only ones awake at a slumber party and we had to stop ourselves from going too far.
Anyway, although I had a hard time thinking how it was possible that I could like two guys at the same time, I ended up going for the on and off boyfriend, who became my steady boyfriend some time after that. Fast forwarding, I moved to London from Spain, and after two years, one of them of LDR, my boyfriend broke up with me.
Since then, I thought a lot about the first guy, thinking that maybe I had made the wrong choice, specially because we are still good friends and I still fancied him after all this time. So one day, a couple of months ago, out of the blue, I told him via FB. It was a "not-so-innocent" message saying "If I regret something, that something is not giving us a shot when we were in Uni together". And then magic happened and he answered me that he felt the same way.
We have been messaging, chatting, sending each other stupid jokes, and talking almost every day since. We ended up deciding that we wanted to see each other again.
He has visited this weekend and only left some hours ago back to Spain. We had the most amazing weekend, but it was not what you would call "100% romantic". It was more of a friends who really fancy each other but still annoy each other with friendly jokes, and play around and behave like teenagers (we are both 25) and at night we share a bed and feel extremely awkward but end up sleeping together (as in having sex), and it feels right.
So, my question is, are we starting something? is it just a "friends who play a game" kind of situation? as I said, it is not overly romantic, although it is physical, kisses and sex, but not romantic kissing randomly in the street, and there is also a holding hands while watching tv kind of situation.Is this how a LDR may start? Is it mixed signals, or am I just overthinking it?
And if you have read the whole story, than you, if only for that! Would love to see what everybody thinks!
Joey
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