Well first of all I think just because you haven't met in person doesn't mean your feelings are just "internet feelings" and don't translate into real life - that's my opinion on this.
I have met my fiancé online and from day 1 we declared that this is a real relationship, not just an online thing, so when we met 10 months later it just felt natural. We both didn't have huge expectations on how things would turn out and just seeing each other after spending so much time together felt right (and MAN is this guy SEXY in real life!!!).
I agree with digitalfever that he is not really a realist, I think it's rather him being an optimist disguised as a pessimist - it seems to me he is scared! He wants to be with you and likes you over the internet, he has seen you (right?) and spent time with you and is scared that it would be different in real life, and expects the worst so when it happens he's not devastated, but he hopes it wouldn't happen and you two will be the same happy couple.
Yes, sometimes there is no spark and it could happen, it could also be that you two fall madly in love with each other upon seeing each other, but if you keep telling yourself it might and could and will happen.. you're setting yourself up for a self-fullfilling prophecy - "see, I told you we wouldn't feel the spark".
I have met my fiancé online and from day 1 we declared that this is a real relationship, not just an online thing, so when we met 10 months later it just felt natural. We both didn't have huge expectations on how things would turn out and just seeing each other after spending so much time together felt right (and MAN is this guy SEXY in real life!!!).
I agree with digitalfever that he is not really a realist, I think it's rather him being an optimist disguised as a pessimist - it seems to me he is scared! He wants to be with you and likes you over the internet, he has seen you (right?) and spent time with you and is scared that it would be different in real life, and expects the worst so when it happens he's not devastated, but he hopes it wouldn't happen and you two will be the same happy couple.
Yes, sometimes there is no spark and it could happen, it could also be that you two fall madly in love with each other upon seeing each other, but if you keep telling yourself it might and could and will happen.. you're setting yourself up for a self-fullfilling prophecy - "see, I told you we wouldn't feel the spark".
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