BACK STORY
So me and my SO "Stephen" added each other in July 2011 on Facebook because we were both fan's of the late Michael Jackson, but I can't really remember who added who first, but anyway he then waited till April 2012 at to send me a message saying "Hiii " and that was the first ever message he sent me and I still remember our conversations like it was just yesterday. We found out a lot about each other and just enjoyed chatting to each other on Facebook. I then found myself not going on Facebook as much as I use to, mostly to do with what happened in October of that same year. I fell depressed and considered suicide, I got bullied at school so I didn't show up at school for weeks and just locked myself in my room and cried, sometimes not eating for days. I was lonely and didn't have much friends to turn to so I kept to myself until I went back on Facebook ... I got talking again with Stephen and he told me that he missed me which made me feel so wanted and special. One thing lead to another and after a few days of talking again on December 3, 2012 he confessed that he loved me and we then made it official the next day. On Christmas he sent me a cute Christmas card and on that day we also saw each other for the first time on video chat after only seeing each other over YouTube videos we sent to each other. New Years was the second time we video chatted and we talked, played games, and had a laugh from my New Years to his as he is 6 hours behind me in St. Louis, Missouri, US. In the year 2013 things started to become tough for us and at one point in March of that year, I totally gave up on us, but after I did, I couldn't stop thinking about him and I knew right then when he was gone that I couldn't stop thinking about him and I knew right then when he was gone that I couldn't live my life without him and my feelings for him just became stronger. Then something devastating happened to me on the week starting April 8, 2013 where I attempted to take my own life. I was admitted to hospital and diagnosed with depression that had been long standing in my life. I knew I suffered from anxiety because I had panic attacks at night from the age of 11. My best friend from since we were 4 when we met at church (our family especially our mothers and grandparents was always close), augured with me for the first time. She told me that she hated Stephen because of his age, he's 8 years older then me, and told me all sorts of stuff that I could never imagine her saying. She told me what I have with Stephen is not love, when at the start of our relationship she supported me. In March she was actually the reason me and Stephen broke it off, but I totally regret, even now, listening to her. These events really took a strain on our relationship and even though Stephen found it hard to trust me again, he stood by me through it all and it just made us stronger. So in June I sent him a emotional and passionate letter with a picture of me and a drawing I did of me and him together. Which in turn slowly gained me his trust back as I proved to him how much he really means to me and how much I love him. I filled that letter with so much love and passion that he felt it and forgave me for all the wrong I did him. In that same month I made my first phone call to him which he loved hearing my voice. My family (my Mom, my brothers, my sister, and my Dad) were always concerned about my relationship online with Stephen considering his age, but have never pulled out all stops to break us up like my best friend, who is more like a sister, has been doing. I have been in a relationship with Stephen for 8 months and 17 days and he has done nothing but made me happy we have even talked about the future together and she is still trying to tell me we are wrong for each other and our relationship is sick and unhealthy. I don't know what to do, I'm torn between my best friend and my boyfriend. I'm really confused, but without them both in my world I would feel incomplete.
I don't know what to do and I really need some advice. Should I really have to choose between my best friend and my future?
So me and my SO "Stephen" added each other in July 2011 on Facebook because we were both fan's of the late Michael Jackson, but I can't really remember who added who first, but anyway he then waited till April 2012 at to send me a message saying "Hiii " and that was the first ever message he sent me and I still remember our conversations like it was just yesterday. We found out a lot about each other and just enjoyed chatting to each other on Facebook. I then found myself not going on Facebook as much as I use to, mostly to do with what happened in October of that same year. I fell depressed and considered suicide, I got bullied at school so I didn't show up at school for weeks and just locked myself in my room and cried, sometimes not eating for days. I was lonely and didn't have much friends to turn to so I kept to myself until I went back on Facebook ... I got talking again with Stephen and he told me that he missed me which made me feel so wanted and special. One thing lead to another and after a few days of talking again on December 3, 2012 he confessed that he loved me and we then made it official the next day. On Christmas he sent me a cute Christmas card and on that day we also saw each other for the first time on video chat after only seeing each other over YouTube videos we sent to each other. New Years was the second time we video chatted and we talked, played games, and had a laugh from my New Years to his as he is 6 hours behind me in St. Louis, Missouri, US. In the year 2013 things started to become tough for us and at one point in March of that year, I totally gave up on us, but after I did, I couldn't stop thinking about him and I knew right then when he was gone that I couldn't stop thinking about him and I knew right then when he was gone that I couldn't live my life without him and my feelings for him just became stronger. Then something devastating happened to me on the week starting April 8, 2013 where I attempted to take my own life. I was admitted to hospital and diagnosed with depression that had been long standing in my life. I knew I suffered from anxiety because I had panic attacks at night from the age of 11. My best friend from since we were 4 when we met at church (our family especially our mothers and grandparents was always close), augured with me for the first time. She told me that she hated Stephen because of his age, he's 8 years older then me, and told me all sorts of stuff that I could never imagine her saying. She told me what I have with Stephen is not love, when at the start of our relationship she supported me. In March she was actually the reason me and Stephen broke it off, but I totally regret, even now, listening to her. These events really took a strain on our relationship and even though Stephen found it hard to trust me again, he stood by me through it all and it just made us stronger. So in June I sent him a emotional and passionate letter with a picture of me and a drawing I did of me and him together. Which in turn slowly gained me his trust back as I proved to him how much he really means to me and how much I love him. I filled that letter with so much love and passion that he felt it and forgave me for all the wrong I did him. In that same month I made my first phone call to him which he loved hearing my voice. My family (my Mom, my brothers, my sister, and my Dad) were always concerned about my relationship online with Stephen considering his age, but have never pulled out all stops to break us up like my best friend, who is more like a sister, has been doing. I have been in a relationship with Stephen for 8 months and 17 days and he has done nothing but made me happy we have even talked about the future together and she is still trying to tell me we are wrong for each other and our relationship is sick and unhealthy. I don't know what to do, I'm torn between my best friend and my boyfriend. I'm really confused, but without them both in my world I would feel incomplete.
I don't know what to do and I really need some advice. Should I really have to choose between my best friend and my future?
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