So he broke up with me... </3

[differentcountries]

well, lesson learned. not to mention I just discovered how he had a whole new fb profile for a year and blocked me there when I didnt even know about it, makes me wonder what else more was a lie.

well, isn't it nice he is not your boyfriend now and you don't have to worry about what he is doing anymore. Try to remember some of what you had felt good, that happened too. Whatever he is doing is his business now. And you don't have to answer to him over anything, you can be as goofy as you want, and sexual beyond him too.

[innocentbutterfly]

My bad, I wasn't trying to say that every man who comes from that culture is like this one. I was just saying that there were certain aspects of the culture through him she obviously didn't agree with. And time after time she seemed blind to it.

As you can see culture wasn't problem for me. His mentality for it was. Because he takes it way differently than he should.

@ differentcountries
yes, though I wonder now because of that aside profile he had, the why's, but anyway. I dont think I'd find anything new so I just let it go for now. Yes, what he is doing is his business, but I feel kind of entitled to know why having this profile for a whole year hidden from me, as that was during our relationship. However, yes, he keeps contacting me a few days apart saying if I found any new guy for sex chat. I dont know who he thinks I am, but obviously he's imagining all the bad now. He said if I find and I'm happy it'll make him happy. WTF? Is he trying to justify what he did to me by that making himself feel less guilty? He told me about his friend finding me online and he asked me if I found, like it's any of his business, Of course I wasn't direct with the answer so he can think what he wants. But weird everytime he contacts me he seems to talk about how good our sex was and about me finding other men, if I found any. I don't know what he expects from me. If I said I could try friendship that wasn't meant in it. When I said if he misses it and that it's normal process he went all attacking me in a way that he didn't say that and obviously he cant as he's finished. I seriously don't get this guy.

[differentcountries]

Seriously, you can not get this guy. I know you want answers, but like Alanis Morisette says in one of her songs ; you cannot go to the dungon to make peace with your days in the dungon. He is acting like he is your weird boyfriend still. My ex was always asking about my sex life too, and meddeling with my dating, and everything else . Like I said, people behave strange at break ups. You just cannot keep in contact with him as long as he behaves like this. If there is a possability for future friendship between you, this is not the time to explore that. He will not give you any answers because he does not know them himself.

[Moon]

You aren't entitled to anything, you were just a girlfriend, not a wife. Once again, everyone is telling you to cut contact and let it go, and once again you're ignoring everyone's advice. He can only speak to you about sex with others if YOU LET HIM. C'mon, what's it going to take for you to walk away from this? Have a little dignity and respect for yourself, and cut the contact.

[Malaga]

I seriously don't get this guy.

He's an asshole. That's all there is to get. I get that you're scrambling for answers and you need closure, but seriously, sometimes there are no answers no matter how much you prompt for them. There will just be more hurt and confusion, but nothing will be clearer. You won't knock sense into him, he won't change and see the light. The best closure you'll get is to go no contact with him, just forget about this guy and move on with your life. Block him from all your profiles, delete any of the emails he sends. Do it right now and never look back.

[innocentbutterfly]

Seriously, you can not get this guy. I know you want answers, but like Alanis Morisette says in one of her songs ; you cannot go to the dungon to make peace with your days in the dungon. He is acting like he is your weird boyfriend still. My ex was always asking about my sex life too, and meddeling with my dating, and everything else . Like I said, people behave strange at break ups. You just cannot keep in contact with him as long as he behaves like this. If there is a possability for future friendship between you, this is not the time to explore that. He will not give you any answers because he does not know them himself.

I get that, just if they dump us why still be interested in our sex and love life. Like you left what you could have, why now ask about it. And you are right, he doesnt know himself, he never knew what he wants.

You aren't entitled to anything, you were just a girlfriend, not a wife. Once again, everyone is telling you to cut contact and let it go, and once again you're ignoring everyone's advice. He can only speak to you about sex with others if YOU LET HIM. C'mon, what's it going to take for you to walk away from this? Have a little dignity and respect for yourself, and cut the contact.

maybe you think that, but if someone was my boyfriend he's entitled to answers during time that we were together, wife or girlfriend doesnt make a difference, its a relationship anyway. And as you saw 'm not trying anything, I wouldn't take him back, he will never change his mind it's only trying being friends,, but that is still not working so far, too early I think.

@ Malaga
as I said, I am just triyng to have friendship, he wasn't that bad in that. But regarding love and answer of course he won't change, he thinks whatever he decided and thinks is like rock hard 100% right.

[differentcountries]

I get that, just if they dump us why still be interested in our sex and love life. Like you left what you could have, why now ask about it.

Because people always want stuff they just left behind, like a child crying over the candy they forgot to eat.

[innocentbutterfly]

It's funny. They want it, but when you talk to them for actually getting it, becoming better they don't want, so basically it's not they want it really. They just like to think they want it. It makes me sick.

[Dezface]

It's funny. They want it, but when you talk to them for actually getting it, becoming better they don't want, so basically it's not they want it really. They just like to think they want it. It makes me sick.

You're his toy. He's amused by how he can fuck with you. He doesn't actually want or think he wants anything. How is that not clear?

[differentcountries]

It's funny. They want it, but when you talk to them for actually getting it, becoming better they don't want, so basically it's not they want it really. They just like to think they want it.

Yea well he is pretty silly. And you could find more interesting things to ponder about.

[Deleted]

innocentbutterfly, I know you're at that stage where you're confused and hurting, but it hurts all of us even more when you do these things. You need to listen to what we have to tell you. We're here to help, but if you don't listen to what we have to offer you, then nothing will get better...it's as simple as that. We can help you in this process, but there are steps you have to take.

[innocentbutterfly]

I know I have to. The thing is yes, it still hurts a bit, but not to the point I would want him back. I realized how bad he is. I tried friendship, but he is doing all else but that, just before he wrote me again from bed again writing as in wanting sex chat. I told him not to play with me and ask me if I don't want to remember or miss it, because it's not good for my heart. Then he went on saying that I talk about love again and said goodnight. He's indeed playing, but I'm not picking his games anymore. I just see how miserable he really is now.

[Deleted]

I hope you're not looking for friendship anymore. He doesn't deserve any sort of relationship with you. You shouldn't be talking to him for any reason. As we all said, delete him from everything. You know that he's playing with you...so why let him? Cut all contact.

[innocentbutterfly]

I'm letting him be. If he will become normal we can stay friends if not I'll just leave it until he stops writing alltogether. I dont know why in some way I feel bad for him, it looks he is sad and lonely now and masking it with sex chatting.

[LadyDaemon]

Look,the fact of the matter is that when couples break up and it's a bad break up,they can rarely ever stay friends. It's painfully obvious you can't be friends because he always wants to talk about sex with you and nose his way into your personal life,which is no longer his business. But you're feeding into it because when he bothers you with it,you respond to it. The thing is that it doesn't matter anymore why he's acting the way he's acting,it doesn't matter why he's talking to you about the things he's talking to you about and it doesn't matter that he's all obsessed with sex. It's not your concern anymore and the longer you stick around and feed into his crap,the longer this is going to continue. It's so very obvious on so many levels that he's doing it because he has one interest and one interest only,sexual activity from you. Nothing more. You can't fix him,you're not going to figure out why he's acting the way he does and to be honest,it doesn't matter anyway. He's going to act how he's going to act and it is what it is. The next step is to realize this and completely cut him off because he very obviously can't just be friends with you. The man is not broken and he doesn't need to be fixed and even if he did,you can't do it. He has to. But again,that's not for you to do. Also,trying to figure out why he had another fb profile and what he was doing with it in the middle of the relationship no longer matters. It's in the past and it's done. There's nothing that asking about it is going to give you. Realize that bottom line the guy has his issues and he's not interested in you for any other reason then sexual reasons and move on.