So he broke up with me... </3

[Moon]

His agenda is to be sexual with you online.

This, 100%

He is not interested in friendship, we keep telling you this, but you refuse to listen.

[innocentbutterfly]

well he is weird anyway. I dont know why cant we just be friends like normal people that end relationships, you know. At times it gets me to think that he didnt even get over me. I just dont understand it. Like he said, he can get girls online to be sexual with him, why cant he just forget our oh so hot fantasies and do it with them

[Photonut]

Tbh i think you like the attention or you would have cut contact by now <_<

[innocentbutterfly]

Attention? I wouldn't even call this attention. Its just him clicking when he's horny, I don't get anything from that. I just don't get him. Why doesn't he find other people to do it with and just talk normal with me. I don't care how much he remembers them, but he seems to think I still like it or something. And he even himself asked if that guy is my boyfriend and said to be happy and now he acts like that. I don't cut contact, because like I said, I wanted to keep him as friend, though I'm not clicking him for months already, because he has this behaviour and because I dont want to be unfair to the new guy, even though we aren't together yet

[Dezface]

When I'm getting nothing out of contact with someone, I stop talking to them. Simple. You can't be friends with him. He's using you for what he can get, he does not want to be your friend. He's also not still into you. Yes, he has sexual relations with other girls. But you know what he gets from yanking you around? Power. Here's this girl he treated like crap and dumped, and she's still willing to be his puppet. You'll probably never believe that but it's reality.

You really need to get over this. You're not painting yourself in a very good light. Please try to get some self respect.

[innocentbutterfly]

Well I did say I am not endorsing in his fantasies, yet he still tries to twist it saying these stuffs how he knows me and whatnot. I dont know, one day I'll just tell him straight to go somewhere, because as it seems, I cant befriend this one. It must be I expected too much that he could be just a friend.

[Lilly9886]

Just block and ignore him - it's as simple as that!

For the future, he is just going to "stand" in your way with any new guy you have! Why did you even tell him about this guy you are talking right now?

He is NOT your friend, and he will never be! Accept it and move on!

[differentcountries]

. I dont know why cant we just be friends like normal people that end relationships, you know.

Many people can't be friends after a relationships end! And you two seem to fall into that category.

[OperaDiva]

Why on earth would you want to be friends with a guy like this??? What can he possibly offer to enrich you and your experience?
Go back and read your threads. Imagine it was not you, but a very good friend of yours, lets call her Norma, telling you this story. Then imagine she told you "but I want to be friends with him". What would you tell her?

[NI_USA_love]

You can't be friends with him. He's using you for what he can get, he does not want to be your friend. He's also not still into you. Yes, he has sexual relations with other girls. But you know what he gets from yanking you around? Power. Here's this girl he treated like crap and dumped, and she's still willing to be his puppet.

The most sensible post in this thread right there. ^

[ethelynn]

Well I did say I am not endorsing in his fantasies, yet he still tries to twist it saying these stuffs how he knows me and whatnot.

You ARE endoring his fantasies by still answering to him. He is probably taking pleasure from your resistance. Why? Because even though he only talks like that, you still talk to him back. He feels the power over you.

Why on earth would you want to be friends with a guy like this??? What can he possibly offer to enrich you and your experience?

^this. If sex talk is all of your contact, why do you even want to be friends with him?

[AussieAmericanGirl66]

By hanging on to the hope that you might still be friends with him, you are not being fair to the new guy, who you implied is getting close to committing to a real LDR with you. You need to decide which and who you want. You can't have both.

[TwoThree]

it was long distance relationship. 2 years. we met online and met in real once for 10 days. It was great, love all around

He fucking slapped you on the face. So much for "love all around"

It doesn't seem like you are paying the least bit of attention to whatever people are telling you (and have been telling your for months, if not years) so let's try something else: He totally loves you. He can't get you out of his head, that's why he can't let you go. Clearly you guys are meant to be together.

There, happy?

[innocentbutterfly]

@Twothree, we aren't together anymore, so that doesn't matter anymore. There was still not all negative in that meeting. However, @ AussieAmericanGirl66 I was thinking about that, but its not like I would want my ex back. We did talk that with the new guy, he did imply I would have to cut contact with ex and well, I would if he wouldnt like it, its the right thing to do, no?

@ ethelynn
I was thinking that. But if he sees I try to be friendly why continue it. When I gave him some advice days before on changing himself a bit if he wants a successfull relationship he was rude, like I was being smart. Didn't even understand it as friendly advice, said I should mind my own business.

@Lilly9886 He found out after we had a talk after a month again after break up. I don't think its bad that he knows, but yeah I see he doesnt even care or something...

@ OperaDiva
I know what you mean. It's just I don't know, he wasnt all that bad before even as friend. I think I'm just still seeing good in him, but don't see that he changed 360.c

[ethelynn]

Yet you didn't answer the question. If the only thing he wants is sex talk, why do you continue talking to him? Any answer (friendly or not) seems to encourage him to continue talking to you like that.