About us:
My girlfriend and I met 9 months ago here in Texas, shes from Australia. She was down here as a tourist and I happened to bump into her, told her I would show her around, got her number and we hit it off, spending time together during her holiday for 2 weeks in Texas. After she left we kept it touch via skype, snapchat, and whatsapp speaking every day. About a week after returning home she broke down and told me she was currently in a marriage and they were planning to divorce (they were together for 5 years, 1 year of marriage), that she and him have been separated for about 1 month before we met. I told her I was fine, and that I really liked her and as long as she was done seeing him and going through with the divorce I would have no issues. She let me know that he was living elsewhere and they haven't had any physical contact for a couple of months, she even explained why they ended to me. About a month after she left TX I flew out to see her and stay with her in AU for 2 weeks. It was amazing...she obviously had to fly to a different part of AU to spend time with me to avoid any unnecessary issues arising due to her pending divorce, of which they have to wait a full year before it can be finalized per AU law. Our time together was once again the most amazing experience of my life and I knew she was absolutely something special. When I left we continued to communicate everyday and skype with one another. She always kept me updated on her friends, anything involving her ex, and everything else that was going on in her life. Eventually we made plans for her to come stay with me for 3 weeks about a month and a half - 2 months from our last time together. During the time with her in TX we got even closer, we considered each other boyfriend/girlfriend and I finally told her I loved her. So told me she loved me too. She met my friends, family, and basically was fully absorbed into my life.
We had discussions of a life together, she being 30 and me being 26, she had concerns of me wanting to have children being as shes getting older. I told her I was "down", i'm mature for my age, we're both successful and make well thought out decisions. After our time together was over she went back home, we again stayed in touch every day (I constantly made efforts to send her flowers and romance her the best I could being that we live in different countries). We told each other we loved one another and started to make plans for the future. She told me she didn't want to get married again, and I could understand that after what shes going through. While I've always wanted to get married I was willing to sacrifice it because I love this women so much, nor am I in any rush to get married, but I would like to someday. Anyways, about a month and a half later she came to stay with me for 11 days. (I couldn't take off the amount of time to visit her, and with her pending divorce it's best that I not complicate things). During this time we celebrated my birthday, she took me to San Francisco (this was in November), and we went to other events such as my company Christmas party in early December. In our discussions of the future we thought it best that she try the move here to TX, living here for 2 weeks a month, and the other 2 back in AU, this way she wouldn't lose her business, apartment, and still be able to see her friends and family as I would never take her away from that.
Now we approach January, shes thinks I'm perfect, I think she's perfect. We've said to each other that we've been the best partners for one another that either of us have had, shes made comments of wanting to have kids with me, so on and so forth...perfect. We love each other, she constantly calls me when she gets the chance, two of her friends know of me, no one else does due to the delicateness of the divorce. She finally started to tell her sister about me in November. Then she starts getting distant about the 2-3 week of January, she doesn't call as often, seems to be too busy, skyping doesn't happen as often, (nor does the sexting), shes not sending me those random "I love you" or "i miss you" texts anymore. Seems like I'm doing a lot of the work. So I ask her about it, and she starts to say things like I just want to make sure I'm making the right decision, that her thoughts are consuming her, that shes not great about everything...so on. As i figured her ex starts realizing that since the divorce finalization is approaching ,that he doesn't want to go through with it. In this last week about 7 days ago she flew to see her father and when she came back the ex left a note on her bed, he was there to pick up some of his stuff while she was out. I found out about this last Thursday during our final skype. I trust her 100% as shes always honest with me when she gets hit on, but she would never cheat, and I understand the situation and breakups. So i didn't ask what the letter said but she downplayed it by saying it was written on a napkin and was nothing.
In this final conversation on Thursday (1/22) we talked, I was trying to keep it positive, she looked a bit down and said that she thinks she needs some space to figure stuff out and to get back to being her self. At this point I would do whatever it takes to make it work with her, I love her so much. I've thought that I've been in love before but this truly feels like one of those "shes the one" situations. So I told her I would do that for her, that I wouldn't snap her/text her or anything. I believe with the divorce coming up in February, and the idea of moving finally got to her. She got stressed and didn't know what to do but regroup. Unfortunately she pushed out someone who was there to support her and now I'm sort of wondering what to do. She hasn't contacted me since Thursday nor have I. I don't know what's going on with her, how she is, or anything. It kills me.
So what do I do? I can honestly say I have no regrets, that I truly was the perfect best boyfriend/person I could be in this relationship. I did send her a handwritten letter about 3 days before she asked for space so I assuming it will get there in the next few days. I love this woman and want to spend the rest of my life with her.
My girlfriend and I met 9 months ago here in Texas, shes from Australia. She was down here as a tourist and I happened to bump into her, told her I would show her around, got her number and we hit it off, spending time together during her holiday for 2 weeks in Texas. After she left we kept it touch via skype, snapchat, and whatsapp speaking every day. About a week after returning home she broke down and told me she was currently in a marriage and they were planning to divorce (they were together for 5 years, 1 year of marriage), that she and him have been separated for about 1 month before we met. I told her I was fine, and that I really liked her and as long as she was done seeing him and going through with the divorce I would have no issues. She let me know that he was living elsewhere and they haven't had any physical contact for a couple of months, she even explained why they ended to me. About a month after she left TX I flew out to see her and stay with her in AU for 2 weeks. It was amazing...she obviously had to fly to a different part of AU to spend time with me to avoid any unnecessary issues arising due to her pending divorce, of which they have to wait a full year before it can be finalized per AU law. Our time together was once again the most amazing experience of my life and I knew she was absolutely something special. When I left we continued to communicate everyday and skype with one another. She always kept me updated on her friends, anything involving her ex, and everything else that was going on in her life. Eventually we made plans for her to come stay with me for 3 weeks about a month and a half - 2 months from our last time together. During the time with her in TX we got even closer, we considered each other boyfriend/girlfriend and I finally told her I loved her. So told me she loved me too. She met my friends, family, and basically was fully absorbed into my life.
We had discussions of a life together, she being 30 and me being 26, she had concerns of me wanting to have children being as shes getting older. I told her I was "down", i'm mature for my age, we're both successful and make well thought out decisions. After our time together was over she went back home, we again stayed in touch every day (I constantly made efforts to send her flowers and romance her the best I could being that we live in different countries). We told each other we loved one another and started to make plans for the future. She told me she didn't want to get married again, and I could understand that after what shes going through. While I've always wanted to get married I was willing to sacrifice it because I love this women so much, nor am I in any rush to get married, but I would like to someday. Anyways, about a month and a half later she came to stay with me for 11 days. (I couldn't take off the amount of time to visit her, and with her pending divorce it's best that I not complicate things). During this time we celebrated my birthday, she took me to San Francisco (this was in November), and we went to other events such as my company Christmas party in early December. In our discussions of the future we thought it best that she try the move here to TX, living here for 2 weeks a month, and the other 2 back in AU, this way she wouldn't lose her business, apartment, and still be able to see her friends and family as I would never take her away from that.
Now we approach January, shes thinks I'm perfect, I think she's perfect. We've said to each other that we've been the best partners for one another that either of us have had, shes made comments of wanting to have kids with me, so on and so forth...perfect. We love each other, she constantly calls me when she gets the chance, two of her friends know of me, no one else does due to the delicateness of the divorce. She finally started to tell her sister about me in November. Then she starts getting distant about the 2-3 week of January, she doesn't call as often, seems to be too busy, skyping doesn't happen as often, (nor does the sexting), shes not sending me those random "I love you" or "i miss you" texts anymore. Seems like I'm doing a lot of the work. So I ask her about it, and she starts to say things like I just want to make sure I'm making the right decision, that her thoughts are consuming her, that shes not great about everything...so on. As i figured her ex starts realizing that since the divorce finalization is approaching ,that he doesn't want to go through with it. In this last week about 7 days ago she flew to see her father and when she came back the ex left a note on her bed, he was there to pick up some of his stuff while she was out. I found out about this last Thursday during our final skype. I trust her 100% as shes always honest with me when she gets hit on, but she would never cheat, and I understand the situation and breakups. So i didn't ask what the letter said but she downplayed it by saying it was written on a napkin and was nothing.
In this final conversation on Thursday (1/22) we talked, I was trying to keep it positive, she looked a bit down and said that she thinks she needs some space to figure stuff out and to get back to being her self. At this point I would do whatever it takes to make it work with her, I love her so much. I've thought that I've been in love before but this truly feels like one of those "shes the one" situations. So I told her I would do that for her, that I wouldn't snap her/text her or anything. I believe with the divorce coming up in February, and the idea of moving finally got to her. She got stressed and didn't know what to do but regroup. Unfortunately she pushed out someone who was there to support her and now I'm sort of wondering what to do. She hasn't contacted me since Thursday nor have I. I don't know what's going on with her, how she is, or anything. It kills me.
So what do I do? I can honestly say I have no regrets, that I truly was the perfect best boyfriend/person I could be in this relationship. I did send her a handwritten letter about 3 days before she asked for space so I assuming it will get there in the next few days. I love this woman and want to spend the rest of my life with her.
". I tried to keep it positive while still respecting her space.
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