Originally posted by RyanB88
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You are right, take one day at a time, I would echo the other advice given, and withdraw yourself slightly from the situation though - maybe not as far as zero contact, but reduce the response time from yourself; stop 'waiting' for her to respond, or only ping her when you know she will be around etc.
TBH her wanting to join the IDF would be a bit of a worry, her mental state does not sound like it is all that 'good' and she might not even pass the profiling; that and also why pick that armed force rather than one closer to home?
I personally think there is a very fine line with telling some-one not to do something for themselves in the name of the relationship. for me, if some-one feels strongly enough to want to do something, and it is not something I could live with, then I should not stop them, but should get out of the relationship. I know that is not what you did, but as I said I find it is a fine line between discussion and persuasion on a topic like that, and there can be times when some-one feels resentment for being given another persepctive that made them not take a choice they would have done otherwise, and then actually feel like they still should have made that choice. Happened with my previous ex that one, which is why I say I feel it is a delicate position.
Either way, good luck; I hope today was more positive trend and things will continue in that vein, but if not, do not hold on to something that is lost because you want it to be otherwise still - Sometimes knowing when to quit is the hardest thing to do, even when it is the right thing to do!
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