Hello everyone,
I've posted on this site a couple of times but could do with a final bit of advice. To cut a long story short we managed about 5 weeks since she left, she cheated on me (and told me straight away), I took her back but things broke down after she admitted that she doesn't want me to visit her and that was that. It was a difficult phone call and she cried but I can't help but feel that she said what she said to spare my feelings a little bit. She insists that she wants me as part of her life still to which I immediately decline (in the short term at least) and she tells me that there is a chance that we can be together again and that's what gets me. I feel like she has just said that to spare me. My current course of action is zero contact (hide her from all social media etc) and just move on. I really want to talk to her still but I feel that that would only hinder my healing. We broke up recently and I've been coping but the idea of her being with someone else is just such a terrible terrible thought, I tell myself that if I am to move on it shouldn't matter what she does now but I'd just appreciate some tips on dealing with these horrible thoughts!
To make matters slightly more complicated after she told me she'd cheated on me I did exactly the same thing, I slept with my another girl (another ex). And I must say at the time it felt like it meant nothing but now I'm confused and feel like it might mean something a little more. She has always been very supportive of me and we are good together (the reason we broke up was due to me moving away for about 5 months). Now we see a lot of each other but I'm not sure if forging ahead with her is fair for her or me at the moment. I think it would make me much happier and the idea of giving it another shot is appealing but with all the emotions going through my head is it better to take 5 and focus on working on myself before I think about entering another relationship?
I've posted on this site a couple of times but could do with a final bit of advice. To cut a long story short we managed about 5 weeks since she left, she cheated on me (and told me straight away), I took her back but things broke down after she admitted that she doesn't want me to visit her and that was that. It was a difficult phone call and she cried but I can't help but feel that she said what she said to spare my feelings a little bit. She insists that she wants me as part of her life still to which I immediately decline (in the short term at least) and she tells me that there is a chance that we can be together again and that's what gets me. I feel like she has just said that to spare me. My current course of action is zero contact (hide her from all social media etc) and just move on. I really want to talk to her still but I feel that that would only hinder my healing. We broke up recently and I've been coping but the idea of her being with someone else is just such a terrible terrible thought, I tell myself that if I am to move on it shouldn't matter what she does now but I'd just appreciate some tips on dealing with these horrible thoughts!
To make matters slightly more complicated after she told me she'd cheated on me I did exactly the same thing, I slept with my another girl (another ex). And I must say at the time it felt like it meant nothing but now I'm confused and feel like it might mean something a little more. She has always been very supportive of me and we are good together (the reason we broke up was due to me moving away for about 5 months). Now we see a lot of each other but I'm not sure if forging ahead with her is fair for her or me at the moment. I think it would make me much happier and the idea of giving it another shot is appealing but with all the emotions going through my head is it better to take 5 and focus on working on myself before I think about entering another relationship?
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