Family against anything LDR related, any advice would be really appreciated!
Hello everyone. I have a problem, any advice you could give me would really be appreciated! Sorry for this being so long.
I met her on a chat site around the end of last year, maybe around November or December, and we talked for a little while. We were both 14, now I'm 15 and she turns 15 in November. We did stuff like role play, she sat on my lap and stuff, but it wasn't based on romance, it was supposed to be a friendly thing. But after talking to her for a while, I developed feelings for her. But the thing was, she didn't have feelings for me. One night, we decided to ask our friend about her sitting on my lap and all (the role play). Our friend immediately thought we liked each other. The moment was awkward, because she said she didn't like me that way. I think that I did deny liking her as well, because I didn't want to make the moment even more awkward, given that the feelings weren't mutual.
I decided later on to confess my feelings to her. We talked about it twice. It was hard but I did it. I'm not quite sure what happened after that, we talked like usual, and I tried not to let my feelings get the best of me. On the chat site, there were people that showed their real pictures, there were people that posed as famous people, then there were people that didn't exactly have any real picture at all, called toons. From time to time toons would private chat with us saying stuff that involved dating. We would always joke, I would be like "Looks like I have competition" whenever a toon private chatted with her about dating.
One night, a toon private chatted/ private messaged (whichever you prefer) her saying that she was his wife. I said "It looks like I have competition." She said "You don't have competition, I'm yours." We continued on talking with her saying that she didn't see how she was his wife considering he just went offline and all, and sooner or later, I asked her to be my wife, got on one knee and proposed and all that (role play of course). We soon confirmed with each other that we were in fact dating and it wasn't just a thing for fun. We started dating on March 30th.
We dated for a month. My family (my mom, dad and older sister) do not want me dating yet. My dad especially would most likely prefer for me to date after school is completely over for me, meaning that I'm done with college and any extra school I have to go through after that. I'm not quite sure about her situation (the girl I love) but I know that her mom doesn't want her dating yet. We thought about this a lot, since I knew that if we continued doing this and things went the way I thought they would, we would eventually have to explain to our parents about our online relationship. After talking to her and several adults about it, we decided to break up. We made it to April 30th, but we also broke up on that day, at almost 2AM.
It turns out, that day came sooner than we thought. Apparently her mother saw my name come up on her phone and asked her about who I was. She told her mom pretty much everything, about how we met on the chat site, how we dated, and the feelings she had for me. She said that her mom took it well, yet she still isn't allowed to date yet, as far as I know. As for me, I decided to tell my parents. Well, my father knows. I wrote this 2 and a half page thing about my thoughts concerning her and all of the people I met online. He now knows that I had and still have feelings for her, he knows about us dating, he knows about us breaking up, and he knows that we met online as well. Overall I think he took it well, yet I'm still not allowed to date until after college.
There is another reason I wrote that long 2 and a half page thing. It's due to the fact that my family doesn't seem to like that I met people online. They made me stop communicating with everyone I met online, including the girl I still have feelings for. It made me feel really bad having to leave them and I still feel bad. My family just doesn't believe that there are real people online, at least that's what my older sister said. My father is still the only one that knows I had feelings for anyone online, and if my sister and brother in law find out, I know that things will only get worse. I just don't know what to do. Anything I say goes nowhere. I talked to her and my friends through phone, had them on Facebook as well as followed some of them on Twitter, and I even saw a few through webcam. We've all seen pictures of each other too.
Anything I say does me no good. It gets me nowhere, my family sticks to their decision. Yet whenever I tell them I'm thinking about it, they tell me to forget about it, forget about them. My sister doesn't even seem to consider them as real people. She thinks of them as imaginary friends since I haven't met them in real life. I just don't know what to do. I know that for a fact that the girl I dated will move on if things stay like this. I don't want to let her go, it hurts to think of her with anyone else but me. But things don't look like they will change anytime soon. Any advice would really be appreciated.
I met her on a chat site around the end of last year, maybe around November or December, and we talked for a little while. We were both 14, now I'm 15 and she turns 15 in November. We did stuff like role play, she sat on my lap and stuff, but it wasn't based on romance, it was supposed to be a friendly thing. But after talking to her for a while, I developed feelings for her. But the thing was, she didn't have feelings for me. One night, we decided to ask our friend about her sitting on my lap and all (the role play). Our friend immediately thought we liked each other. The moment was awkward, because she said she didn't like me that way. I think that I did deny liking her as well, because I didn't want to make the moment even more awkward, given that the feelings weren't mutual.
I decided later on to confess my feelings to her. We talked about it twice. It was hard but I did it. I'm not quite sure what happened after that, we talked like usual, and I tried not to let my feelings get the best of me. On the chat site, there were people that showed their real pictures, there were people that posed as famous people, then there were people that didn't exactly have any real picture at all, called toons. From time to time toons would private chat with us saying stuff that involved dating. We would always joke, I would be like "Looks like I have competition" whenever a toon private chatted with her about dating.
One night, a toon private chatted/ private messaged (whichever you prefer) her saying that she was his wife. I said "It looks like I have competition." She said "You don't have competition, I'm yours." We continued on talking with her saying that she didn't see how she was his wife considering he just went offline and all, and sooner or later, I asked her to be my wife, got on one knee and proposed and all that (role play of course). We soon confirmed with each other that we were in fact dating and it wasn't just a thing for fun. We started dating on March 30th.
We dated for a month. My family (my mom, dad and older sister) do not want me dating yet. My dad especially would most likely prefer for me to date after school is completely over for me, meaning that I'm done with college and any extra school I have to go through after that. I'm not quite sure about her situation (the girl I love) but I know that her mom doesn't want her dating yet. We thought about this a lot, since I knew that if we continued doing this and things went the way I thought they would, we would eventually have to explain to our parents about our online relationship. After talking to her and several adults about it, we decided to break up. We made it to April 30th, but we also broke up on that day, at almost 2AM.
It turns out, that day came sooner than we thought. Apparently her mother saw my name come up on her phone and asked her about who I was. She told her mom pretty much everything, about how we met on the chat site, how we dated, and the feelings she had for me. She said that her mom took it well, yet she still isn't allowed to date yet, as far as I know. As for me, I decided to tell my parents. Well, my father knows. I wrote this 2 and a half page thing about my thoughts concerning her and all of the people I met online. He now knows that I had and still have feelings for her, he knows about us dating, he knows about us breaking up, and he knows that we met online as well. Overall I think he took it well, yet I'm still not allowed to date until after college.
There is another reason I wrote that long 2 and a half page thing. It's due to the fact that my family doesn't seem to like that I met people online. They made me stop communicating with everyone I met online, including the girl I still have feelings for. It made me feel really bad having to leave them and I still feel bad. My family just doesn't believe that there are real people online, at least that's what my older sister said. My father is still the only one that knows I had feelings for anyone online, and if my sister and brother in law find out, I know that things will only get worse. I just don't know what to do. Anything I say goes nowhere. I talked to her and my friends through phone, had them on Facebook as well as followed some of them on Twitter, and I even saw a few through webcam. We've all seen pictures of each other too.
Anything I say does me no good. It gets me nowhere, my family sticks to their decision. Yet whenever I tell them I'm thinking about it, they tell me to forget about it, forget about them. My sister doesn't even seem to consider them as real people. She thinks of them as imaginary friends since I haven't met them in real life. I just don't know what to do. I know that for a fact that the girl I dated will move on if things stay like this. I don't want to let her go, it hurts to think of her with anyone else but me. But things don't look like they will change anytime soon. Any advice would really be appreciated.
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