Me and James started talking again, we decided to try and work through our issues and talk to each other about how we are feeling. James said that its not that he doesn't want to be with me, he just couldn't take me being silly anymore. I said to him that if he gives me another chance, he wont regret it. So we carry on talking, and then he says he needs time to think about things, so I say ok. He then texts me the following day, and we carry on talking again. We were then talking last time, and it seemed like we were getting somewhere, he told me he loved me and I had been dieing for him to say it. Anyway, he said he had to go and he would talk later.
This is where it gets complicated. At the beginning of our relationship, I had some doubts as to where he lived. This was due to it saying he lived somewhere else on Facebook. He then told me it was because he moved, and then we didn't really say anything else about it. I was still thinking about it. We then both got an app called viber, so we could text and call each other for free. You could also add your location on there, it said James wasn't in Leeds. Immediately I say something to him, and we argue. He would always make me feel guilty for bringing it up. We then met in late June, and I was on his phone, and the weather thing came up and again it didn't say Leeds. I didn't really think about it until afterwards, when he made me feel guilty again.
Last night, he said his brother had come to visit. I went on his brothers Facebook, and it said he was back at home, but not in Leeds. I knew then that James was lieing to me, and he finally admitted to me today that he has been lieing about where he lives. He lied because he didn't expect to fall for me, and once he lied he couldn't stop.
I don't really know what to think now. Has he lied about anything else? Can I be with someone who has lied to me? I just need some advice on what you think I should do.
This is where it gets complicated. At the beginning of our relationship, I had some doubts as to where he lived. This was due to it saying he lived somewhere else on Facebook. He then told me it was because he moved, and then we didn't really say anything else about it. I was still thinking about it. We then both got an app called viber, so we could text and call each other for free. You could also add your location on there, it said James wasn't in Leeds. Immediately I say something to him, and we argue. He would always make me feel guilty for bringing it up. We then met in late June, and I was on his phone, and the weather thing came up and again it didn't say Leeds. I didn't really think about it until afterwards, when he made me feel guilty again.
Last night, he said his brother had come to visit. I went on his brothers Facebook, and it said he was back at home, but not in Leeds. I knew then that James was lieing to me, and he finally admitted to me today that he has been lieing about where he lives. He lied because he didn't expect to fall for me, and once he lied he couldn't stop.
I don't really know what to think now. Has he lied about anything else? Can I be with someone who has lied to me? I just need some advice on what you think I should do.
Those are people I never got close enough to to share my real name with. That's what I'm reminded of with your SO. I didn't know when joining the site and telling people my name was Claire that I would ever become close enough with someone to tell them I was lying. *shrug* But I was young and not thinking things through all the way. It sounds like that that is what happened with your SO. I understand feeling like you've been lied to, and I understand feeling hurt, but it also sounds like a very believable reason he's giving you for the fact that he lied.
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