Proposing with something other than a ring

[lucybelle]

How married are you to the idea of being proposed to or proposing with a ring? (pun intended) My SO's sister just got engaged (for the 3rd time, let's hope we get an actual wedding this time!) to her boyfriend, and he "proposed" with a diamond encrusted watch (and it is ENCRUSTED). He says rings are too old fashioned and he wanted to do something new.

I told my SO I'd throw that watch in his face if he proposed with one! jaja Really though, I like to think I'm progressive, but I want a damn ring. Plus I don't really wear watches. Maybe a bracelet or necklace would be okay. But rings seem more practical, they don't get in the way as much.

[Sora1101]

I'd much rather have a ring, or at least a piece of jewelry that I wear often like necklaces or bracelets I think if my SO proposed with a watch I'd just be like "this is it? Really?"

[kirbycat]

Yeah, I don't consider myself to be tied to tradition, but I definitely want a ring. A little creativity within that range would be welcome, though. While I'd be happy with a traditional type of engagement ring, I've never cared much for diamonds, and a different stone or a unique design would be also be great.

[dglynn77]

I want a ring!!! I don't wear much jewelry, but I'd love to wear an engagement/wedding ring

My SO's sister just got engaged (for the 3rd time, let's hope we get an actual wedding this time!) to her boyfriend, and he "proposed" with a diamond encrusted watch (and it is ENCRUSTED). He says rings are too old fashioned and he wanted to do something new.

Was she happy with the watch???

[Haley53]

I'm not sure. I feel like this is something I wouldn't know until the moment, sad to say. While the idea of a ring appeals because it's traditional, I'm not sure I'd mind another symbol either. I would like the ring for the sake of the fact everyone would recognise it, but hrm. A watch would be pretty nifty, I will say, though that sounds too pretty for a watch for me. I'd much rather stick with my rugged Timex. But I feel like I could like either a ring or something more like a watch, but for entirely different reasons.

[Sierra]

The only substitute for a diamond ring for my engagement is a 30k horse. And I'm not kidding.

As for being old fashioned with the ring, the watch is the same idea. Men used to TIE something on a woman marking that they were his. Tell me a watch isn't a ring for the wrist.

[lucybelle]

I want a ring!!! I don't wear much jewelry, but I'd love to wear an engagement/wedding ring



Was she happy with the watch???

I think so. Although she always dates really rich guys, she's honestly not that materialistic and is extremely grateful. I think she was excited to get anything

[kirbycat]

I'm not sure. I feel like this is something I wouldn't know until the moment, sad to say. While the idea of a ring appeals because it's traditional, I'm not sure I'd mind another symbol either. I would like the ring for the sake of the fact everyone would recognise it, but hrm. A watch would be pretty nifty, I will say, though that sounds too pretty for a watch for me. I'd much rather stick with my rugged Timex. But I feel like I could like either a ring or something more like a watch, but for entirely different reasons.

My issue with an "engagement watch," specifically, is that a watch isn't something I'd want to wear everyday. Especially a particularly fancy/expensive watch. And I'm personally much more likely to lose or break a watch than a ring. Plus, I think half the fun of having an engagement ring is that it's an instantly recognizable symbol, a way to make your love and commitment known to the world (I mean, I don't a piece of jewelry just to remind myself of these things!). But hey, whatever you and your partner want to use as a symbol of your commitment, more power to you! It's your love - express it in a way that's best suited to you!

[Zephii]

I'd be alright with a neckalce if it was one I could wear every day for the rest of my life and I didn't have to take it off to shower or anything, maybe even a braclette. But not a watch, no. Unless it was like some extensive family tradition on his side or something...

But a ring is my preference. I've copped a bit of flack for the ring I have, people tell me it's not a real engagement ring because it isn't diamond - I've even had people claim that my engagement isn't real because of it - so I can only imagine what society's opinion would be if I were flaunting my engagement watch or something But eh, engagement isn't forever, and some people don't continue to wear their engagement ring after marriage anyway. So, I guess it shouldnt matter.

[Haley53]

My issue with an "engagement watch," specifically, is that a watch isn't something I'd want to wear everyday. Especially a particularly fancy/expensive watch. And I'm personally much more likely to lose or break a watch than a ring. Plus, I think half the fun of having an engagement ring is that it's an instantly recognizable symbol, a way to make your love and commitment known to the world (I mean, I don't a piece of jewelry just to remind myself of these things!). But hey, whatever you and your partner want to use as a symbol of your commitment, more power to you! It's your love - express it in a way that's best suited to you!

Up until recently (battery died and cell phones make it less urgent to replace a watch battery), I wore one daily, so a watch wouldn't be something impractical in my case. Also why I said I probably wouldn't want something that fancy. I would be worried I'd break it or that I couldn't wear it often because it was so pretty. I said I would like a ring for the fact it would be instantly recogniseable, and a watch/bracelet/necklace not so much, but I could definitely do both for my own reasons, even if they'd be different reasons. I'm not sure if I conveyed something in my post or said something offensive. I really was speaking from a personal perspective in the sense I wouldn't mind a watch, but because I actually wear one. I didn't mean to imply anything by having the outsider opinion. >_<

[kirbycat]

Up until recently (battery died and cell phones make it less urgent to replace a watch battery), I wore one daily, so a watch wouldn't be something impractical in my case. Also why I said I probably wouldn't want something that fancy. I would be worried I'd break it or that I couldn't wear it often because it was so pretty. I said I would like a ring for the fact it would be instantly recogniseable, and a watch/bracelet/necklace not so much, but I could definitely do both for my own reasons, even if they'd be different reasons. I'm not sure if I conveyed something in my post or said something offensive. I really was speaking from a personal perspective in the sense I wouldn't mind a watch, but because I actually wear one. I didn't mean to imply anything by having the outsider opinion. >_<

I'm sorry, I wasn't meaning to be disagreeable at all - I totally understood what you were saying! I was just trying to share my own personal perspective on the same idea, not to disagree with you personally. I actually meant to agree with you on a couple points! No offense was taken, and I didn't mean to give any. I have been tired and out of it all day, so maybe I wasn't expressing myself very well. Sorry!

[Haley53]

I'm sorry, I wasn't meaning to be disagreeable at all - I totally understood what you were saying! I was just trying to share my own personal perspective on the same idea, not to disagree with you personally. I actually meant to agree with you on a couple points! No offense was taken, and I didn't mean to give any. I have been tired and out of it all day, so maybe I wasn't expressing myself very well. Sorry!

Oh, no worries! I was worried I'd said something offensive is all. D: <3

[DemonxOisin]

Wow, thatīs pretty interesting! Iīve never heard of someone proposing with anything but a ring before.

I think I would also like to stick with a ring. HOWEVER, I definitely wouldnīt want your conventional big olī fancy expensive rock. I work in the trades, I lose things easily, and I donīt dress up very fancy too often. I therefore would prefer a nice simplistic band. I would also rather spend all that money on something I would actually enjoy, like a trip somewhere or something. Therefore, I wouldnīt want an expensive ring either.

So in conslusion, I definitely like the idea of a ring more, but I would much prefer a non-conventional ring. I think Iīve even mentioned before that a ring pop would entertain the shit out of me :P

[Dziubka]

Honestly if my boyfriend gave me anything other than an engagement ring, I'd feel he was somehow copping out. Like he gave me an expensive present and asked me to marry him, without really making the obvious sign of committment (as it's recognized in our culture). Giving a watch is so much less symbolic and he could brush it off as just a present in case it doesn't work out.
People give watches to each other all the time, ok maybe not all the time, but for various normal occasions like birthdays, holy communions, confirmations or whatever. A ring is a different story entirely.
I hope that makes sense to anyone but me.
I'd maybe accept something else, that showed a lot of committment. Like an engagement dog (were we to be in a position where getting a dog was reasonable) or a flat, but that seems unneccessarily complicated.

(PS: It's not my business really, but they haven't been dating for long, have they? I'd say definite cop out!)

[ChibiFelicia]

For me an engagement watch just wouldnt work. Being chinese recieving a watch is a huge no no (being cantonese it sounds like you're sending me to a funeral, plus its like you're putting a time limit on the relationship) I'd never want a time piece of any kind from my man. That and being a nurse i cant wear watches unless it's a fob watch but i always buy them my self.

Honestly i'd want a ring for a proposal but again i wouldnt wear it. Really i'd want a diamond ring with a unique design buti'd feel guilty as again i wouldnt wear it. My man basically proposed with nothing but his promise. I gues it looks like a cop out to most people but its what i decided. A wedding band on the other hand i'd probably wear but im not sure i'd want to wear that either. Too much hand washing, glove wearing blah blah and ew just thinking about the bacteria that would grow there makes me feel dirty. Just imagine if i accidently screwed up and infected someones wound. Then again alot of health professionals wear their ring, it is fine with hospital policy but it's my choice whether i wear it or not.