Hello! To start, I am a 27 year old man living in NYC.
A few months back, something bad happened to me and I ended up being sort of depressed for a little while. A couple of friends from back home (DC area) decided to visit me to cheer me up, catch up, all that good stuff.
They came up two weekends ago, and brought a friend with them. The friend is a girl in her 20s, I would guess around 25-26 based on the age of the friends she came with. Anyway, we quickly hit it off, and after a day of hanging out in the city we ended up making out at a club at the end of the night. I ended up staying over at their airbnb that night, but I took an air mattress and we did not share a bed or have sex. She later told me that she wanted to, but didn't want to seem too easy.
We've been texting fairly regularly since she went back home. At first it was just shooting the shit, but then she asked me if I remembered kissing at the club, and since then our conversations have taken on a flirtier vibe. During one such conversation I told her that I thought we should bang sometime, and she indicated to me that she'd like that. We have vague plans to hang out when I visit home later this year.
I just got a new job here in the city, and the earliest I'd be able to visit home would probably be Thanksgiving. We still text each other, and when I remember I'll wish her well at night before I go to bed and she'll respond in kind. However, I've found myself sometimes of struggling for stuff to say. I work a pretty mundane job and am currently doing community service on the weekends, so there isn't a lot of exciting stuff going on in my life right now. I noticed also that it is often me who initiates conversations. Sometimes I'll text just to say how are you, or to share random funny thoughts that pop into my head.
The bottom line is this: I don't want to have an endless stream of boring "how are you, oh I'm pretty much the same as yesterday thanks" type conversations. At the same time, I'd like to pick up where we left off when I go home so I'm not really sure what to do. I've never done anything resembling a long distance relationship. Will the attraction fade if I don't keep up contact? If so, what are some things that I can say/do to keep things going until I have a chance to see her in person?
**tl;dr - met a girl, hit it off, but she lives in a different state. Been staying in touch and have vague plans visit (she lives in my hometown), but feeling like our communications are starting to get a little repetitive. How can I keep things going until I can see her in person again?**
A few months back, something bad happened to me and I ended up being sort of depressed for a little while. A couple of friends from back home (DC area) decided to visit me to cheer me up, catch up, all that good stuff.
They came up two weekends ago, and brought a friend with them. The friend is a girl in her 20s, I would guess around 25-26 based on the age of the friends she came with. Anyway, we quickly hit it off, and after a day of hanging out in the city we ended up making out at a club at the end of the night. I ended up staying over at their airbnb that night, but I took an air mattress and we did not share a bed or have sex. She later told me that she wanted to, but didn't want to seem too easy.
We've been texting fairly regularly since she went back home. At first it was just shooting the shit, but then she asked me if I remembered kissing at the club, and since then our conversations have taken on a flirtier vibe. During one such conversation I told her that I thought we should bang sometime, and she indicated to me that she'd like that. We have vague plans to hang out when I visit home later this year.
I just got a new job here in the city, and the earliest I'd be able to visit home would probably be Thanksgiving. We still text each other, and when I remember I'll wish her well at night before I go to bed and she'll respond in kind. However, I've found myself sometimes of struggling for stuff to say. I work a pretty mundane job and am currently doing community service on the weekends, so there isn't a lot of exciting stuff going on in my life right now. I noticed also that it is often me who initiates conversations. Sometimes I'll text just to say how are you, or to share random funny thoughts that pop into my head.
The bottom line is this: I don't want to have an endless stream of boring "how are you, oh I'm pretty much the same as yesterday thanks" type conversations. At the same time, I'd like to pick up where we left off when I go home so I'm not really sure what to do. I've never done anything resembling a long distance relationship. Will the attraction fade if I don't keep up contact? If so, what are some things that I can say/do to keep things going until I have a chance to see her in person?
**tl;dr - met a girl, hit it off, but she lives in a different state. Been staying in touch and have vague plans visit (she lives in my hometown), but feeling like our communications are starting to get a little repetitive. How can I keep things going until I can see her in person again?**
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