Is your SO considerably more attractive than you?

[CynicalQuixotic]

I have an extremely low self-esteem and tend to be overly critical to the point of internalisation... That being said, I do believe I was more attractive than my ex. I'd say I'm on par or even slightly less attractive than my current partner, but I also feel that it's hard for me to be objective because I'm different to what his type used to be and I've never really had a "type." For example, when he was 16, he used to be more attracted to the "emo" look, though he's admitted to always finding me very, very attractive despite not being his "usual type." That's something he feels stupid for saying because at 19 (well, tomorrow), he can't believe he ever even liked that style/type to begin with. :P But eh, things change, especially at that age. The only thing about him that's never been my type is his hair, even if it's one of my favourite features about him, because I'm usually a short-hair style type of person whereas his is... not long, but moppier? XD Like that makes it sound ill-kempt and it's not - he actually does more with his hair than I do - but it's not quite long, so I wasn't sure what to call it.

https://a1.sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hpho...01650095_n.jpg Have a picture for reference.

But I like to think we fit. Can't say I've ever really compared us and gone over who is more attractive, even if I'd had moments of "damn, why are we in public/why am I not there so I can jump your bones?" He hates white, but when he slips into his tight white t-shirts? Mm... LOL.

I think you're really pretty, and I mean that with all sincerity. You have a beautiful smile. Also, your boyfriend and I have the same birthday!


Trying to speak objectively, I think JP and I are about equal, with him maybe being slightly more attractive than me. He is undoubtably the most conventionally attractive of any of the guys I've dated, the first time I saw him in person I was all "....whoa." He's lean and muscular with beautiful bone structure and dark hair and eyes. I'm not my boyfriend's "usual type" either--he's described it as "dark-skinned, dark-eyed Brazilian"--whereas I am tall and lanky, pale and blue-eyed. I've been told I'm very pretty, specifically in the "OMG you and JP will have such beautiful babies because you're both so gorgeous!" kind of way, but as Malaga said, evaluating your own beauty is always a minefield. I certainly don't think I'm incredibly gorgeous, and I have a boatload of insecurities. Also for reference, here is a picture where I think we both look pretty good:

[Reuschel]

I think my SO and I are about equal. We both have our advantages and our faults. I've been an athlete all my life so I have a more athletic, toned, and muscular body but she has beautiful blue eyes and a heart-melting smile.

EDIT: She says I have a cute smile and she loves my brown eyes. I tell her that I love her body even though she is super self-conscience, she is definitely not fat even though she thinks she is.

[kat4301]

I would say we are pretty equal, neither of us are drop-dead hotties but we each have characteristics that help us stand out. I don't notice looks as much as our personalities difference. I think he has a much easier time walking into a room and conversing and I think he forgets how attractive his personality is because all he thinks about are looks. He has a couple of friends who are women who I think are sorta into him and he always nullifies my comments about watching out for these ladies by saying how he isn't uber handsome and I have to remind him about his personality.

[Leigh]

We both are attractive and make a good looking couple.

[Sora1101]

Ahh this is such a tough question and I guess it depends on who you ask. To me my SO is the most attractive male on the planet I love everything about him, his gorgeous blue eyes and slight scruff, while my friends think that I'm wayyy better looking than him, which I find weird because I don't consider myself good looking at all I hate my brown eyes and there's just something uneven about my face, so to me I'm the less attractive one but to my friends he's the less attractive one. Although he'd definitely agree with my friends opinions instead of mine. Maybe I'm just a little biased.

[xsomanymilesx]

im hotter hahahahaa

[CanadianGirl]

He has the sexiest lips/mouth/jawline, gorgeous cheekbones and deep-brown, teddy bear eyes. He can be self-conscious at times and he's asked how a girl like me is attracted to a guy like him . I ask myself how he can find me attractive occasionally (especially when he grows some facial hair and is looking ridiculously manly..oh god). I think I'm pretty damn adorable most of the time lol. I like to keep in shape and take care of myself. So I'm going to bet that we're evenly matched.

[cwarbs]

I would say we're both on par with each other. We've both gained a little bit of weight since we've met (him more so than me) but I still think he is as sexy as the day we met and he likes to tell me that I've gotten way sexier since the day we've met (Might have to do with the fact that "the girls" have gone up a cup size XP). Currently he is having a bit (well, more than a bit) of a skin problem and has awful rash type things because of it. The last time I saw him it was really bad but, even though I know he expects me to be grossed out by it, I still can't help but think he's the most handsome guy in the world, inside and out

[annb8888]

2) I know that it's "what's on the inside that counts," but come on...

HAHAHA I love your honesty. It's true tho. Even though we say looks only comes 2nd, the first thing that comes into a person's mind is the thing that first comes into their sight - and that is, the physical side. We can't deny that. Although as we get to know the person, the real beauty comes from inside & it surpasses whatever is crooked on the outside. lol

I don't really want to say I'm more attractive or he's more attractive because beauty is subjective. But if you're saying that we follow the norm of our judgmental society --- I'm his first girlfriend and he's my third - because I'm older. And although I can dress well & he dresses like Sheldon from Big Bang Theory, I always have that insecurity of comparing myself to girls of his age - younger, leaner and it's driving me nuts. :P

[thatgirllit]

HAHAHA I love your honesty. It's true tho. Even though we say looks only comes 2nd, the first thing that comes into a person's mind is the thing that first comes into their sight - and that is, the physical side. We can't deny that. Although as we get to know the person, the real beauty comes from inside & it surpasses whatever is crooked on the outside. lol

I don't really want to say I'm more attractive or he's more attractive because beauty is subjective. But if you're saying that we follow the norm of our judgmental society --- I'm his first girlfriend and he's my third - because I'm older. And although I can dress well & he dresses like Sheldon from Big Bang Theory, I always have that insecurity of comparing myself to girls of his age - younger, leaner and it's driving me nuts. :P

His brain is sexy.

Awe don't do that. Unless there is a drastic age difference (Ashton & Demi) people probably don't even notice. And if they do, they are probably like, "How the **** did he pull her?"

[Minerva]

I think we make a handsome couple. =)

He's more handsome than I am pretty. I've gained weight and I'm getting to that age where my lips are thinning and little lines are starting to show up, and have I mentioned the weight gain? I constantly wish he could have known me when I was hotter, hehe.

He on the other hand is really tall and striking. His eyes are blue and he has a prominent brow-bone, so he always has these beautiful blue eyes emerging from the shadows. When I saw him again for the first time in months, he took my breath away. He has a way of dressing casually smart in a way most American men aren't able to carry off. And oh god, when he wears his kilt, his legs...

*happy sigh*

[Alemap]

And oh god, when he wears his kilt, his legs...

*happy sigh*

The sheer, obvious love in this post made me smile.
Thank you, Minerva, for brightening my evening. I wish you and your handsome, kilt-wearing gentleman all happiness.

[thatgirllit]

The sheer, obvious love in this post made me smile.
Thank you, Minerva, for brightening my evening. I wish you and your handsome, kilt-wearing gentleman all happiness.

+1 I'm writing this because plus 1 is too short.

[Rugger]

Honestly, It goes both ways with us. One of my (former) friends told me that I'm too attractive for my SO. But I think the opposite. He's pretty much perfect. Tall, dark, straight teeth, killer body. The whole Package.

[killerkaytee]

I think we are equal even though i think he is more attractive. he is the most attractive guy I have ever laid eyes on =) His hair, his soft skin, his lips mmmmm! I could go on forever =) I think we make a very cute couple =)