Is your SO considerably more attractive than you?

[NaNi]

Eh, I don't know? I don't really think like that. I just love it when people tell us that we make a gorgeous/pretty/beautiful couple. We were always told that we give off some kind of vibe whenever we're together, which is why lots of people already figured out we were couple before we even made it official. I like that. But my SO is definitely really good looking (even if she doesn't believe me). She has long brown hair, gorgeous green eyes, a stunning smile, a really sexy body and an amazing voice. Yeah, she's pretty much perfect in my eyes.

[Rach321]

Objectively (as much as it's possible for me to be so...), I'd say we're equally attractive.

That said, I tend to feel that he's more attractive. We both have beautiful parts and "flaws". I tend to focus a lot more on his beautiful parts and ignore the flaws, where the reverse is often true when I'm thinking about myself.

[Engel]

The sheer, obvious love in this post made me smile.
Thank you, Minerva, for brightening my evening. I wish you and your handsome, kilt-wearing gentleman all happiness.

It also made me smile.

[Engel]

I think you're really pretty, and I mean that with all sincerity. You have a beautiful smile. Also, your boyfriend and I have the same birthday!


Trying to speak objectively, I think JP and I are about equal, with him maybe being slightly more attractive than me. He is undoubtably the most conventionally attractive of any of the guys I've dated, the first time I saw him in person I was all "....whoa." He's lean and muscular with beautiful bone structure and dark hair and eyes. I'm not my boyfriend's "usual type" either--he's described it as "dark-skinned, dark-eyed Brazilian"--whereas I am tall and lanky, pale and blue-eyed. I've been told I'm very pretty, specifically in the "OMG you and JP will have such beautiful babies because you're both so gorgeous!" kind of way, but as Malaga said, evaluating your own beauty is always a minefield. I certainly don't think I'm incredibly gorgeous, and I have a boatload of insecurities. Also for reference, here is a picture where I think we both look pretty good:

you have big beautiful blue eyes! <3
and you are beautiful, by the way, I had never seen a picture of you before, besides your avatar.

I dont know if its because we want what we are not used to, but being brazilian, I was never really ito dark skinned dark eyes brazilians myself.


I always loved blue and green eyes. and knew if I could choose one feature on a SO, it would be that, for him to have green or blue eyes. wich he does, he has the most amazing green eyes I ever saw! <3

[annb8888]

His brain is sexy.

Awe don't do that. Unless there is a drastic age difference (Ashton & Demi) people probably don't even notice. And if they do, they are probably like, "How the **** did he pull her?"

oh believe me thatgirllit, there IS a drastic age difference and yes, Ashton & Demi. lol. But the thing is, he thought I was his age when we met online in 2009. Idk, I think our family's genes are mutant genes >_> we were both dancers and I always loved it, so I was always scared that people would stereotype me and tell me I belong to ballroom dancing instead of funk. So I kept my age mum and just go dancing and yea, I fit right in. LOL.

Then he started pursuing me almost 9 months ago so I didn't hesitate to tell him the truth before anything blows off proportion, tbh I thought he would be like, O_O but turns out he wants me just the same. It's hard to keep up with the weight and all but I think I'm doing a pretty good job considering I can still pull it off at the dance studio without any of the other 18s, 19s and 20s noticing me different. hahahaha. *hopefully* lol (but my crew knows, my closest friends know)

[FadedSunrise]

I think we're...about the same? Close enough? Whether that is close enough in unattractiveness or attractiveness I honestly have no clue. I consider myself too biased to be objective about all this and my friends have told me I have weird taste in men before xD

I'm really really tall for an Asian woman-6'. I'm apple shaped, so with the right clothes on I have fairly slender legs and not too obvious belly. My best friend always tells me how tall is sexy and how he is lucky to have me (though she balances that out by saying he's a good guy).

He's rather skinny, and its especially visible on the face sometimes, but otoh he's very well built due to having studied martial arts for more than half his life. He's also really tan for an Asian person, tan-ness being something I'm very fond of. The way his eyes crinkle when he smiles is so adorable <3.

So yea, I don't know. When we were together in person we didn't go on many dates or hold hands in public at all, so nobody had opinions about how we looked because they didn't think we were a couple(and we kind of weren't then).

[kteire]

My SO will sometimes get drunk and insecure and tell me he thinks I'm more attractive than him, haha. I'd say if you see us both in a picture, I tend to be more photogenic, but in person, we're pretty much even He gets a LOT of female attention when we're together (like one time when this gorgeous blonde pushed me out of the way so she could dance with him...) and I get a lot of male attention in general... so we're quite evenly matched

[DarkStarrx]

I think so, he's in the military and very much in shape. Then there is that Scandinavian look everyone adores. It's not like he's walking around with a troll or anything though(at least I hope not) haha

[Madge]

Judging by the amount of girls and guys that repeatedly hit on him ALL the time I think my SO is more attractive than me. When we first started dating I was introduced to the cattyness that occurs when you have an attractive SO. I use to be a bit insecure but now whenever I see it happening I just smile and think,"mineeee all mine *cue evil laughter*

[CynicalQuixotic]

you have big beautiful blue eyes! <3
and you are beautiful, by the way, I had never seen a picture of you before, besides your avatar.

I dont know if its because we want what we are not used to, but being brazilian, I was never really ito dark skinned dark eyes brazilians myself.


I always loved blue and green eyes. and knew if I could choose one feature on a SO, it would be that, for him to have green or blue eyes. wich he does, he has the most amazing green eyes I ever saw! <3

Thank you so much! I think you're so pretty as well--I stalked your story thread a little bit (), and I love that you experiment so much with your hair. I'm terrified to dye my hair, so, I always am in awe of people who do it all the time.

I remember reading in some article somewhere that most people are attracted to others who look different from them as an evolutionary preventative measure against inbreeding. It's certainly true for me--I'm pretty much exclusively attracted to dark-haired guys. So, you're definitely not alone in that respect!

[Dziubka]

I remember reading in some article somewhere that most people are attracted to others who look different from them as an evolutionary preventative measure against inbreeding. It's certainly true for me--I'm pretty much exclusively attracted to dark-haired guys. So, you're definitely not alone in that respect!

If that's true my boyfriend and I are genetic failures

People always tell us that we look so similar. I've never been into non-white (north European white that is) men :-/

[Malaga]

If that's true my boyfriend and I are genetic failures

People always tell us that we look so similar. I've never been into non-white (north European white that is) men :-/

I always find it interesting how much my tastes change and how often. I used to be really into blonde guys up until a few years ago... now I don't even notice them. Maybe because they usually look younger than their age? Baby face doesn't work for me at all, and the older I get the less I find 'pretty' guys attractive. My boyfriend's gorgeous, but he looks like the 30 year old guy that he is, I really like that.

[thatgirllit]

If that's true my boyfriend and I are genetic failures

People always tell us that we look so similar. I've never been into non-white (north European white that is) men :-/

I'm am generally a Darwinian failure as well. I have always been attracted to men with dark complexions and features similar to my father...maybe its an Electra complex...lol. My SO is the first non-Black male that I have seriously dated (not because of race, but because of interest).

[rusty15]

I'm more attractive than my S/O

[Sierra]

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I find my boyfriend very attractive. I love his eyes and his wonderful smile.
I have low self esteem, so I would consider myself less attractive than him - at least I know he could do better looks wise, but it's our emotional connection that matters the most.