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    #31
    Our friends don't understand it, but are supportive for the most part. As much as they can be, I guess. It sort of blows their mind that we would put ourselves through this, but applaud our efforts and success. Except for one acquaintance of his that tried to hook him up with a girl ("Different area code! She never has to know!"). However, he was declared a d-bag and avoided.
    Our families? ...They'd be happier if we weren't together, long distance or otherwise. My mom is partially responsible for us getting together in the first place (she was playing matchmaker for weeks haha). We had a falling out with my parents, but they have recently come back around. My dad holds a grudge worse than any woman I know, but my mom is so supportive now. She even offered to drive half way to pick me up after the next time I visit him.
    His parents... His dad talked to him about it once, just to get his opinions out there, but that's it. He doesn't like it, but he leaves it alone and is as nice to me as he is to everyone. His mom? She is passive aggressive and actively tries to hook him up with other girls, but smiles and acts all sweet with me. He recently told her that if she didn't back off, then he couldn't be around her. She's left it alone since then, as far as I am aware.


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      #32
      When we were together back in 2006/7 a lot of my friends at the time didn't really understand it. I had a male best friend who was rather smitten with me and he used to badmouth my SO a lot.

      This time around my friends seem more accepting and understanding. I'm friends with a girl I met in college who is in an LDR as well, not as much distance as mine but she still understands what I'm going through.

      My mom has always been very supportive, she says we're perfect for each other. My dad says he doesn't understand it and he doesn't think it really counts as a relationship because technically we've only spent a total of 3ish months together in person.

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        #33
        I was lucky as I met my SO on exchange & a week after we started dating my best friend came to visit. She told my parents he was a great guy & I think that put them at ease. They've always been supportive but I think in the beginning they didn't think it was going to last; it was just going to be a 2 month fling.

        But it isn't.... They met him in the summer & liked him immediately & they still like him. I'm really happy to have their support.

        One thing that annoys me is how my grandparents/ aunts/ uncles will only refer to my SO as my 'friend.' We've been dating almost 10 months & just because he doesn't live here doesn't mean he's not my boyfriend! Does anyone else have this problem?

        All my friends have been supportive, & many of them have met him. I'm happy to have their support too!

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          #34
          My parents love Chris very much and support us as does his =)

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            #35
            My family used to be against because when he left I suffered a lot for some days. Besides he's majoring in arts and mom is all against artists because of the typical "artists get no job and live in the streets". She told me a lot that we should break up (but I did not listen)... but eventually they understood my position, plus they met him and saw that he is really nice and that we love each other, and they are more supportive now Some friends of mine support while others have their doubts, but they support me when I'm feeling down. I guess they are good friends after all :')

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              #36
              My mum & stepdad are really supportive - I mean they can't not be considering they were in a LDR, before they closed the distance resulting in me, my mum and two sisters moving to Sweden. My sisters and stepbrothers are really supportive too, which I really like, my youngest sister - she's 11, she was possibly as excited as I was when my SO came over for the second time and she likes him so much that she asked me if we can share him! I'm not quite sure about the rest of my family, but I will be sure to find out when I am over visiting my SO next week (my SO and the rest of my family all live in England, and I live 1000 miles away in Sweden), as my Dad has asked if he can meet him and while I'm over next week I have asked if me and my SO can go out for dinner with the rest of my family so they get to meet him My friends are all really supportive too, well the ones that live here anyway After I'd seen my SO for the second time one of my friends asked me when we were going to get married!
              No time zone or distance or anything can keep us apart

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                #37
                My LDR is still new, so I haven't officially told many people. The other reason for that is that, coming from a conservative southern family...they have very dated ideas about meeting someone online, as I did. I've kinda brushed to subject before and it pretty much ended with "Anybody could be anybody and next thing you know, you're dating a serial killer!" LOL

                My mother on the other hand is very supportive. She met her boyfriend on a dating site so she doesn't have anything against the whole online thing, and is willing to respect the fact that we're long distance.
                "She is motivated by love. The world moves for love - it kneels before it in awe."

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                  #38
                  "I don't know how you do it" , "My bf would have cheated on my in two weeks" , "Isn't it hard?" , "Why don't you just date someone closer" etc. etc. etc.
                  "The Only Heaven I'll Be Sent To,
                  Is when I'm Alone With You."


                  Met: Sometime in 2016
                  Started Relationship: August 9, 2017
                  First Visit: December 7, 2017
                  Closed the distance: February 9, 2018

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                    #39
                    Originally posted by sweetshay View Post
                    "I don't know how you do it" , "My bf would have cheated on my in two weeks" , "Isn't it hard?" , "Why don't you just date someone closer" etc. etc. etc.
                    eeeem 1. we love eachother, 2. if he would cheated on you,why are you guys still together^^, 3. ok so I'll stop loving my bf and instead find some guy here... that's ooo easy! STUPID PEOPLE!

                    I can't believe people say this,some of my friends said that too -.-

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                      #40
                      My family is mutual.. They are happy that I'm happy but I don't thinly they will be thrilled about it until they actually meet him. Some friends are supportive some are not. People just don't understand LDRs unless they had been in one so you just have realize they just don't know what they are talking about lol and don't let it affect you. It works for me

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                        #41
                        Most of my friends are great about it. One or two have been really critical though.

                        My parents know that I am committed so they accept that.

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