Originally posted by 05eclipse05
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That being said, I don't have much more advice to offer than what's been given. To me it seems like the main thing is that you're expecting your girlfriend to treat you in the exact same way you would her. You'd sacrifice a job opportunity for her, do this for her, do that for her, so why won't she do the same? I think what's important to understand is that different people have different morals and different people have different levels to which they would go for their partner. You mentioned how you wouldn't do what someone else's SO does, but you can guarantee you'd do something he wouldn't. Would it not be the same with your girlfriend? You're going to find overlap in some places, and not in others, but the key point is to look at the situation realistically, be able to back something up with a valid and clear argument if you're going to argue it (a lot more people need more reason than "I'm uncomfortable" with it than people like you, who'd drop anything who made her uncomfortable), and to think about it in terms of what she needs and what she's wanting to do. As someone else mentioned, realistically, she would potentially (and likely) be giving up a job opportunity for this. Even if you would do it for her, she may not feel the same. Even if she's working at a job (full-time) already, this may be more where she wants to end up. Even if you can support her, she likely still wants her own independence, to make her own money, etc. Not all of your values are going to overlap, and I think people are trying to make that point that as opposed to thinking she should do something because you would, it's important to realise that you need to respect your partner's decisions even where you may not agree with them. This is not something that will directly effect you for any "rational" reason, so to speak, as in you're not scared she'll cheat, turn to sin, etc. It's simply that Vegas and her going away makes you uncomfortable for reasons you can't pinpoint. In my opinion, it's not fair to control or hinder your partner based on an insecurity and a problem within you.
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