I have around a couple grand saved up for my two month trip to see my SO, or will, by the time I leave. We had planned a trip to Galway since I wanted to see it last time but we hardly got to see everything in Dublin! We had also planned to do the Hawk Walk for my birthday. I asked him if he would be willing to take the money he wanted to spend on a ring and put it towards something we could do together to celebrate, and since we were both interested in the Hawk Walk, I have a feeling I'm going to want to put the money towards that and have a lovely day in Galway either after or before.
However, my cat has fallen ill and what we thought was an upper respiratory infection... probably isn't. :/ We're currently trying a second round of antibiotics and an antihistamine in the hopes it's either remnants of an infection or allergies, but if neither help, then it's going to require a series of tests, not limited to a blood panel and x-rays. It's possible he has polyps, or something worse, and the treatment could easily drain my bank account. Thing is that I'm not sure how to tell my SO this. While he may be more financially well off at that point, I would feel massively guilty not contributing even to our meals or to groceries, and given that my funding would be so limited, we would have to scrap many of our plans.
I'm trying not to worry, but money is often a huge stressor for me. It's summer, so while I will have students sparingly, it's not like when I'm working during the school year and have 20 hours a week to stand on. Not treating my cat is not an option, and if he needs a blood panel, he's getting one. He'll get whatever he needs to be better, but I'm not sure how to approach this situation with my partner. I'll still be going on the trip, but how do you tell your partner that there's a possibility you won't have money for the trip? What would you do in this situation?
ETA: I also want to note that up until a week ago, I was only financially responsible for my dog. My mother randomly decided that I would be fronting all the veterinary bills at the vet's office, so while I will do it and while I don't find it unfair, I was completely caught off guard. Already I have spent $200+ and if this does not work, it's another $200+ simply for the blood panel... so I'm stressed out completely because it's very possible I could go with nothing depending on what turns out is actually wrong with Kitty. :/
However, my cat has fallen ill and what we thought was an upper respiratory infection... probably isn't. :/ We're currently trying a second round of antibiotics and an antihistamine in the hopes it's either remnants of an infection or allergies, but if neither help, then it's going to require a series of tests, not limited to a blood panel and x-rays. It's possible he has polyps, or something worse, and the treatment could easily drain my bank account. Thing is that I'm not sure how to tell my SO this. While he may be more financially well off at that point, I would feel massively guilty not contributing even to our meals or to groceries, and given that my funding would be so limited, we would have to scrap many of our plans.
I'm trying not to worry, but money is often a huge stressor for me. It's summer, so while I will have students sparingly, it's not like when I'm working during the school year and have 20 hours a week to stand on. Not treating my cat is not an option, and if he needs a blood panel, he's getting one. He'll get whatever he needs to be better, but I'm not sure how to approach this situation with my partner. I'll still be going on the trip, but how do you tell your partner that there's a possibility you won't have money for the trip? What would you do in this situation?
ETA: I also want to note that up until a week ago, I was only financially responsible for my dog. My mother randomly decided that I would be fronting all the veterinary bills at the vet's office, so while I will do it and while I don't find it unfair, I was completely caught off guard. Already I have spent $200+ and if this does not work, it's another $200+ simply for the blood panel... so I'm stressed out completely because it's very possible I could go with nothing depending on what turns out is actually wrong with Kitty. :/
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