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    #31
    Originally posted by NeverToFarApartx3 View Post
    I've noticed that when she says she loves me.. her words have no emotions behind them..
    I agree with others. I did a relationship for three years because I was convinced even my own gut feeling about him was wrong. He didn't love me. He used me for his own entertainment. You are in the same situation. Whether you spend one year with her or ten, the only thing that's going to change is you're going to get so worn down that your self-esteem might take years to recover. Nothing will change except you will start internalising the problems more and more, seeing it as your fault/problem/etc., and spend more time wondering what you can do to fix the situation because nothing ever changes. When nothing ever changes when you want it to, that right there is proof you're not the problem. She does not love you and I'd go so far as to say she does not even care about you. She might not even be capable of that, as some abusers aren't. If you do make the decision to stay, getting used to this pain is something you're going to have to get used to. :/
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      #32
      I agree with everyone else. I know you love her, but girl, you deserve SO much better than that! It was just another thing that made you feel bad, she's never going to be a stable partner if she's pulling tricks on you like that. That's just so low and mean... Just don't take her crap anymore, be strong and move on! I know you can do it, and it will make you feel so much better in the long run

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        #33
        I know, I'm going to let her go tonight... well; I'm going to try.
        Rona A.
        &
        Tiffanee C.

        Together since | x3.29.2014- ♥
        Met online | x3.22.2014 - Met at | Whisper (app)
        Met in person | x4.22.2014 - Met in | Lincoln City, OR
        Moved in together | Jun. of 2013

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          #34
          You can do it! Just know that you definitely deserve a lot better than how she's treating you right now. You're a person, not a puppet that she can play with all she likes. And by the way, your dog looks really adorable. =)

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            #35
            Thank you; (:
            Rona A.
            &
            Tiffanee C.

            Together since | x3.29.2014- ♥
            Met online | x3.22.2014 - Met at | Whisper (app)
            Met in person | x4.22.2014 - Met in | Lincoln City, OR
            Moved in together | Jun. of 2013

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              #36
              Originally posted by NeverToFarApartx3 View Post
              I know, I'm going to let her go tonight... well; I'm going to try.
              Yoda says there is no try

              My suggestion would be to block her on all your sites that you can. Delete her contact details - and if you can't block her, make new ones for yourself so she can't find you. Don't bother going and having yet another break up scene. Don't go talk to her and give her another opening to manipulate you into staying and make you feel bad. Just cut her out of your life, like you'd cut the mold off the edge of a block of cheese. Get rid of her - no guilt - no apology - none of that shit. Put yourself first and just get the hell away from the crazy lady.
              Happily married to the little Canadian boy I never thought I'd meet in person

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                #37
                Originally posted by Zephii View Post
                Yoda says there is no try

                My suggestion would be to block her on all your sites that you can. Delete her contact details - and if you can't block her, make new ones for yourself so she can't find you. Don't bother going and having yet another break up scene. Don't go talk to her and give her another opening to manipulate you into staying and make you feel bad. Just cut her out of your life, like you'd cut the mold off the edge of a block of cheese. Get rid of her - no guilt - no apology - none of that shit. Put yourself first and just get the hell away from the crazy lady.
                I think this is a good idea, she hasn't shown you any courtesy or consideration, why should she get any from you. You deserve so much better.

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                  #38
                  Originally posted by Zephii View Post
                  Yoda says there is no try

                  My suggestion would be to block her on all your sites that you can. Delete her contact details - and if you can't block her, make new ones for yourself so she can't find you. Don't bother going and having yet another break up scene. Don't go talk to her and give her another opening to manipulate you into staying and make you feel bad. Just cut her out of your life, like you'd cut the mold off the edge of a block of cheese. Get rid of her - no guilt - no apology - none of that shit. Put yourself first and just get the hell away from the crazy lady.

                  i like that idea! defiantly do that

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                    #39
                    Do what Zephii said, it's the only way really.
                    Our separation of each other is an optical illusion of consciousness. ~Albert Einstein

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                      #40
                      I broke up with her this morning. I said I'm done.
                      She asked if I was done for good this time or what.
                      & I didn't reply.. I'll let her answer her own question.
                      Rona A.
                      &
                      Tiffanee C.

                      Together since | x3.29.2014- ♥
                      Met online | x3.22.2014 - Met at | Whisper (app)
                      Met in person | x4.22.2014 - Met in | Lincoln City, OR
                      Moved in together | Jun. of 2013

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                        #41
                        Good job on taking that step! Trust me, it's only going to get better from here on out. And that's a smart thing to do - end the conversation and let her figure it out on her own. Good luck with whatever you do, but don't feel like you have to leave here. =)

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                          #42
                          Originally posted by ST25 View Post
                          Good job on taking that step! Trust me, it's only going to get better from here on out. And that's a smart thing to do - end the conversation and let her figure it out on her own. Good luck with whatever you do, but don't feel like you have to leave here. =)
                          Thank you. It's hard not to text her back though, but I need to stay strong
                          Rona A.
                          &
                          Tiffanee C.

                          Together since | x3.29.2014- ♥
                          Met online | x3.22.2014 - Met at | Whisper (app)
                          Met in person | x4.22.2014 - Met in | Lincoln City, OR
                          Moved in together | Jun. of 2013

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                            #43
                            Seriously? Wow, ummm okay
                            If you stay with her, be cautious but my opinion, end it as harsh as it is, just end it

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                              #44
                              I did end it.
                              Rona A.
                              &
                              Tiffanee C.

                              Together since | x3.29.2014- ♥
                              Met online | x3.22.2014 - Met at | Whisper (app)
                              Met in person | x4.22.2014 - Met in | Lincoln City, OR
                              Moved in together | Jun. of 2013

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                                #45
                                Good for you, really. Continue staying strong, you can do it, it might sting for a while, but when you find someone who genuinely loves you, it'll be so worth it.
                                Our separation of each other is an optical illusion of consciousness. ~Albert Einstein

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