We Broke Up (previously Eclaire)

[ThePiedPiper]

I created a new account for several reasons, but I was previously Eclaire.

My SO (now ex) and I did break-up. I ended things this morning. I'm hoping to still be around to offer advice, and being honest, I love everyone here, not to mention now I get to work towards becoming a veteran again! Yay being out of the exclusive club again.

But I figured everyone here deserved to know what ultimately ended up happening.

[Zephii]

Welcome back! Not that you ever left, but you know what I mean.

Of course, we're all nosey and want to know what happened, or at least I am but I'm trying to be respectful and not ask. Are you making a clean break or doing the "lets be friends" thing?

I'm so glad you're sticking around either way, you have a wealth of knowledge and I like stalking your posts.

[ThePiedPiper]

Clean break. I'm not in a place where I could keep up contact and still heal from it, and I've never really been in agreement with "let's be friends," at least not when there are still legitimate feelings from one side (his) and other complicated feelings (vulnerability, hurt, guilt etc.) on the other. :/

[snow_girl]

Glad you went though with it. Hopefully its a big weight off your shoulders? I'm happy to hear you are sticking around, although its going to take some getting used to with this new name of yours!

[ST25]

Ah, I'm sorry to hear that things ended between you guys. I hope it wasn't a messy breakup or anything like that. But it's good that you're staying around the forum!

[Shepard-Fowkes]

Of course, we're all nosey and want to know what happened, or at least I am but I'm trying to be respectful and not ask. Are you making a clean break or doing the "lets be friends" thing?

Too late for being respectful I guess! Lol.

Eclaire/PiedPiper, you've always been a pillar of this community and, in recent months, a very good friend of mine. I hope you find healing during this time and I hope we never lose your excellent advice.

[lyonsgirl]

I agree with Zephii & snow. I'm very glad you're sticking around (and hope you'll keep posting pictures of your babies!!!) but it will take some time (hopefully not long!) to get used to your new name.

[Moon]

I'm sorry you have to go through this, but we've got your back. I'm glad you're sticking around.

[Kanga]

I'm so sorry. I was really rooting for you two. I hope you're ok and everything.

[ThePiedPiper]

Thank you everyone for your support. It was a tear filled day for both he and I but he finally agreed to give me space and I'm hoping he'll continue to respect that. I am hurting but I also believe I made the right decision for me and for where I'm at. I tend to forget, in my relationships, that I'm a part of them. I'm sure I will go through grief (happens to the best of us ) and I will have my ups and downs, but being sure of my decision has set my mind a little bit at ease.

[Verojoon]

wow... That kinda caught me by surprise.. I guess I missed some threads... or something. You always have such amazing advice that I'm really glad you are sticking around!! I'm also glad that you are sure of your decision and that you are taking care of yourself and your needs!! Actually I am so happy for you for that, that I wish I could just hug you!

[Tooki]

Woah! You have the full resources of a hardened crew of distance-handlers at your disposal.

You'll make it through ok!

[rixue]

wow... That kinda caught me by surprise.. I guess I missed some threads... or something. You always have such amazing advice that I'm really glad you are sticking around!! I'm also glad that you are sure of your decision and that you are taking care of yourself and your needs!! Actually I am so happy for you for that, that I wish I could just hug you!

^This

Hope you take care of yourself and spend time with your new fur babies Glad to know you are staying!

[Katelyn313]

So sorry to hear this, but I'm glad you're doing what's best for you (I remember how hard that is). As with everyone else, I'm really glad you're staying. Take care and know we're all here for you and thank you for everything you've helped me through personally and everything you've done for the community.

[ThePiedPiper]

Thank you everyone.

For as much as I post, I tended to keep a lot of things about our relationship private. I don't at this point feel too comfortable disclosing details, but I didn't mean to catch anyone by surprise, at least not unpleasantly. It was simply a very private, intrinsic decision. I didn't seek much counsel on it.