My SO and I have been in a long distance relationship for almost three years. We became re-aquainted through Facebook; we live 400 miles away. He's 51 and I'm 49. We dated in college, so did have a previous relationship for nine months back then.
I was visiting him last weekend. Monday morning he was seemed agitated, and starting talking about how overwhelmed he is. He's been stressed out about work since October. Anyway, he told me he wanted to "take a break" so he can have time and space to think about what he really wants.
Since we obviously don't see each other on a daily basis, I don't get the "take a break". I didn't say much, I told him that I don't do "breaks", only break ups. He said he didn't want to break up, just take a step back to evaluate our relationship.
That was last Monday, he's e-mailed me short e-mails, called a few times (I didn't talk to him), texted me and sent me red roses for Valentine's Day. I've not responded to any of his communication; if he wants time and space, why does he keep contacting me?
An old friend died last night, and he commented on Facebook.
He's also told me that he'd like to talk to me, not about our relationship, but just general stuff. I don't know if it's a good idea.
This is all surprising. He's always been very even keel and low drama. I always felt that we had a good relationship, not lots of arguing, etc.
So, should I talk to him, or continue no contact to give him a good idea of life without me, and also to give him what he asked for in the first place.
Thanks!
I was visiting him last weekend. Monday morning he was seemed agitated, and starting talking about how overwhelmed he is. He's been stressed out about work since October. Anyway, he told me he wanted to "take a break" so he can have time and space to think about what he really wants.
Since we obviously don't see each other on a daily basis, I don't get the "take a break". I didn't say much, I told him that I don't do "breaks", only break ups. He said he didn't want to break up, just take a step back to evaluate our relationship.
That was last Monday, he's e-mailed me short e-mails, called a few times (I didn't talk to him), texted me and sent me red roses for Valentine's Day. I've not responded to any of his communication; if he wants time and space, why does he keep contacting me?
An old friend died last night, and he commented on Facebook.
He's also told me that he'd like to talk to me, not about our relationship, but just general stuff. I don't know if it's a good idea.
This is all surprising. He's always been very even keel and low drama. I always felt that we had a good relationship, not lots of arguing, etc.
So, should I talk to him, or continue no contact to give him a good idea of life without me, and also to give him what he asked for in the first place.
Thanks!
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