Just wondering how many of you have had the exes discussion? How did it go? If you haven't, why not?
We've sorta touched down on it a few times. Mostly because we met through one of my exes. That ex and the one before that had scarred me a bit, so I felt like I should let my boyfriend know. As far as his exes, they've been brought up from time to time when its relevant. Just recently one of them has been trying to contact him again with "googly eyes" as he puts it. And his birthday just past, so another posted on his Facebook wall. We talked about it so he could assure me there was no way he was interested in them and he told me about the conditions of their breakups. He touched on that they were dating for awhile, but I'm not someone who wants to hear about exes. If I need to hear something to calm me down and make me feel better, then it's fine. But generally I don't want to know because I end up comparing myself to them in my head. Often times I get jealous of things they got to do with my boyfriend that I haven't had the opportunity yet. So, we're saving any serious discussions until we've at least met in person.
I also don't use Facebook mainly for this reason. As he still has his exes friended, I figure it's better for me to not see anything they write. Logic doesn't always clue in immediately when I see some girl telling my boyfriend, "I love you! I miss you! XOXOXO" -_-;; Give me a few minutes and I'll realize that it's being said TO him and not the other way around. But to avoid stupid bouts of jealousy, I avoid it. I wondered why he still had them friended. He told me that he has known them for awhile. But I mentioned he doesn't talk to them and doesn't want to. He said that was true and he didn't particularly like them, but it was like he wants to be friends like before, but knows that he can't. I don't really understand it as I cut communication entirely from my exes. :/ He also never uses his FB and keeps it up because people want him to have it. I was a bit annoyed that his status doesn't say he has a girlfriend, but he assured me that they know about me. I dislike Facebook XD
We've sorta touched down on it a few times. Mostly because we met through one of my exes. That ex and the one before that had scarred me a bit, so I felt like I should let my boyfriend know. As far as his exes, they've been brought up from time to time when its relevant. Just recently one of them has been trying to contact him again with "googly eyes" as he puts it. And his birthday just past, so another posted on his Facebook wall. We talked about it so he could assure me there was no way he was interested in them and he told me about the conditions of their breakups. He touched on that they were dating for awhile, but I'm not someone who wants to hear about exes. If I need to hear something to calm me down and make me feel better, then it's fine. But generally I don't want to know because I end up comparing myself to them in my head. Often times I get jealous of things they got to do with my boyfriend that I haven't had the opportunity yet. So, we're saving any serious discussions until we've at least met in person.
I also don't use Facebook mainly for this reason. As he still has his exes friended, I figure it's better for me to not see anything they write. Logic doesn't always clue in immediately when I see some girl telling my boyfriend, "I love you! I miss you! XOXOXO" -_-;; Give me a few minutes and I'll realize that it's being said TO him and not the other way around. But to avoid stupid bouts of jealousy, I avoid it. I wondered why he still had them friended. He told me that he has known them for awhile. But I mentioned he doesn't talk to them and doesn't want to. He said that was true and he didn't particularly like them, but it was like he wants to be friends like before, but knows that he can't. I don't really understand it as I cut communication entirely from my exes. :/ He also never uses his FB and keeps it up because people want him to have it. I was a bit annoyed that his status doesn't say he has a girlfriend, but he assured me that they know about me. I dislike Facebook XD
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