who asked who out ?

[bethyylovee]

No one asked anyone out....it just sort of evolved into a relationship. Hahahah

[emsimes]

No one asked anyone out....it just sort of evolved into a relationship. Hahahah

This is exactly what happened to me as well

[mellif]

Him. <3 Although there was nothing particularly special about that day besides when he asked me out-- it wasn't until a few days later that things began to become more like a relationship. Up until that point, we were always just really close friends, even though we obviously liked and cared for each other. We had to transition a bit I suppose.

[differentcountries]

It should always be the man doing the proposing.

My SO used to complain that "a guy should do that" when I did romantic stuff to him, like I made a giant heart of fall leaves and sent him the picture. Then he shut the fuck up because anything I do is the best darn thing he had had in his life. I am assertative and he is not so much, and he feels loved by being "read", interpreted and catered to - like a lot of women do. What good did it do him to cling to rules about women and men? The important question is how HE feels, not an abstract guy. If a man wants to take the lead always, but all means let him if he is good at it! But don't limit what could be beautiful in your relationship, because one size fits all does not suit love.

[mellif]

But don't limit what could be beautiful in your relationship, because one size fits all does not suit love.

Perfect wording for this. I agree

[Markoslav]

It's often that way, but not sure why it "should be" that way.

I just took the traditional approach, and also because it looks pretty beta for a girl to propose to the guy.

[Markoslav]

My SO used to complain that "a guy should do that" when I did romantic stuff to him, like I made a giant heart of fall leaves and sent him the picture. Then he shut the fuck up because anything I do is the best darn thing he had had in his life. I am assertative and he is not so much, and he feels loved by being "read", interpreted and catered to - like a lot of women do. What good did it do him to cling to rules about women and men? The important question is how HE feels, not an abstract guy. If a man wants to take the lead always, but all means let him if he is good at it! But don't limit what could be beautiful in your relationship, because one size fits all does not suit love.

Yeah, I actually agree. I just meant the proposing parts though.

[TwoThree]

I just took the traditional approach, and also because it looks pretty beta for a girl to propose to the guy.

Hate to break it to you, but you'll find that many "traditional approaches" to anything are stupid in general. Dunno what you mean by beta, though. Too lazy to google it.

[CynicalQuixotic]

Hate to break it to you, but you'll find that many "traditional approaches" to anything are stupid in general. Dunno what you mean by beta, though. Too lazy to google it.

It's common terminology among the pick up artist community. Read at your own risk.

[TwoThree]

[CynicalQuixotic]

You and I both, dear. You and I both.

[sarahjane1992]

My SO and I met online. But he messaged me first! I'm so glad he did. <3 We started talking and got closer and we both knew we didn't want to be with anyone else.
After a month or so, we made it official.
I guess you could say it just sort of happened. And it's been amazing ever since. <3

[Markoslav]

Hate to break it to you, but you'll find that many "traditional approaches" to anything are stupid in general. Dunno what you mean by beta, though. Too lazy to google it.

Aye. Many of the traditionally approaches are stupid, 'tis why I forwarded with caution. Also, it's a fallacy I believe. Though, with this, I meant it logically as well. I mean: a girl proposing to a guy is really, really weak on the man's end, unless it was some sort of joke or something. Also yes, beta is used by pick-up artists and such, but believe me it is a proper term to be used when referring to [removed] on okCupid.

[CynicalQuixotic]

Aye. Many of the traditionally approaches are stupid, 'tis why I forwarded with caution. Also, it's a fallacy I believe. Though, with this, I meant it logically as well. I mean: a girl proposing to a guy is really, really weak on the man's end, unless it was some sort of joke or something. Also yes, beta is used by pick-up artists and such, but believe me it is a proper term to be used when referring to [removed] on okCupid.

It's a good thing you're still technically a child, or I would say that all hope is lost for you to ever become a decent human being.

[CanadianGirl]

I just took the traditional approach, and also because it looks pretty beta for a girl to propose to the guy.

The only nice thing I can think of is that I'm glad my SO thinks nothing like this. Also, edit out the f-word from your last post, or I'm PMing Michelle. It's not acceptable on this site at ALL.