What's the longest you've gone with no communication?

[Miasmata]

I understand when the other person is busy with work, and in special circumstances, but what if your SO had a whole day off, and wasn't particularly busy, and he told you he wasn't going to be busy and yet you hear nothing from him?

My SO told me had no plans for this weekend, and was going to be home, and yet there's only silence from his end.

There have been days like that where there turns out to be no reason for it other than he just forgets or doesn't think about it.

It irritates me so much. But then is it possible he just doesn't feel like texting or anything and just wants to not have to do anything?

I get being forgetful and having issues with social interaction (I know all too well how that is), but how do you forget to talk to the person you love for a whole free weekend? Am I the only one finding this weird and concerning?

[differentcountries]

I understand when the other person is busy with work, and in special circumstances, but what if your SO had a whole day off, and wasn't particularly busy, and he told you he wasn't going to be busy and yet you hear nothing from him?

My SO told me had no plans for this weekend, and was going to be home, and yet there's only silence from his end.

There have been days like that where there turns out to be no reason for it other than he just forgets or doesn't think about it.

It irritates me so much. But then is it possible he just doesn't feel like texting or anything and just wants to not have to do anything?

I would actually be glad if that happened because that would mean he was enjoying himself doing something that made him loose track of time, like watching movies or fotball or talking to friends. Of course, my SO usually don't have "no plans for the weekend" because he works literally every day in season. But off season when he is not working, I worry more about him getting bored than him not being in touch.

If you have something to say to your SO, you can text him. Possable with a suggestion, like, hope you are enjoying your alone time, wish you to have a good time playing games etc.

[rufuz]

Since we started talking 7 months ago we texted each and every day... It never happened that we didn't talk in 24 hours. Sometimes it's only a few messages a day when we are both busy with work and stuff. But I couldn't imagine not talking to him in one whole day. Hope it'll never happen.

[Lostviolinist]

A few hours. When we can, we video chat. When we can't we send text messages. If we're too busy to chat we'll at least send pictures and a few messages.

[Lea-le-Lea]

The longest ever was over a long time ago, when I was having a melt down, and that was not even 24 hours. We weren't arguing, but I wasn't sure I was over my ex (which I find so dumb now, because why would I even want to be with him again. Dumb me, I know), so we tried to lessen communication to get down to what I was really feeling. In the end I only lasted maybe 20 hours not talking to him and I broke, which is what made me more sure that I could never be without him, even though I had technically never been with him physically. Since then (and before we closed the distance) we don't even go an hour without talking. Unless of course I go to the store (I don't have a phone, only my US phone with wi-fi).

[OzzysIzzy]

1 and a half days is the maximum time during when we once didn't talk to each other. And it was because his Internet was down!!! He drove many miles to find a place where he could send me a short message so that I wouldn't worry.

[Polly]

I would actually be glad if that happened because that would mean he was enjoying himself doing something that made him loose track of time, like watching movies or fotball or talking to friends. Of course, my SO usually don't have "no plans for the weekend" because he works literally every day in season. But off season when he is not working, I worry more about him getting bored than him not being in touch.

If you have something to say to your SO, you can text him. Possable with a suggestion, like, hope you are enjoying your alone time, wish you to have a good time playing games etc.

I wish I could be as understanding as you, but I guess I feel anxious and a little weird when I don't hear from him for a whole day. I know for me, even if I'm enjoying myself doing something, I'll take the time to text him to share with him what I'm doing, like if I'm out and I see something interesting or am eating a nice dinner out I'll send him a photo. Even when I'm enjoying myself I think about him and can't imagine not communicating for a whole day.

Eventually I did send him a quick message at the end of the night when I didn't hear from him, but then I felt the need to tell him that I don't like it when we go for 24 hours or more without communication. He was at first a little irritated by it, but then he said he understood. When we talked the next day it was a little weird, like we were both a little apprehensive talking to each other, and it didn't feel as natural. I have been feeling really frustrated lately since we haven't visited for 3 months, and our visits are usually short due to neither of us having enough vacation time from work to take off to see each other.

What's hard is when I feel frustrated and sad, I come off less affectionate, not because I don't love him, but because I just am unhappy with being long-distance. It makes me worry that he feels I'm not happy with him, and that I don't care for him as much, when really I'm just feeling anxious and worried and that makes me come off distant.

Has anyone else had that experience when you're feeling off or sad or anxious about the long distance and it makes you come off distant or cold to your SO when really you still love them? It's just how I react to the long distance sometimes.

[80anthea]

It's definitely less than 24hours. I'm sorry but being 'busy' is a lame excuse. It takes less than a minute to send a text/IM to just say that you're okay but busy.

[snow]

I agree with 80anthea, it takes a couple seconds to shoot a quick message. A friend of mine is in a LDR aswell and his girlfriend gets upset every single time he doesn't do that, because it would take him a couple seconds to let her know and she would not have to run into her dorm room to sit alone at her computer, eating by herself waiting.

I always made sure to let my man know when something came up, because life happens and you can't always control it, but you can control how much thought you put into the relationship with another person.

Polly, some people get distant when they are frustrated, it's just a personality trait. If you explain this to your SO, I'm sure they will understand. My husband does the same thing, I just give him his space then so he can cool off and then we can either talk it out or simply let it go.

[Colourfuldreamsx]

12 hours whilst she flew back to the US, it felt like forever.

[Zen]

Five days. We weren't even together yet at that point, but he gave me a couple weeks notice that he'd be away and a copy of his schedule.

Generally though, we speak every day. Even in instances where we're annoyed or busy we make the effort to say something - even if it's just a short text to say good morning/night. I consider it the courteous thing to do.

[sensitivesoul]

We talk every day. We usually talk at night before bed and text whenever we get a second during the day. I have to have frequent communication with her, since that's all we have right now.

[Suze197]

I think it was around 9 hrs, I did let him off as he was fishing on a boat in the middle of France!

[Kapwned]

Even since before we started dating it honestly hasn't been longer than 10 hours. We both have our phones on us all the time. We text each other good morning, talk via Skype a little bit in the morning on days I have off just before he's off to work (Tuesday and Thursday), he texts me during his break at work, we talk via Skype call at night and often play games together, and text a little before bed. I guess I'm needier than some people but if we can't be physically together I want there to be some effort to talk every day.

[differentcountries]

I wish I could be as understanding as you, but I guess I feel anxious and a little weird when I don't hear from him for a whole day. I know for me, even if I'm enjoying myself doing something, I'll take the time to text him to share with him what I'm doing, like if I'm out and I see something interesting or am eating a nice dinner out I'll send him a photo. Even when I'm enjoying myself I think about him and can't imagine not communicating for a whole day.

Eventually I did send him a quick message at the end of the night when I didn't hear from him, but then I felt the need to tell him that I don't like it when we go for 24 hours or more without communication. He was at first a little irritated by it, but then he said he understood. When we talked the next day it was a little weird, like we were both a little apprehensive talking to each other, and it didn't feel as natural. I have been feeling really frustrated lately since we haven't visited for 3 months, and our visits are usually short due to neither of us having enough vacation time from work to take off to see each other.

What's hard is when I feel frustrated and sad, I come off less affectionate, not because I don't love him, but because I just am unhappy with being long-distance. It makes me worry that he feels I'm not happy with him, and that I don't care for him as much, when really I'm just feeling anxious and worried and that makes me come off distant.

Has anyone else had that experience when you're feeling off or sad or anxious about the long distance and it makes you come off distant or cold to your SO when really you still love them? It's just how I react to the long distance sometimes.

I don't think I am that understanding! Often I am busy myself. Also, we very rarely go 24 hours without being in touch, in fact most days we text good morning, text during my or his lunch break, text after my work around four about our plans for the evening /arrange time to Skype and then Skype. If we missed Skype well usually both complain about it the next day...

I can understand your frustration about visits, we had it like that a lot before our visits became longer and shorter between. Also, he closes up when he feels to vounerable, but we talk about it a lot, I have to because otherwise I can't help feeling that he stopped loving me.

Sometimes me or SO are so busy at work it is hard to text, usually we will know and warn each other about this beforehand. Still, stuff can happen at work. SO has had days where he had no breaks and didn't get to eat anything until late. Then I don't complain he didn't answer my text...