What's the longest you've gone with no communication?

[Neia0202]

We used to rarely go even a day without communication, and even then it'd have a good reason (no internet acces). But currently it's been a week, we're going through a rough patch :/

[TheSteelAngel]

We used to rarely go even a day without communication, and even then it'd have a good reason (no internet acces). But currently it's been a week, we're going through a rough patch :/

Hopefully you both can get through it and make up soon

[Ella85]

A day maybe... even if something comes up he will message me later in the day to let me know what happened. If he's sick it'll be a message letting me know and I'll give him his time to get well and let him know I'm thinking of him. We usually skype 2-3 times a week and maybe 2-3 phone calls a week. But we text to email every day even if it's just one or two messages (usually a lot more). I worry if he disappeared for days on end without a word and I would likely call him to make sure everything is ok as is out of character.

[Polly]

Today we went almost 24 hours without any communication. No texts, no emails, nothing.

He needs way less communication than me, and I will bring up how I like some form of communication every day even if it's just a good night text. Then he tries for a week, and then it goes back to how it was before (little communication). Then I bring up again how I need more communication, then he tries. A week passes it goes back to how it was before. This cycle repeats itself ad nauseum. It's like he doesn't get it! Why do I have to repeat myself over and over!

He is definitely an very independent person, who doesn't need much communication in a relationship to feel OK.

[differentcountries]

Have you tried to call him at certain times during the day? In his lunch break etc?

[brandonsgirl]

honestly, I don't know how you guys can go that long without talking. My SO and I text throughout the day. Lately he has been spending time with his family and I go crazy if I haven't heard from him in 6 hours. He and I lived together for 3 years (he came to Canada illegally and was taken by immigration 6 months ago). I have not seen him since they took him. Its been really hard. I have severe depression normally, and this has intensified it. Today was his brother's last day in town and I haven't heard from my SO in 19 hours. Its killing me!

[R&R]

Over the last couple of months it's only been one or two texts in the morning and that's it. I may get a phone call every few days. He's really busy now and it's going to ramp up even more before winter hits. I just started back to school full-time while also working 40-45 hours a week. This is going to really start limiting how much contact he receives from me too. All of this is leading up to us being able to close the distance by next summer/fall, so limited communication now is going to pay off later.

It's important to have our own lives apart from each other so that one person isn't just sitting by the phone waiting. Can those of you who are my age imagine doing the LD thing when we were teens, early 20's? No cells, no text messaging, no computers. We'd have to be sitting by a phone plugged into the wall or wait for the actual mail to be delivered. There would be no leaving the house if we didn't realize we still have our own lives to get out there and live!

[Alyhere]

I think in the earlier days we might have gone up to a week. But for the past year no longer than maybe 4 days. He can disappear on me when he's busy (he was just at a festival where he disappeared on me almost completely for 3-4 days. I hate it, but I also know him and know he just does not check his phone no matter what when he's having fun lol. Usually we do talk daily though.

[Unicorn26]

We communicate every single day without fail. He always chats with me before I go to sleep, whether it be text, phone call or FaceTime and I always wake to a GM text from him. If there wasn't one I'd worry!!! He will text me as soon as he wakes up, on average we send about 100 texts a day. I know that's quite a lot but we are hopelessly in love with each other and that's the way we like it.

We keep in pretty much constant contact, if he's going out to the store he will tell me and vice versa. I guess our situation is a little more intense than most because he did disappear on me once and he was actually seriously ill and fighting for his life. Ever since then I do get really worried if he disappears. He understands this he makes a huge effort to stay in touch and I really appreciate that and I tell him so.

We both have mild anxiety issues, we are very very similar in the way we think and are lucky that we seem it have this incredible connection. I knew something was badly wrong when he disappeared on me that time, and the scars run deep. He said to me once that he would never give me sh*t about worrying about him and he would never tell me to get over it. He has been true to his word. And that's why I love him sooooooo much.

[Stellasman]

I am with you completely my SO well not resold to a text if she is watching TV or has a visitor.

[User]

Few days I think

[thaorabbitnguyen]

What does it mean?

I am with you completely my SO well not resold to a text if she is watching TV or has a visitor.

We used to not contact for a week.. After then, i sent msg to him and share some feelings of mine.. not much, i just told him apparently we 're in a awkward situation. He complaint that other friends of him he just shoots msg and they would answer him whenever they have time and asked me " do you know what i mean?"
I don't really understand him.
Can anybody understand?

[thaorabbitnguyen]

We used to not contact for a week.. After then, i sent msg to him and share some feelings of mine.. not much, i just told him apparently we 're in a awkward situation. He complaint that other friends of him he just shoots msg and they would answer him whenever they have time and asked me " do you know what i mean?"
I don't really understand him. We're just good friends, but i have feelings with him
Can anybody understand?

[cdnsongbird]

I'm new here, but this question is exactly what brought me here. My Filipino BF and I talk almost every evening for me here in western Canada (he messages me on Skype when he wakes up) but it has now been a week. The longest we have gone without contact before that was four o five days and I was pretty upset both times. This past week, I was so busy that I almost didn't notice until my day off yesterday. That's when I started worrying. In fairness, he is not in the wealthiest part of the Phils and his internet is crap. I personally saw how bad it was when I visited there for two weeks last fall. We have been together only seven months, but his parents love me and his sister and I love each other as well. The only thing I can think is that the internet issues combined with the fact that he has finally started a new business have conspired against us, but my mind is going to very scary and sad places.

[differentcountries]

Don't let your mind go scary places. Give him a call.