What's the longest you've gone with no communication?

[cdnsongbird]

Thank you! I finally heard from him tonight. He had been trying to send messages through Skype but I was not getting them. I wish I could afford to call the Philippines, but that's some major long distance! All's well that ends well, I guess. Deep down, I believed he would come back but I let myself get overtired and silly.

[thaorabbitnguyen]

I'm new here, but this question is exactly what brought me here. My Filipino BF and I talk almost every evening for me here in western Canada (he messages me on Skype when he wakes up) but it has now been a week. The longest we have gone without contact before that was four o five days and I was pretty upset both times. This past week, I was so busy that I almost didn't notice until my day off yesterday. That's when I started worrying. In fairness, he is not in the wealthiest part of the Phils and his internet is crap. I personally saw how bad it was when I visited there for two weeks last fall. We have been together only seven months, but his parents love me and his sister and I love each other as well. The only thing I can think is that the internet issues combined with the fact that he has finally started a new business have conspired against us, but my mind is going to very scary and sad places.

You 're right.. anw, after all, we 're still women. We can be upset, mad at them or anythings else but finally, that we could just be worried and think of them
He re-contacted me after I was mad at him a bit and kept silent then. Do you guys think i 'm a special in his heart? or just a bit special..

[Honour]

The longest was four days of no contact, before that, a few hours. But what felt like several loooooong hours.

[Dwessie]

A bunch of days when our net was out. It wasn't even to punish me, it was to force someone else who was living with us at the time to go to the library and apply for jobs instead of play games.
It got fixed when they realized how much it affected me, and how they started to miss me when I'd just take all my crap to a Hastings/Starbucks/Anywhere-With-Wifi

[Chris516]

I haven't heard from my boyfriend since yesterday night (a goodnight text), and it's making me feel antsy. No texts or anything since. Hasn't responded to a text I sent him this morning. He's probably busy but we also haven't had a proper call since last Wed.

Going without a call for a week is stretching it for me, and it would help if I even received some kind of communication, even if it was really short.

What's the longest any of you have gone without any type of communication (texting, emails, calls)?

When I was an LDR with my ex(fiance). The beginning was every day, up to six hours a night. By four years later. It had reached weeks between communication. Any kind of communication.

[Chris516]

Thank you! I finally heard from him tonight. He had been trying to send messages through Skype but I was not getting them. I wish I could afford to call the Philippines, but that's some major long distance! All's well that ends well, I guess. Deep down, I believed he would come back but I let myself get overtired and silly.

This may seem a slight bit impersonal. As opposed to using the phone. Have you tried 'voice chat' on Yahoo Messenger or on Facebook? I have used Yahoo Messenger with a longtime friend in Canada. I have used Facebook with a friend in Arizona.

[differentcountries]

Thank you! I finally heard from him tonight. He had been trying to send messages through Skype but I was not getting them. I wish I could afford to call the Philippines, but that's some major long distance! All's well that ends well, I guess. Deep down, I believed he would come back but I let myself get overtired and silly.

That is why we have various ways of getting in touch: Facebook, mail, phone apps, phone etc. We make phone calls through Viber, usually. When his phone/computer was not
in order, he let me know through Facebook.

[Chifuyu4]

About a week. We kept missing each other on Skype...

[sasad]

Longest was 4 hours .. mom had a heart issues and he was in ER with no way to text out... Other then that, we like sending smilies or just I love you throught the day. We are both in Tech fields so on the laptop as well as inet all.the.time.

[Chris516]

Thank you! I finally heard from him tonight. He had been trying to send messages through Skype but I was not getting them. I wish I could afford to call the Philippines, but that's some major long distance! All's well that ends well, I guess. Deep down, I believed he would come back but I let myself get overtired and silly.

Get something in addition to Skype. Either Yahoo Messenger, or use Facebook chat.

[Chris516]

Thank you! I finally heard from him tonight. He had been trying to send messages through Skype but I was not getting them. I wish I could afford to call the Philippines, but that's some major long distance! All's well that ends well, I guess. Deep down, I believed he would come back but I let myself get overtired and silly.

Get something in addition to Skype. Either Yahoo Messenger, or use Facebook chat.

[rache82]

I know this is an old thread, but I'm knew to this site. my SO and I can only voice chat no more than once a week unfortunately, but that's the way it has to be. However, we text every day and have done since we transitioned from friendship into more. I know if I don't hear from him in either my morning or his, I get quite anxious and start to jump to conclusions if I don't keep myself in check. But a friend of mine who's been in a lot more LDR's than I said, don't fuss if it's been up to 24 hours, because it could be any number of reasons; it does make sense, so I've been a lot better about it.

[xxcazaxx]

I hear from my OH every day, some days not as much as others though (I work 12.5 hour shifts and so when I finish work it is gone midnight at his end and in the next few weeks the clocks will be changing here so the time difference will be bigger).

[rache82]

Doesn't that just suck! Our clocks went forward, and their clocks will go back soon; yay for going from a fourteen hour difference to 16; whoever said life was easy. *sigh

[rwarren]

OMG you folks who have daily and almost-daily chats are soooo lucky. Mine goes and hides in his lair, and there are times when I didn't have answers to my emails for months. When I would phone, let it ring 10x, no answer. When I send a letter, or care package, and get no ack of receipt. You want to dial up the frequency and intensity, but at the same time you're afraid of scaring him off.

I know that I can spend way less to call him than he does to call me. We are too far apart (and too broke!) to just hop on a plane to say hi. I crave more frequent contact, but I know that whatever I do get is precious and worth savoring. (sigh)