Keeping your LDR secret

[Snowy.Winter]

I kept my LDR secret. Well to be honest, even if it wasn't Long Distance, I would've still kept it secret. I only told one friend, and she was my best friend at the time. Then four/five months later, people found out and then a month after that, I told my Mum. I wasn't ashamed of my relationship or anything like that, I just didn't think it was any-one's business whether I was in a relationship with someone or not.

[Snowy.Winter]

I just realised that I posted about this when the thread was new :L

[Andy]

Don't let it get to you hon. My only family is my brother and his family, and they won't listen to or ask about Ian at all, as if he doesn't exist. They refuse to accept our unorthodox relationship, even though they met him for the first time 9 years ago and he has been here repeatedly, I text him constantly, and pass on his regards to them, but unless he is here in person, to them he doesn't exist. Some people just can't believe love can be this profound and enduring.

I've never kept Ian a secret, but he is treated as though he doesn't exist by everyone but my son and a few close friends.

Everyone there knows me as Ian's best friend, but only recently have his folks started to understand our relationship isn't just going to go away. LOL!

Awwwww that's so sad

Especially since he's been in your life for so long! It's not like it's only been going on for a matter of weeks and they're still getting their heads around it! That's rubbish

I just realised that I posted about this when the thread was new :L

Oops

[DarkSolitary]

I told some of my friends right away and my parents didn't know right away... I was scared of their reactions. I told my mom about a week after me and my SO became official but being the intuitive one she is figured that me and Carlos would've become a couple eventually :P My stepdad didnt know until my 18th birthday. I was too scared to tell him about it >.<

[MoonWatcher]

For the first time ever, I kept it a total secret that I really liked someone (which is weird, because we were close-distance...).

I knew that David was different then anyone else I had ever met. I wanted to wait to make sure things were seriously happening before I told anyone about it. Also the fact that I was in love with him from the start would have caused a few raised eyebrows, I imagine. He's very shy, so I had to be patient with him and let him take the initiative. I'm very much an independent extrovert, so I wasn't use to that at all Also, I'd just had a rocky break-up with a guy from the same group of friends, so I wanted to be careful for my ex's feelings along with my own.

Then, the night before he left, we became official. Apparently everybody kind of got vibes beforehand, though. They were all fine with it.

Well, all except his Mom. She had to find out we were official on Facebook after he'd already left for Japan >.< Whoops...

...Wait, why am I whoopsing? It's Davids fault for not telling her!

[angel85]

It is out in the open of our relationship . There was no problem letting it out . I just thought i would let everyone know how it went . First its true . Its not that great to hide it . Because its really hard to keep it quiet . Glad that its going a positive way . My parents turn out to be very understanding about it . I even have support from his mom . I feel so relief that I don't have to hide this . He was really open to my parents about his feelings for me . He even told them that he is not playing around and that wants a future with me .

[heatherotic]

I kept my relationship from my mom for a little bit, but that's because when I tell her I'm in a relationship, it mysteriously ends two days later. It's crazy. I didn't clarify how we met, so she found out a week before I saw him for the first time. Lol.

When it comes to everyone else, I'm very upfront about how we met and everything. I don't see the point in hiding it, especially since I'm one of those people that's gonna do me, regardless of what anyone says.

[Pisces]

I've been keeping my LDR a secret from the start. Only a few select friends know I'm in a relationship at all, and even fewer know my SO by name (whether they know about the relationship or not). The reason I have to do so is because my parents would never trust him, as we met online, and if I defied them (I would, for him) then they could cut me of from the financial support that I desperately need. I'm unemployed and in college, so my parents are a huge crutch. One day I won't have to keep it a secret, but until that day, no one in my family will ever know.

[loveknowsnodistance27]

I didn't keep my relationship a secret....I burst through the door screaming "Anthony asked me out! Anthony asked me out!". Lol. My SO kept his relationship with me a secret from his mom...not too sure why. He's not close with her. She's known me for a long time, seeing as Anthony and I have been best friends for 12 years, I'd figure she'd be happy. She ended up finding out a few weeks later from the next door neighbors lol. She wasn't mad at him, and she was very happy for us! =]

[ErikaH]

Ah, this thread looked perfect for me. I kept my LDR a secret from my parents for a whole 2 years. I just recently told them, and it was like a giant weight had been lifted on my shoulders. My dad was indifferent, my mom was upset. She still is... She's denying his existence as of right now, but still allowing me to talk to him, thankfully. She'll come around eventually.

[lovemnmz]

I couldnt keep mine a secret, i had to tell my mom the day he asked me to be his gf lol my mom knew him already and had always kojed around that we would end up dating lol but she was joking and well it came true, but my SO wanted to keep it a secret for a while, i guess he wasnt sure how his parents or well family would react but in the end his whole family found out, now im just keeping it a secret from my extended family...and he tried to keep it a secret from his extended family but his mom told them lol so now whenever i see his aunts or uncles, they'll ask me if i've talked to my SO, but sometimes my mom isnt supportive enough...and tries to tell me that he';; forget about me soon and the he's most likely cheating on me -______- yep gotta love my mommy lol

[sabby64]

My parents knew about it the second it started. Hell, they even offered to help Brandon and my parents get along really well, just a few weeks ago my mom drove him down here to see me. And as for my friends, they all knew too, and knew that this was going to be long distance. Granted, none of them believed it would actually work, but they kept it to themselves.

I'm not one for keeping secrets, I don't see the point. It just makes me feel guilty and makes everything worse when they finally find out the truth.

[Silencedsongs]

Honestly, at first people only know of him as the 'French guy who designed a tattoo' for me... I'd mention him in passing as someone I talked to a lot online, which isn't new for me. One of my closest friends is someone I met online when I was 12, and he came to college down here for a year.

Now though, those who are also friends with him on Facebook - will see his relationship status with me. It's not shown on mine, specifically because I have family on FB. My friends know, and I'm not shy about telling them. It did take me a while to warm up to it though... My parents do not know, and I'm not sure I will tell them any time soon.. at least not until we have our first meeting or if he's here to meet them...

Ironically, he sent me a package a few months ago, it had a pendant he had bought me and a written note (He has the most amazing handwriting style!)... I was away that weekend at a friend's house, and my mom called me saying I had gotten a package from France...

"Do you have a french lover?!"
"Whaatt?! I got a pendant online."
"From France..?"
"E-bay is worldy."
"From France..."
"Yes."
"Okay...."
"I swear... sometimes you guys create the strangest theories."
"I know. I'm crazy. Look forward to your future, kid."

My mom has always had this weird uncanny sixth sense, and sometimes she's incredibly on par with her crazy theories... I'm not just ready for them to know about this yet, until I've actually met him. They're very suspicious, snobbish, and protective of me. My brother has seen my SO's comments online, and his first comment was "Sister, are you interested in that guy?! Wow... you need to start coming out with us more often." It is not that he thought my SO was ugly, but specifically his style and his attire... It drives me crazy, because I also know that once they do find out - and they will, I'm not very good at lying for too long, I hate it in face. But once they find out the truth, there's going to be explosions. I'm just not ready to handle that until I know we can survive 9 days together and be happy. (Thank God May is almost here!)

For Jordan... All of his friends knew about me from the very start. His parents don't, although his mom has a slight clue... That's mostly because his dad hates American's with a passion. x.x

[BabyGund]

Most of my friends know. My parents do not - because I know they would say I need to focus on my daughter and not on my love life. BTDT with them...

My ex-H does not know, but he suspects. Now that he is no longer dating anyone, he is trying to weasel his way back in with me. But any hint that I might be seeing anyone else sets him off. So I try to keep him out of the loop as much as possible, which also means continuing to not tell my parents, as he tries to get information from them. My daughter does not know for the same reason.

[Tabitha]

Our relationship has never been a secret to anyone. We were very open from the beginning about each other. I just don't like keeping secrets.