So who is with me in here??

[Elizabeth123]

Hi..I'm 45 and my SO just turned 46. We are new to LDR as well. Met online in March then I visited him in Sept.
Without FaceTime we would be lost. It makes the miles disappear at least a bit. Glad there is a section for "older" members..

[Lucky]

I have been away for a while, I discovered this forums years ago and now I am a little overwhelmed by how many teenagers seem to be around, it makes me feel old haha it's hard to give advice, you can no longer assume you are speaking to an adult.

I will turn 31 in november and my husband turns 30 a week after, we are both old souls... just really playful old souls.

[Mairja]

I don't know anymore... I discovered this forum some months ago and was really excited about it at first, but it didn't really take that long before I felt more or less out of place with all the teenagers/early 20s members posting. I almost wish our ages didn't show.

[Cato]

Here also a 30+

Second time a LDR...
First was 5 years ago, 1000km in Europe - and it was great. After some time he moved to Amsterdam and we lived happily, until he had to move again... That time he couldn't stand the distance anymore, and the relation ended...

Now, I'm trying it again... This time >6000km - Netherlands vs USA... And all the questions which can be asked are asked in my head...
What to do... Both ambitious, both nice careers, both very busy. And I'm not scared of LDR, but I do think you have to have a combined future in mind... And I might want to have a family, but how to do... I just don't know...

So I would love to talk about things like that with you all!

[Rachelm920]

My SO and I are both 34 so we're part of this group too. I'm divorced, he was in a long-term relationship previously.

[alizee]

We are also in the 30+ group! My SO is 34 and I am 33 yo. We aren*t really that experienced in relationships, as we both been single for many years, but we are willing to make things work between us!!!

[80anthea]

My SO and I are both 34 so we're part of this group too. I'm divorced, he was in a long-term relationship previously.

Welcome, my SO is from Virginia too

[Fretboard_Magic]

I'm 37 but I actually tend to relate more to the younger people than to the people around my age. Some people seem to think it's a problem, but I like being young-at-heart. And I DO have concerns regarding parents and stuff, but that's mainly due to the fact that my girlfriend is MUCH younger than me. If I ever feel out of place on here, it isn't because of my age. And if it IS because of my age, then it's probably because I'm basically 17 trapped in a 37 year-old's body, and most other people in their 30's think there's something wrong with that, lol. xD

[Ghosthammer]

I'm 36 and pretty new to the forums. My SO and I have been together for only a few months now. I'm certain that at some point I will want to close the gap. I've lived where I am for most my life, but my immediate family is not here. In fact, by closing the gap I'd be a 4 hour car ride from my mom rather than a plane ride! I think my biggest issue with closing the gap is that where she lives there doesn't seem to be any good jobs in my field. And I'm looking to close the gap to within 2-3 hours drive.

I'm 37 but I actually tend to relate more to the younger people than to the people around my age. Some people seem to think it's a problem, but I like being young-at-heart. And I DO have concerns regarding parents and stuff, but that's mainly due to the fact that my girlfriend is MUCH younger than me. If I ever feel out of place on here, it isn't because of my age. And if it IS because of my age, then it's probably because I'm basically 17 trapped in a 37 year-old's body, and most other people in their 30's think there's something wrong with that, lol. xD

I think that's great! I've always felt a bit younger at heart, too. :-)

[differentcountries]

I love my age just wish for children before my eggs go out of date

[Tommy C]

I'm 42 and she's 34. We met 6 years but we are both young at heart.

[xanzbarr]

Hi...Well I'm 58 and I feel really a lot older than most posters, but the feelings of being away from a love that you have all in your heart is the same, so in a way i don't feel so left out either. My only child is grown and married and I just found out I'm going to be a grandmother about August. The love of my life is in Texas for now trying to get an internet business off the ground. Lack of money and income on his part is what is keeping us apart and it sucks big time. We skype almost every night, but not being able to be with each other, cuddle, have sex etc. hurts the same no matter how old or young you are. I'm also taking care of my Mom who has Alzheimers which drives me up a tree sometimes, but she needs me and I love her. That keeps me here where I'm at so I cannot go to Texas to be with him. He will come to me when he can swing it. I've known this man for over 35 years and dated him 3 times in the past. This time is different, he hunted for me online til he found me and told me he was a fool for letting me go years ago...He's expressing deep feelings for me and now he says all he wants to do is get to me and spend the rest of his life with me. It's a long story, but suffice it to say, love happens at 58 just like it does at 20, you just are more experienced with things and less likely to flip out over things. So you are not alone and I'm very happy for you that you are together with your love.....

[xanzbarr]

I am 58 and he is 56! We're young and in love!

[Pony]

Hi! I just joined. I'm 45, my S.O. is 41. We re-introduced ourselves online last October though we've known about each other since we were kids. I will be the one to relocate when the time comes because my kids are all grown (one is finishing high school this summer) and hers are pre-teens. I think of my relationship experience as unusual because I have been in a series of long-term relationships, never had a one-night stand or anything shorter than a year, and was married twice in my twenties. I never thought I'd find someone I could relate to so completely as I have now. This is my first LDR and I see it as a blessing and a curse. We've been able to spend a little over a week's total time physically together with the bulk of it this past Christmas. We've talked non-stop ever since we connected - hours every day. It took me a long time to learn that it is neither the head nor the heart that tells us about love, but it's our gut. My gut has never felt so right. We've had zero red flags so far - I mean zip. Hard to keep the head out of the clouds this early but at least I know what I don't want. It's very hard to be apart, but we are eyeing an end to that and talking about when it might be right for me to move her direction. We are both very conscious of the kids and what they need before and after I come into their lives. I'm glad I found this site. It's nice to share experiences with others and see how people have made things work while apart.

[Benni]

Hi...Well I'm 58, but the feelings of being away from a love that you have all in your heart is the same, so in a way i don't feel so left out either. .... We skype almost every night, but not being able to be with each other, cuddle, have sex etc. hurts the same no matter how old or young you are. ..... suffice it to say, love happens at 58 just like it does at 20, you just are more experienced with things and less likely to flip out over things.

So, so true! I am 63, B is 59. We've been "together" for 2 years and will close the distance this April when we marry. Love is love, no matter your ages.