I thought this might be a good ice breaker as I know many of us and our SO do have Ex's... ggrrr.
Is your ex or your SO ex still in the local area and do they ever encroach on your life? Personally, mine lives in Florida (thank god) but my SO's ex is only about an hour away living with her mom (ha!). As an age-gap relationship, this would be much more difficult except that she is my age (and fatter - ok yes I'm going to hell). My SO likes older women and it's kind of nice to not be insecure when we are around younger women his age but it kind of sucks when someone my age gets to be chummy and friends with him. I'm not sure what is worse, being a little jealous of a svelte 20 year old... or a chunky 40 year old. >.> hmm...
Anyway, we are lucky in that both of ours pretty much leave us alone. The only thing left to get completed are divorces and those are in the process. We haven't talked about marriage in awhile but I think it's kind of at the back of both of our minds. Not being kids though, we are cautious and know what rushing into anything can turn out like. I have to admit tho the fact that she is still his WIFE irritates the snot out of me and that I have to deal with on my own for now.
In any case, how do you deal with an ex that is still relatively local that may still have ties to your SO?
Is your ex or your SO ex still in the local area and do they ever encroach on your life? Personally, mine lives in Florida (thank god) but my SO's ex is only about an hour away living with her mom (ha!). As an age-gap relationship, this would be much more difficult except that she is my age (and fatter - ok yes I'm going to hell). My SO likes older women and it's kind of nice to not be insecure when we are around younger women his age but it kind of sucks when someone my age gets to be chummy and friends with him. I'm not sure what is worse, being a little jealous of a svelte 20 year old... or a chunky 40 year old. >.> hmm...
Anyway, we are lucky in that both of ours pretty much leave us alone. The only thing left to get completed are divorces and those are in the process. We haven't talked about marriage in awhile but I think it's kind of at the back of both of our minds. Not being kids though, we are cautious and know what rushing into anything can turn out like. I have to admit tho the fact that she is still his WIFE irritates the snot out of me and that I have to deal with on my own for now.
In any case, how do you deal with an ex that is still relatively local that may still have ties to your SO?
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