Google-ing your SO

[R&R]

He actually encouraged me to google him. He has a colorful background, so he was sure quite a bit would come up. He actually has a pretty common name, so I didn't find anything about what he actually told me.

He didn't google me - he had a professional background check run on me. When it was done, he was like "Wow, you've never done ANYTHING wrong, have you? Not even a speeding ticket" LOL

[Sanja]

We have both googled each other, but there wasn't really anything juicy to be found.

[pinkfairy11]

I googled mine and found out he was a chemistry nerd. I already knew that lol.

[differentcountries]

he had a professional background check run on me.

I would probably not be happy if someone did that.

[R&R]

I would probably not be happy if someone did that.

It's not the first time it's happened to me. The only thing that bothers me is that they'll think I must be excessively boring!

[LadyDaemon]

I did Google my husband purely for curiosity's sake. Though I had to look him up under his full name which is really long. But the only thing I could find on him was places he had lived before, where he was living then and things about his time in the US Navy and his facebook page. I didn't find anything I didn't already know about him. He looked me up also and he couldn't find anything really from what I can remember other then a facebook page I had at that time I think.

[Sarah96]

YES! I definitely googled him! I actually found his family members names and his address before he told me, I also found a facebook that he doesn't use. He also has an extremely common name that it was like hours of research, then I realized how weird it was and I stopped. But I did it again after a few months and I actually did find something really shocking... I was actually pretty angry at him but it was in his past and I got over it lol

I think it's perfectly acceptable to google someone and I told him after I did. I would be fine if he were to do it to me. It's better to be safe than sorry and I don't think anything is wrong with finding out more about someone you have a relationship with.

[differentcountries]

It's not the first time it's happened to me. The only thing that bothers me is that they'll think I must be excessively boring!

The only one ever giving me a backround check was banks and airline companies, and they can only check my money. Work are not allowed to do this. I don't even have a parking ticket or unpaid bill, still that level of suspiction from a lover would probably freak me out.

[R&R]

The only one ever giving me a backround check was banks and airline companies, and they can only check my money. Work are not allowed to do this. I don't even have a parking ticket or unpaid bill, still that level of suspiction from a lover would probably freak me out.

I've had to have my fingerprints taken to be run for 3 of the jobs I've worked at and my current one also required an FBI background check. The first one ran a background on me due to his position where he worked and since we met online, he had to verify who I was and make sure I wasn't a security risk. My SO had to run one for a little different reason but an understandable one.

[Hollandia]

We had the contract to handle the prisons so my EX and all our techs had to have background checks run. If you put it into an Employee contract and they sign it, you can require them to have one, and I see nothing wrong with that. If you do not disclose a crime you committed and it comes up on a background check , it is grounds for immediate termination and would cause you to lose your claim for employment benefits. If you have nothing to hide, you have nothing to worry about.

[whatruckus]

Lol. I just did it because of this thread. Found nothing. I only found stuff about his dad's obituary/passing (his dad is a Sr., my SO is a Jr.).

[LadyDaemon]

Lol. I just did it because of this thread. Found nothing. I only found stuff about his dad's obituary/passing (his dad is a Sr., my SO is a Jr.).

Haha I had to specify when googling my husband for this very reason because he's a IIIrd and his dad is a Jr. So any time I search them if I dont put III at the end I always find his dad xD.

[whatruckus]

Haha I had to specify when googling my husband for this very reason because he's a IIIrd and his dad is a Jr. So any time I search them if I dont put III at the end I always find his dad xD.

Lol, I did it every way I could think of. Found nothing still. He's pretty private.

[Miasmata]

Never googled him, and I don't have any desire to. I just don't see the point in it - I reckon that at most, I'd find his Facebook, and he only uses that to keep in touch with extended family and old schoolmates.

[differentcountries]

I've had to have my fingerprints taken to be run for 3 of the jobs I've worked at and my current one also required an FBI background check. The first one ran a background on me due to his position where he worked and since we met online, he had to verify who I was and make sure I wasn't a security risk. My SO had to run one for a little different reason but an understandable one.

Personal information is very strictly controlled in our country. Sharing information unlawfully is considered a serious criminal offense. Nobody can ask for your fingerprint exept the police. Some jobs require a police certificate, for instance my husband had to get one for his previous job in a kindergarten (to prove not being a child molester), and you have to get one if you work with safety, but the jobs can't run background checks themselves. Anyone can run a cross search online because it is public, and banks can exess info about your financial stancebecause they have a special permission to do that, but to otherwise exess arcives for information about health, criminal records etc is in many cases illegal, even if you work for the public. If I change doctors the new one will not know what happened with the old one unless I pay to have the old record transferred. I have to activity content to almost all information that is shared about me. So the thought of someone I date checking my background feels very invading, and if I found out I would probably break off the relationship.