Why are you with your SO?

[H87]

I would not change being with my SO for anything. He makes me a better person, he helps me grow, he has taught me so much, he is always supportive and always there. He is everything and more than I could ever have dreamed. And I love him and I know he l

[H87]

And I know he loves me! He accepts me f

[Zapookie]

I am with my SO because he's my best friend and he makes me ridiculously happy. We share the same sense of humour, same morals, same passions, same hobbies. We never run out of things to talk about. He makes me laugh so hard and I'm always smiling whenever I talk to him. He is just the light I need when I feel down and he's always encouraging me and caring about me. I just feel so thankful I found him

[leonsfangirl]

Distance is hard PERIOD but it truely tests and builds the strengh of your relationship.
I'm with my SO because firstly I Love him! He's a funny,smart,caring,understanding man and much much more.
He is my opposite, everything i'm not he is and visa versa. I am with my SO because he completes me. He is my back bone,my best friend,my everything.
I am with my SO because i know a great thing when i see it and am prepared to work hard to keep the relationship going and growing.

[Jrapp]

I'm with her because she is my best friend. She can calm me down when I'm angry, cheer me up when I'm sad. She's always there for me. We are madly in love with each other. That's why(:

[vpavelock]

A lot of the same questions enter my mind too, being that I'm only 18. Although I know my boyfriend is highly committed (after he spontaneously proposed in front of Rockefeller Center) Long Distance makes it very hard to believe there is a light at the end of the tunnel, and it's hard to believe everything will work out even when you're rather committed. Why? Because long distance is A LOT of work and just around a whole emotionally draining experience, and you BOTH need to really want it. With long distance, it becomes a lot more necessary t have some type of commitment because of the work that goes into it. For now, my advise is to try to get on the same page as your SO and see how much both your hearts are in this. Good luck!

[Micah]

Long distance relationships aren't easy things. If you are the type of person that has a lot of insecurities, I would say that it will make the long distance relationship all the more hard. I was in a LDR when I was 20 years old and it didn't last because I was totally insecure, felt like I had to control the relationship from so far away, wanted more out of him than he would give me, and my neediness/insecurities really turned my then-boyfriend off at that time and we broke up. I think at your age - 19 - it may be a lot to expect for someone to want to make huge plans for the future. At that age, your SO just may not be thinking of long term things, such as moving together and marriage. I know that those thoughts weren't on my mind at 19. Also, there are a lot of people that enjoy taking things just day by day.... letting things occur naturally and not putting so much pressure on what's going to happen in the future. I know that I am the type of person that has a fear of the unknown and I like having a plan. maybe you are that way too and your SO is the opposite? You should definitely discuss with him everything you are feeling and open the lines of communication.
Like everyone else said, is it worth it to you? That is what is important because faith in your relationship and commitment for one another is what makes a long distance relationship work. It takes hard work and if it isn't worth it to you, then obviously you will not put forth the effort and make the sacrifices to make it work.
I am with my boyfriend because it feels right. It feels natural. Being with him is where I belong and it's a feeling in my gut. He has given me so much love and security. We take care of one another and we are always there for one another. We have never doubted one another because of the distance. We have worked well despite the distance. I think that one major thing that helps us is that we are totally on the same page with our relationship, and we have always been on the same page - it has never been a case where one of us puts more effort than the other person... We have the same goals for our relationship, are very much a team, and want to close the distance in the summer. I think this helps us because we know that the excruciating distance is only a temporary thing. That's how it works for us, though. Everyone's different. I think this relationship has been one of the most rewarding I have ever had because it really has taught me not to take things for granted. So many people take their relationship for granted and I cherish every phone call, text message, visit, etc.

[tiffinnie]

My SO and I just talked about this the other night actually... Well... we touched on it... We have talked about getting married and whatnot but the reality is there is no end in sight... There is one in the future, we hope, but we are both being very realistic about this and keeping in mind that we haven't met in person yet and keeping our past relationships in mind, we both agree that "we might not be together forever..." but the thing is that its worth it to us NOW. What makes us happy now is all that matters. I mean eventually I guess this will start coming up as "is this enough" and the answer we have currently is "for now, yes." and we both agree on it. I believe that in every relationship it is very important to be realistic about goals and well... reality... My ex and I would always disagree about this because I would always say the whole "for now" deal and he would throw a fit about it and complain "you act like we won't be together forever" and all I could say is "I don't know if we will"... so when my current SO said that it felt like I was on the other side of things BUT at the same time it was a huge relief that I wasn't the only one that was thinking more realistic about the future.

[prinzeza87]

it is definitely worth it for both in every single way... he completes me, for the first time i can be me, he's extraordinary we both feel the same way

[loveknowsnodistance27]

It's definitely hard, but it is worth it! I'm with my boyfriend because I've loved him my entire life and that love has just grown in ways I can't even begin to describe. Our love is mutual, and we complete each other. We've been each other's best friend for the past 12 years and have helped each other through so much over the years.

[adielovesshelbs]

i believe 100% that our relationship is worth it. he is amazing, my best friend. we both have grown up so much. ive learned alot about myself. me and him have such a strong connection because of the distance. im with him because he is always there for me. no matter what, he sticks by myside.

im sorry that your feeling the way you are now, i know it must be hard. i would tell him that you feel neglected and see how he reacts. i would step back and take a look at things to see if you believe he is worth the hardships of being ld. i know it would be hard for me if my so wasnt as commited as i am. it depends on the person tho. good luck.

[DemonxOisin]

My boyfriend is someone who, so far, I can see myself spending the rest of my life with. He feels the same way.
We haven't made "plans" to get married or anything, because we are only 19. We just continue to hold on to what we have until we get tired of the other, or until the end of the universe. Which ever comes first.

[Jonesonaboat]

I've never met anybody that I connect so well with.
We have a very big age gap but the things we have in common are just bizzare.

Once my friend and I took a long walk and we talked about our perfect, dream guy. We went into so much detail, and every single thing I named my man has. We make each other incredibly happy and we're like two teenagers together. We joke and tease each other, we have the exact same sense of humor. We're best friends, lovers, partners.

Ohhh gosh I could go on and on!
We're with each other because we're in love with each other and we couldn't even entertain the thought of not being together.

[Joyce:)]

we're both 18, and we live one in america, the other in italy. we don't plan on closing the distance until we're done with school (at least 3 or 4 more years) but all we know is that we want a future together, or there would be no point in being in an LDR at all. if you can see your future with him, don't worry

[kiara_silver]

My relationship with my Nathan is hard but the best thing i have ever had. It is so worth it. He makes me feel so happy with life and me and i love loving him. LDR's are different form CDR for sure. For one you do move faster than a CDR you open up and let that person in. So if your true i think you can build a stronger emotional connection quickly. One of the downfalls i think is that you don't get to spend as much time together. Its not un-normal to go a few days without talking to your SO. You have to be patient alot more in this type of relationship which i find the hardest. The being able to go over to your bf's house whenever you want that you can take advantage of, you don't get to do. And your sometimes left guessing. If he had a bad day and then you talk to him and he's moody you can go to all those horrible conclusions, is he mad at me, is he being distant are things okay worry worry worry. So yeah there are some down sides. But never have i ever felt it wasn't worth it. I found someone who i love and care about who some how cares about me too. Who i could spend my life with, and share the world with. I love him so much that if i lost him idk if i would ever get over him. He is so worth all the hardships and obstacles.