So he broke up with me... </3

[differentcountries]

I'm over obsessing over him, I'm done with that stage. It just bugs me to not understand what is actually going on inside his head.

But that IS the obsession; the need to understand.

[Chlo]

You really need to just forget about him. Leave him to his mind games. It's not worth it, not worth your time or effort!

[innocentbutterfly]

well I try to understand because it bothers me, just this WHY you know? I dont care about his games anymore, I just want to know why he does this. Like what is he trying to do.

[rubydissolution]

At this point your mentality should be, who the hell cares what he thinks. Who the hell cares what he's doing. Because you shouldn't care. He doesn't. Move on, stop obsessing over him.

You are still obsessing because you checked to see if he was still blocking you in places. Stop checking! Be done with it and move on.

[innocentbutterfly]

When I check its not because I'd expect he will write or something, I was just wondering. Why unblock at one place and why today after gift. Just that nothing else. And the way I saw this its either he was checking up on my profile (fb has 48 hours limit to re-block again) or he was just plain egoistic thinking/expecting I should/would initiate contact after this gift I sent him

[innocentbutterfly]

I mean like we check other peoples profiles, its not for something, its just curiosity. I even go check whats new with my old exes sometimes, but that doesn't mean I even remotely want them back. Just curious.

[rubydissolution]

But to see if you are blocked or unblocked takes a little more effort then just clinging on someone's profile. And qhite frankly, if my ex treated me like urs did I wouldn't give a crap wth is on their profile.

[innocentbutterfly]

I only looked to see what would his reponse after gift be, which is surprising by his ego that he would unblock, but not write. Who knows, maybe he had a second thought and is waiting for me to contact, but that train is long gone.

[differentcountries]

well I try to understand because it bothers me, just this WHY you know? I dont care about his games anymore, I just want to know why he does this. Like what is he trying to do.

Yes I get why you want to know, but you simply cannot have the answers you are looking for. Let it go....

[innocentbutterfly]

yeah unfortunately we cant get all the answers we want, eh? oh well I'll just have to forget that annoying feeling then and let go

[differentcountries]

No, you probably cannot forget the feelings you have so easily. But I ensure you will not get your answers by thinking about him or the way he behaved, it just does not work like that. You have to learn to live with not getting answers. Perhaps one day you will figure something out, I hope you will.

[innocentbutterfly]

Well you may be right. Though I'm determined and stubborn. Maybe I'll never know all the reasons behind, that's okay. But that doesn0t mean I can just forget. I will let go, but memories are there and those never actually fade.

[differentcountries]

I am not suggesting you should forget what has been important to you. We all bring the past with us. There is nothing wrong with that. As life goes on we make new experiences and memories, too.

[innocentbutterfly]

well guys I actually got contact from him today. He said that he sent me a message, but I didn't get any (pathological liar much?) However, I made a call and he picked up, unknowingly it was me I'm guessing and then I texted hope his birthday was okay and gift too and that he should keep me blocked if he didn't like it and talk to me. He said thanks I liked it, you are really nice. LOL! and then all hell unleashed. He had the nerve to talk to me like normal. Like he said that we won't talk past and feelings and then began to ask me about my sex life, how it was these days if I did any cyber sex and he admitted he did, 2 weeks after he broke up with me! I told him how much he disgusts me. I was shocked and just beyond belief what did just happen. It all seemed so easy to hims saying when he wants it he will do it again. And apologizing because he ruined my life that maybe it gets better. Even encouraged me to have cyber sex after he learned I was miserable thinking of him and I didn't do what he did. He even dared to ask if we can talk this stuff and when I have a new man if he does it better than him that he will envy him (is he sick in the brain?)

Imagine that. He left me for same thing from my past and he went do it 2 weeks later? what a joke! He exccused that with I told you women and men are never the same. Give me a break. And miserable poor me, I cried, I was hoping he thought of me at least once, that he had an ounce of regret and I find out he was fucking with girls on cam. I'm angered and disgusted beyond belief. Like it's a shock, I don't know what I'm feeling, but I feel like a giant hole has just opened below my feet and I'm about to fall in it. I can't begin to believe this is the man I actually loved. The man I though of as my future husband, talked kids with him. It's a disaster.

Just had to vent. And I wish you all guys out there be careful. If this guy could play 2 years it means there's very good actors out there when it comes to men searching girls online.

[Hollandia]

well guys I actually got contact from him today. He said that he sent me a message, but I didn't get any (pathological liar much?) However, I made a call and he picked up, unknowingly it was me I'm guessing and then I texted hope his birthday was okay and gift too and that he should keep me blocked if he didn't like it and talk to me. He said thanks I liked it, you are really nice. LOL! and then all hell unleashed. He had the nerve to talk to me like normal. Like he said that we won't talk past and feelings and then began to ask me about my sex life, how it was these days if I did any cyber sex and he admitted he did, 2 weeks after he broke up with me! I told him how much he disgusts me. I was shocked and just beyond belief what did just happen. It all seemed so easy to hims saying when he wants it he will do it again. And apologizing because he ruined my life that maybe it gets better. Even encouraged me to have cyber sex after he learned I was miserable thinking of him and I didn't do what he did. He even dared to ask if we can talk this stuff and when I have a new man if he does it better than him that he will envy him (is he sick in the brain?)

Imagine that. He left me for same thing from my past and he went do it 2 weeks later? what a joke! He exccused that with I told you women and men are never the same. Give me a break. And miserable poor me, I cried, I was hoping he thought of me at least once, that he had an ounce of regret and I find out he was fucking with girls on cam. I'm angered and disgusted beyond belief. Like it's a shock, I don't know what I'm feeling, but I feel like a giant hole has just opened below my feet and I'm about to fall in it. I can't begin to believe this is the man I actually loved. The man I though of as my future husband, talked kids with him. It's a disaster.

Just had to vent. And I wish you all guys out there be careful. If this guy could play 2 years it means there's very good actors out there when it comes to men searching girls online.

There have been liars and players out there in real life since our oldest ancestors were born. The internet has made it easier to decieve but you can find the good ones online too. You need to decide what you expect in a relationship and make sure any future partners understand and accept that. If they do and they don't put their money where their mouth's are, then move on.