So he broke up with me... </3

[kikidee]

I think you need to change yourself before you get into another relationship. You are WAY too desperate. I'm not trying to be mean, but you seriously are. It's only going to hurt you and allow men in your life to take advantage of you.
I can't believe you were with that kind of a guy. You talked about him before and honestly he was a sick person. I know that's his culture, and you do too, so you shouldn't be so surprised. He was basically telling you that you were his disposable property, that he didn't like you for you, and he would slap you. And him breaking up with you was a bad thing? HE SAVED YOU.
I guess I'm just painfully honest and straightforward, I don't want you to be unhappy. But I also don't feel bad for you. You were being told from the beginning all this and you were in denial because you feel you deserve that kind of man.

[bethyylovee]

Am I the only one wondering why her signature is spam?

[Deleted]

Am I the only one wondering why her signature is spam?

No, you're not. That was one of the first things I noticed...

[Karringtyn]

Interesting...I DID see the spam on there and didn't think much of it. Hmmm.

[TwoThree]

I know that's his culture, and you do too, so you shouldn't be so surprised.

I'd like to step in defense of decent Turkish/Muslim/Middle-eastern men, here. The "culture" as you call it is not an ideal of equality and respect for women, but let's not make huge generalizations here, it's borderline offensive. I know countless of men coming from the same "culture" and they are perfectly decent. OP got into a relationship with a piece of shit. He could have been from any ethnic background and still be a piece of shit.

[differentcountries]

I'd like to step in defense of decent Turkish/Muslim/Middle-eastern men, here. The "culture" as you call it is not an ideal of equality and respect for women, but let's not make huge generalizations here, it's borderline offensive. I know countless of men coming from the same "culture" and they are perfectly decent. OP got into a relationship with a piece of shit. He could have been from any ethnic background and still be a piece of shit.

I second that. If we notice the worst representatives from a country we should also look at the best. My so has never done anything disrespectful towards me. Every culture has its flaws and its blessings.

[innocentbutterfly]

today he wrote me, saying it's none of his business but asked why I'm online 24/7 on whatsapp. I asked why he asks is he checking me? and he said no, just meant to write you and saw.

Is he checking me? and why would he do that I dont understand.

[innocentbutterfly]

kikidee, i never felt I deserved this kind of treatment, but I loved him, I saw good in him, I hoped for change...maybe love made me blind, but that's why I acted the way I did, justifying everything

[Moon]

kikidee, i never felt I deserved this kind of treatment, but I loved him, I saw good in him, I hoped for change...maybe love made me blind, but that's why I acted the was I did, justifying everything

But we told you, and had been telling you for many months, if anything I hope you'll learn to pay better attention to unbiased, third parties when you ask them for advice. We do get it and do understand, and you could have saved all this heartache. I am sorry this happened to you, please block that guy from everything, and cut all contact. Stop questioning his motives for every little thing he does or says, and move on. He's fucking with you, to amuse himself and feed his ego, let it go, you'll save yourself a lot of mental distress that way.

[innocentbutterfly]

I dont feel any distress anymore, he can do whatever makes him happy, I just dont get it why he comes and as it seems checks on me. he lost that ability long time ago. And yes, telling is one, but one telling their own heart to stop loving when everyone is against, thats a different story, iTs not as easy as saying it.

[Hollandia]

But we told you, and had been telling you for many months, if anything I hope you'll learn to pay better attention to unbiased, third parties when you ask them for advice. We do get it and do understand, and you could have saved all this heartache. I am sorry this happened to you, please block that guy from everything, and cut all contact. Stop questioning his motives for every little thing he does or says, and move on. He's fucking with you, to amuse himself and feed his ego, let it go, you'll save yourself a lot of mental distress that way.

I could not say this better myself. Spot on Moon, + 10.

It won't let me give you any right now again, darn you.

[innocentbutterfly]

well, lesson learned. not to mention I just discovered how he had a whole new fb profile for a year and blocked me there when I didnt even know about it, makes me wonder what else more was a lie.

[Dezface]

well, lesson learned. not to mention I just discovered how he had a whole new fb profile for a year and blocked me there when I didnt even know about it, makes me wonder what else more was a lie.

I just don't get why you're surprised by any of this. He's proven himself to be a douche of epic proportions. I would assume EVERYTHING he said to you was a lie.

You really need to stop questioning they why's of everything. It doesn't matter. Stop talking about him, actively try to focus on other things. You're not even attempting to move on.

[innocentbutterfly]

that was even before I went and met him in person. Months before. Needless to say I'm shocked since that behaviour when we met doesn't match any of it. Spending money and all the stuff. Oh god. I seriously was a fool.

[kikidee]

I'd like to step in defense of decent Turkish/Muslim/Middle-eastern men, here. The "culture" as you call it is not an ideal of equality and respect for women, but let's not make huge generalizations here, it's borderline offensive. I know countless of men coming from the same "culture" and they are perfectly decent. OP got into a relationship with a piece of shit. He could have been from any ethnic background and still be a piece of shit.

My bad, I wasn't trying to say that every man who comes from that culture is like this one. I was just saying that there were certain aspects of the culture through him she obviously didn't agree with. And time after time she seemed blind to it.