He is British so we speak English together. I'm fairly good but I have a very american accent and vocabulary. So he sometimes doesn't understand me. He claims that I missuse words or make them up and then he looks it up in a dictionary and discovers that I'm right (as usual ).
When we first started dating he had problems understanding that it is ok to be quiet and we don't have to talk about the weather. Or tha tthe pavement for cyclist looks different from the pedestrian side. He always comes to the wrong side of the car and gets confused tha twhy there is light outside at midnight. I do feel like our main cultural differences are from our family culture. Our families are very different and we have had different upbringin. So nothing to do with nationality. It took a long time for him to feel relaxed around my overly involved family. Also our family is a lot more "everyone does everything for mutual benefit " type where as his is more private and quiet.
To be honest lately I've been feeling slightly negative about our relationship and future. We have been talking about him moving here and I can't help but to think about the language problems. I know that all the people around me are not perfectly comfortable with speaking english so I need to thik about which party I can take him with so that no one feels too uncomfortable. Not everyone in my family can communicate with him and he feels a bit of an outsider when not being involved. In a moment of crisis it's hard to think of instructions in another language. We had a car crash situation. We were getting everything out of the car and I kind of felt bad becasuse he didn't have anything to do because at that situation it's hard to change language since there were non-english speakers with us. I was thiking how we can't so to theatre together or can't see certain films. And how it must be uncomfortable for him if he can't understand the menu. or pay the invoices cause they are in a differnet language. Of course these are all valuable experiences an I gain a lot from these
When we first started dating he had problems understanding that it is ok to be quiet and we don't have to talk about the weather. Or tha tthe pavement for cyclist looks different from the pedestrian side. He always comes to the wrong side of the car and gets confused tha twhy there is light outside at midnight. I do feel like our main cultural differences are from our family culture. Our families are very different and we have had different upbringin. So nothing to do with nationality. It took a long time for him to feel relaxed around my overly involved family. Also our family is a lot more "everyone does everything for mutual benefit " type where as his is more private and quiet.
To be honest lately I've been feeling slightly negative about our relationship and future. We have been talking about him moving here and I can't help but to think about the language problems. I know that all the people around me are not perfectly comfortable with speaking english so I need to thik about which party I can take him with so that no one feels too uncomfortable. Not everyone in my family can communicate with him and he feels a bit of an outsider when not being involved. In a moment of crisis it's hard to think of instructions in another language. We had a car crash situation. We were getting everything out of the car and I kind of felt bad becasuse he didn't have anything to do because at that situation it's hard to change language since there were non-english speakers with us. I was thiking how we can't so to theatre together or can't see certain films. And how it must be uncomfortable for him if he can't understand the menu. or pay the invoices cause they are in a differnet language. Of course these are all valuable experiences an I gain a lot from these
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