Asked her to be my girlfriend

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I read over earlier posts and find that I am a lot less anxious than I was in the beginning. I was anxious to attain some emotional level (wanting to hear "I love you" and wanting to say "I love you"), and wanting to attain some physical level (sex), and I find that these days I don't push for either. In those earlier posts, I said that I didn't want an insta-relationship and that I wanted to take things slow, but I was anxious because I didn't know how to do things any other way --> that's pretty much how it has always been for me: INSTANT. I have since settled in and found my footing in taking time to get to know her, and enjoying our time together.

I continue to look forward to seeing her and talking to her each night. The musical opens this week, so I'll be going to the show in her town tomorrow night. I am eager to see her.

[Mims27]

So happy things are going well for you. I too am finally starting to be on a good path. It's a new and exciting feeling. Personal growth!

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@Mims27, it's good to hear that you're feeling better!

Tomorrow night I'll be going to the community band concert that she'll be playing in. It's at the university where we both graduated (although we attended different years). I'm looking forward to seeing her play tomorrow night. It'll probably be a late night getting home.

We don't have any solid plans for the weekend, other than the fact that we plan to see each other. The musical is still running, so she may be needed for the sound for the musical. Our plans are kind of in limbo around the musical. Then, next Monday we will be going to see the drum core. I'm going to take a short day at work and we're gonna drive. It'll be another late night. I'm looking forward to spending time with her.

So, we plan to see each other Thursday afternoon/evening, Saturday through Sunday, and then Monday afternoon/evening. That's a lot for us... and a lot of driving. The following weekend we're going to try to take a long weekend. I'm pretty excited about our long weekend on the last weekend of the month. It will also be the last weekend before school starts. So we might take some time for R&R.

[Mims27]

How far are you from each other again? I know you mentioned it somewhere but I don't remember.

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A whopping 50 miles / 1 hour drive apart. Yes, it's nothing like dating someone in another state or country... but it's nothing like dating someone in my own town, either.

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This weekend I saw the musical from the sound booth. It was really neat to see the musical from the booth and to see her work as the sound person. I also watched her work as the music director when she warmed up the singers. I wrote a play-by-play review in a journal for her to read that gave her some insight into my perspective of seeing the show from the sound booth.

Yesterday, I met her coworkers and her friends for dinner. It has been fun and interesting to meet her family, coworkers and friends over the past couple of weeks.

I'm leaving work early this afternoon and we will be going to the drum core performance in another city. It'll be a good bit of driving today.

We don't have solid plans for this weekend other than the fact that she will need to be at the musical. It's the last weekend that it runs. The following weekend, we're planning a 3 day weekend chilling out around my house. I hope to be able to introduce her to one of my best friends and my sister. We'll see how that goes.

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We're still hanging in there. Last weekend was the last showing of the musical. Both of us are relieved that the musical is over because we're able to spend more time together on the weekends since the musical is over. This weekend, she's supposed to be coming to my house on Friday evening and staying until Sunday. We'll have more time to do things. I am planning for her to meet one of my best friends, which I am excited about. :-)

[Scouse05]

I'm so glad to see things are going well for you. It makes me smile to read your story. I've just caught up on it and saw that you are an hour away from your girl and this made me think...I realised that I've only ever dated 1 girl who lived anywhere near me. Most of them have been at least an hour away and I've never classed it as a LDR but I can totally see how it could be classed as one. I'm so used to driving a couple of hours to get places or see friends/family that I've never even thought of what that might be like for other people. (I'm in the military and its just what I've been used to having never been posted anywhere near friends and family, or my military friends move on to other locations).

I don't think I'd actually know what to do with a SO that I could see more than just at weekends hehe. I've still got a couple of years to work that out before I move to be with my girl but I know that it will be a huge adjustment (for us both by the time I get there). I do know that all I want is to be close to my girl and to be by her side as much as possible. (We've 139 days till we are together for 4 weeks and that can't come quick enough for us both).

Thank you for sharing your story...it gives me hope that one day me and my girl will be able to have 'dates' rather than holidays. It's also great to share in someone else's joy, even though I do not know you

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Friday night, we went to a local family restaurant that is known for their fried chicken. We both had fried chicken and really enjoyed it.

Saturday morning, we went hiking and saw a small waterfall that only had a little trickle that fed into a creek. It was nice to go hiking together.

Everything went well Saturday night when my SO met one of my friends. My friend prepared a great meal and we all had good conversation.

Sunday, we stayed in bed half of the day and then went out for lunch. We had Mexican. She asked me if I would like to go to see Melissa Etheridge on 8/21. We would have to drive a couple of hours to get to the concert. I am excited about the possibility of going to see Melissa Etheridge later this month.

[Mims27]

Ahhhh I love Melissa!! If you haven't seen her in concert yet, you're in for a treat. She is amazing. I've seen her 3 times!

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I've seen her several times. I wasn't familiar with her latest CD, so I downloaded it and have been listening to it. I made a copy for my SO, who will be dropping in tonight Weekday visit! Yaaaay! Last night, I got reservations at a hotel across the street from the beach that we'll be staying in for the weekend of the concert. So we'll have some sand, sun, and M.E. !!! So excited to see her and that I get to spend the weekend with my gf on the beach. It'll be a very cool 5 month present to ourselves.

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We went to meet up with the lesbian social club. She enjoyed meeting the folks in the social club. It was nice to see her meet everyone. We had dessert at Marble Slab Creamery. Then went home. We both were tired when we got home. We went to church Sunday morning, and then went to eat with church folks after church. They look forward to seeing her.

She's planning to come visit me this coming weekend. The following weekend, we're going to the beach

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Feeling super excited today

Yesterday it occurred to me that several weekends have been dedicated to the musical over the summer, and to meeting friends and relatives. For the first time in quite a while, we are able to plan a date. A real date where we go out with each other to a dinner and a show. I asked her if she would like to go to dinner and see a show this weekend. She said yes.

This morning, I made reservations to a steakhouse and reserved tickets to a musical... (a musical that she can sit and watch instead of working as a music director and sound person.) I'm excited about our date on Saturday night.

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Last weekend was awesome. We went to dinner at a nice steakhouse and enjoyed a great meal. Then, we went to see Next to Normal. It was an awesome musical. It explored mental illness, and was thought provoking. We went to church Sunday morning, then had brunch with some church friends and listened to live jazz. We visited my sister. It was the first time that she met my niece, nephew, and my sister's boyfriend. We might have a game night in the future where we play board games.

I'm getting excited about the concert this weekend. I'm looking forward to the hotel across the street from the beach. I hope it'll be a weekend of relaxation and taking it easy.

[Mims27]

Sounds pretty great!
Can't wait to hear all about the concert.

I can't wait for the day where I can take my wife out on dates, whenever I want. As odd as that sounds. lol