Children?

[lyonsgirl]

We've talked about it. We still talk about it, & we talk about it often. So, yes. My SO are going to have kids. I'm nervous that I won't be able to (my mom had problems getting pregnant) but I'm not going to worry about that until the time comes. As for when, I don't know. I'd like to start trying in the next 5-6 years, but there are some things standing in our way. (Like marriage, and jobs, and the whole... LD thing, lol). We know we want to have more than one kid, lol. As for how many? I dunno. We've talked about having two or three of our own and then adopting some, but we'll figure out how many we want once we get there. (No, I'm not going to have 19 kids. I can't imagine having that many.)

I know my SO is going to be an awesome dad. He loves his cousins (one of them is 4 the other is 7) and he's so good with them. I see dads with their babies now and I cannot wait to see the look on his face when I finally get to tell him he's going to be a dad.

[princessmeg1328]

My fiance and I are getting married next year, and we want to have at least a year to ourselves before having kids or trying to have kids. We would like to have two or three kids. I would prefer to have all boys. I think we'll be ok financially whenever we finally do decide to have children.
I can't wait to have kids with my fiance! We both really want them, and I'm looking forward to having them with my So. We might have a hard time having kids though because he had cancer as a child. The doctors told him it might be difficult. It's ok though. The most important thing is just getting to be with him. Anything else is an additional benefit.

[Moon]

Nope, no kids for me, thanks

I have an adult daughter already, I'm 41 and don't want to start all over again, I'm enjoying my freedom. My guy made the decision that he didn't want kids years ago, although he likes kids and would have made a fantastic father. I think it was as tough choice for him, though.

[efish1042]

This is something I've been thinking about recently too. I don't want any for several years now, but I need to consider options other than biological children. I carry the gene for hemophilia which means there's a 25% chance my son could have the bleeding disease and a 25% chance my daughter would carry the gene on. There's a 50% chance of having completely unaffected children, but the risk is so high and alternative conception methods are expensive. It's something that will need to be addressed before I have children.
My SO would make a great father, I think. He needs to become more comfortable around little kids though. I have a small niece and nephew and he isn't quite sure what to do with himself around them, but he thinks they're adorable.
Aside from hemophilia, my SO and I together have more medical problems than I would wish on any child, so adoption may be the route for us, but I have years to figure it out. We both want to wait until we are married and financially stable before we have kids.

[Haley53]

If my partner and I end up getting married, we both don't feel the need to breed immediately.

I have always imagined having children only when I'm in my 30s. Earlier 30s, but around 32 or 33 doesn't seem unreasonable to me. I likely wouldn't go beyond 35 without having them, but I honestly want time to travel, see the world, get settled into my career (with a year off, I'd be graduating and getting started at around 25), before I even consider spawnage. The distance really complicates things, seeing as we aren't really able to experience consistent close-distance/living with one another and therefore I feel like our timeline is prolonged a bit, but we're also both young (20 and 19) and have our own lives, obligations, and responsibilities and as a result, are not ready for children. I imagine those same responsibilities are reasons we would want to do something for ourselves before settling down completely as well.

As for how many, we'd likely have two. My "good" numbers are 1-2 whereas my SO's are 2-3, so it's only fair that 2 end up being the compromise. I'm not sure I would ever want three. :P I do believe he'll make a wonderful father, though. He is extremely compassionate and nurturing and has been a caretaker most of his life. On the one hand, I honestly feel for the responsibilities that he had, caring for his mother and now being the legal guardian over his brother, but on the other, it really matured him into becoming a wonderful, caring, paternal man and I absolutely love it about him. He's very caring and tender even with my animals as well, and they all loved him instantly, even my male-aggressive dog, not to mention he's an animal magnet. I tend to trust that animals know what's what. :P

[Biddlybiddlybombop]

I honestly want time to travel, see the world, get settled into my career (with a year off, I'd be graduating and getting started at around 25), before I even consider spawnage.

Haha. So far, this is about as far as I've thought. I don't think I'll really know what I want out of life until I've lived for a little bit longer. Right now I'm too selfish to consider marriage and kids and everything that goes with those kind of commitments. And I'm probably still going to be too selfish for a couple more years. And I'm pretty comfortable with that.

I also worry that if I think about kids too much... well... it's going to spoil what actually happens. When I think about "how many would I want, would I want boys or girls, etc etc" it sets up a life for myself that might never happen, or that may never turn out how I pictured it. Few things do turn out how you picture them. I'd rather just wait and see.

[squeeker]

My SO and I have talked about this a little bit, and have decided 2 kids would be perfect, I wouldn't want 1 because I'd be afraid of being really overprotective and spoil them too much, and I wouldn't mind 3 but my SO was leaning towards 2, a boy & a girl. But it doesn't really matter, I'd love my kids no matter what gender they turned out to be.. And preferably we'd start having kids closer to my 30s, probably early 30s because like many others said I want to have time with my SO before we start having kids, and I'm not sure when we'll end this LDR thing and I would preferably like a few years to have it just him and I before we add in any kids. Also I want us to be stable so we're able to support our children so they have everything they'd ever need.

[books]

I know how that feels, I'm 30 and I feel the clock tickin : (

I honestly didn't really feel my clock ticking at all until I met my SO at the age of 31. When I turned 30 I was working on a project at the United Nations in Italy and finishing my graduate thesis...starting a family was definitely not on my mind! When I met my SO, things got serious fast and I told him straight out I was not interested in continuing our relationship long-distance if he didn't think he could seriously have a future with me. It's surprising, how when you meet the right person (at the right time in your life), decisions just fall into place.

Anyways, I try not to think about the pressure to have a baby too much. Lots of women are having kids well into their 30's and beyond (my Mom had my 3 younger siblings between the ages of 38 and 45 without any medical help). I've told my SO though that as soon as we close the distance (and get married), I want to start trying for a baby right away.

[Xanahtas]

I cannot wait to have kids! Im a very motherly person, and even working with kids every day doesnt put me off one bit lol! Im just a taaaad too young at the moment! lol

Me and my SO have said we want 3 kids, but not until i hit 23, at least. I've always grown up in a very family orientated house and id love to have my own little sprogs to run around after and take care off.
But me and my SO just wanna have a few years together and not worry about much, travel a little, see places, do things, just have no massive responsibilities. But ideally, 3 kids when ive hit mid 20's.

I know he'll be a good dad! We were on the train home one day when he was staying with me, and there was this little kid on the train behind us. He was playing with her and i then knew instantly that i wanted to have kids with him. I knew he'd be a great dad. Me and the mother of the kid just smiled at each other :P

[Phantomrose]

My SO and I have talked about kids... he wants them soon, before he hits 30, and I would like them soon as well! We have decided on either one or two kids.

[lonelyinlove]

Your post sounds exactly what I would write. I'm making 24 this year && the topic of marriage has been coming up, and with that the idea of children also. I think I'd like to have kid about 28-30. I would also like to have 2-3, but I'm aiming more to 3....

[kteire]

My priorities right now are travel, go back to school, work on my career. Mostly the first one, haha. I don't want kids until I'm at least 30, and then I want 2, and when they're a bit older I'd like to adopt an older child. My SO and I haven't discussed any of this yet, so we'll see haha. He will be an incredible father, he's so patient and loving! I've never once seen him raise his voice, except to defend me, and I know he'd do anything for our kids

But before then I've gotta work on convincing him to get a dog with me!! Haha.

[FadedSunrise]

Idk, when I was with my SO before the idea of kids appealed to me. I wanted 2, preferably 2 boys(because the idea of having a daughter taller than me and helping her deal with potential height insecurity was not appealing) Now that I'm single again I honestly have come to the realization that I'd be a terrible mother. I'm still selfish and immature and no where near ready for the idea of kids.

However, my mother is already beginning to tell me how the women in our family generally have low fertility and early menopause-read: kids by age 30 or no kids at all. At the rate I'm going with focusing on my career I don't even know when I'll get into the next serious relationship, much less marry the guy and have kids with him.

[Dylan313]

My girlfriend and I have talked a good bit about this kinda thing...

We both want to get married within the next couple(few?) years. We, of course, need to close the distance first. We plan to close the distance the beginning of next March. We've also discussed children. We both want 2 kids, possibly 3 if we decide we can handle it. We want to wait until she's done with her degree and I get finished with a trade school so we can both have decent paying, reliable employment. We're excited for it but not going to rush things. We're still young (23&25) so we have some time. We've talked about having children within the next 5 years.


She's going to make a fantastic mother, I'm looking forward to it more than anything.

[kiara_silver]

Me and my SO have talked about this often. I know it's silly to have a timeline, but my dream is to be married with a child already on the 2nd by 25 lol Course this is just my dream, you can't really plan these things. But I have always wanted to be a young, be done having kids before i hit 30, so I have the energy to play and keep up with them. My SO defiantly wants kids. And he talks about our marriage and engagement. So my wishes with him just may come true. (That gives us 5 years though lol to tie the knot, find a place and re-create) We both would like two. I come from a big family, and not sure if I can handle more then 2 haha.
And my SO will be an amazing daddy, he's so loving, and he gets down on kids level and interacts with them. He will be such a great dad one day. Although im scared lol he's a daredevil and crazy, if we have boys im always going to be fearing for there lives lol