synapsis on my Relationship. Thanks in advance for all the people that took the time to read the whole thing and helping me with an answer at the end. I know its a little long but i am feeling kind of shitty right now.
We live on opposite sides of the planet. She is 22 i am 36.
Met 1.5 years ago while i was on vacation met her when i had 10 days left. We spent all 10 days together. When i came back. We kept in touch but more or less very infrequently. She ended up with a boyfriend, and i hooked up with a couple of other girls. Even though she had a boyfriend, she still kept in touch with me.
after 1.5 years, i was due to go back to the same place for vacation (3 of my best friends liver there). About 4 month before i went back, we started texting more often... one thing led to another... before i knew it we were going hot and heavy.
When i got there, i planned on being there for 26 days. We pretty much spent almost every day together.
About half way though my trip,.... i started seeing signs that she had another guy. Im pretty sure i was the priority though because she would get calls late at night and ignore them, there was a handful of times when i went out with my buddies and im pretty sure she went out with the other guy. I didn't say anything because i was not her boyfriend and i was also sleeping with other girls that i had met while out with my buddies.
She had made comments about how she "Just want to be with me" But i would often evade the question and not answer her at all because i didn't want to be committed and liked partying and hooking up with other girls.
So right before i left, things started to get really serious. She started telling me stuff like she loves me and she has never met anybody like me and she only wants to be with me. I tell her i feel the same way, but i still never officially say we are boyfriend and girlfriend.
So i come back and we are going hot and heavy still. She works long hours and have school and i have work as well...on top of which we are in a 14 hour difference time zone.
about 3 weeks ago, she kind of cornered me and asked me bluntly if we are officially boyfriend and girlfriend. After some pressure i said Yes we are (i do care about her a lot).
So now that we are officially boyfriend and girlfriend... her having another guy is no longer cool.
She is very loving, telling me how much she loves me and misses me on a daily basis. But because she has long work hours, i find im not trusting her. I keep thinking she is lying about her work hours and is still seeing that other guy.
So my question is this, should i confront her about this other guy? I mean, its possible that ended and that was when she bluntly asked if we were together. Is it worth to ask? I mean, its going to be another 11 month till she comes to visit me.... If she lies.... no way i will know. So lost not sure what to do. If we were not committed, i wouldn't care but we are supposedly boyfriend girlfriend now.. There is a cute girl at work that is interested in me that i would totally go for if i was not committed. Should i confront her? And if i did, would that really make a difference/help?
We live on opposite sides of the planet. She is 22 i am 36.
Met 1.5 years ago while i was on vacation met her when i had 10 days left. We spent all 10 days together. When i came back. We kept in touch but more or less very infrequently. She ended up with a boyfriend, and i hooked up with a couple of other girls. Even though she had a boyfriend, she still kept in touch with me.
after 1.5 years, i was due to go back to the same place for vacation (3 of my best friends liver there). About 4 month before i went back, we started texting more often... one thing led to another... before i knew it we were going hot and heavy.
When i got there, i planned on being there for 26 days. We pretty much spent almost every day together.
About half way though my trip,.... i started seeing signs that she had another guy. Im pretty sure i was the priority though because she would get calls late at night and ignore them, there was a handful of times when i went out with my buddies and im pretty sure she went out with the other guy. I didn't say anything because i was not her boyfriend and i was also sleeping with other girls that i had met while out with my buddies.
She had made comments about how she "Just want to be with me" But i would often evade the question and not answer her at all because i didn't want to be committed and liked partying and hooking up with other girls.
So right before i left, things started to get really serious. She started telling me stuff like she loves me and she has never met anybody like me and she only wants to be with me. I tell her i feel the same way, but i still never officially say we are boyfriend and girlfriend.
So i come back and we are going hot and heavy still. She works long hours and have school and i have work as well...on top of which we are in a 14 hour difference time zone.
about 3 weeks ago, she kind of cornered me and asked me bluntly if we are officially boyfriend and girlfriend. After some pressure i said Yes we are (i do care about her a lot).
So now that we are officially boyfriend and girlfriend... her having another guy is no longer cool.
She is very loving, telling me how much she loves me and misses me on a daily basis. But because she has long work hours, i find im not trusting her. I keep thinking she is lying about her work hours and is still seeing that other guy.
So my question is this, should i confront her about this other guy? I mean, its possible that ended and that was when she bluntly asked if we were together. Is it worth to ask? I mean, its going to be another 11 month till she comes to visit me.... If she lies.... no way i will know. So lost not sure what to do. If we were not committed, i wouldn't care but we are supposedly boyfriend girlfriend now.. There is a cute girl at work that is interested in me that i would totally go for if i was not committed. Should i confront her? And if i did, would that really make a difference/help?
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