I agree with Honour. Don't blame yourself for not being able to reach him. He has to be willing too. Coming back to the States isn't the fix-all either. If you can't communicate substantially from a distance, closing it (even temporarily) will make it even easier to say a whole lot of nothing to each other of any significance. Support him, but don't take responsibility for his emotional state.
While, I completely agree with Hollandia that you might need to take a step back there, the SO's friend is also showing you something about yourself; you enjoy and crave stimulating conversation. He's also showing you something that's missing in your relationship with your SO. Just because your SO gets upset when you try express your feelings doesn't mean your feelings aren't valid or are imposing on him. It sounded a little in your comments that your discussing emotions with him is an inconvenience to him of some sort? That's not right, if that's the case. It sounds to me like he's having trouble dealing with strong emotions a bit? I'm not sure. But, either case, it's something you might bring up to him that you'd like to work on.
While, I completely agree with Hollandia that you might need to take a step back there, the SO's friend is also showing you something about yourself; you enjoy and crave stimulating conversation. He's also showing you something that's missing in your relationship with your SO. Just because your SO gets upset when you try express your feelings doesn't mean your feelings aren't valid or are imposing on him. It sounded a little in your comments that your discussing emotions with him is an inconvenience to him of some sort? That's not right, if that's the case. It sounds to me like he's having trouble dealing with strong emotions a bit? I'm not sure. But, either case, it's something you might bring up to him that you'd like to work on.
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