So who is with me in here??

[HollySwisher]

I'm 30. (Be 31 on July 8th.) My fiance' is 29.
My age isn't what makes me not fit in amongst the LDR youngsters, so much as the fact that most of their LDRs have been 2 years or less, and mine has been almost 8 years.

[Tanja]

I dated a guy 8 years older than me and my daughter's dad is also 8 years older. My current SO is 5 years younger than me so it's been a bit different with him. Also when we became official my mum used to giggle knowingly everytime someone mentioned our age difference

[RevRight]

Hi, I'm new here but fit in this category. I am WELL over 30 (mid 50's) and my SO is 39. So we fit in the age gap group too. We are both new to LDR's as well, so we are looking for ideas to help us make the best of it until we can close the distance gap. We have been in a relationship now for just over a year. And I'm finding that the more our love grows, the more difficult the distance and separation becomes.

[Snowlilly]

Welcome Rev....I agree with you too that the more the love grows, the harder it is to be apart. If it wasn't for immigration laws I would already be half packed and ready to move......

[Nikki9]

I'm new too, nearly 31 & my SO has just turned 30. We haven't been seeing each other that long (5 months) so I'm kind of here to see how other people deal with the distance & figure out whether it's something we can make work & if it is then how to go about closing the gap successfully.

[garnet]

I'm still here. I like this board, I agree, it's hard to relate to a lot of the threads. Things aren't so good for me these days so I'm sure I'll be around more.

[Tanja]

I'm still here. I like this board, I agree, it's hard to relate to a lot of the threads. Things aren't so good for me these days so I'm sure I'll be around more.

Nice to see you back! Even though you were probably never gone but you know

I hope you're all ok *hugs*

[garnet]

Nice to see you back! Even though you were probably never gone but you know

I hope you're all ok *hugs*

Hehe thanks. Yeah I've never actually left, but I've been really random in posting. The whole NICU, post NICU thing kinda sucked lol. >.< Nate's doing well. Stable since our last discharge, which was getting close to a year ago. We still go to the hospital each month, he still takes a ton of medication, still can't do normal things, but stability is wonderful.

Everything else is a pile of... well yeah.

[Katrina]

Now this is good to see !!!! I'm (deep breath) 46 and my handsome American man is just a young thing at 45. I smile at some of the younger posters discussing getting intimate on skype when I seem to spend half my skype time screaming "close my door please" or "is that homework finished". Looking forward to bemoaning the woes of "not quite middle aged"??? LDRs

[browneyedgirl08]

I'm 43, and my man is 44. Well we really aren't exclusive as of yet. He was a friend of mine from High School. We've been talking since february. We had a bit of a set back, I didn't think he was coming this summer. I pulled back a bit and he's been calling and I hadn't been taking his calls, last night he sent a text stating that he missed talking to me. I was going to send him a text today saying that I missed him too, but he beat me to the punch. He still wants to come up and see me.

During these past few months I've been struggling with negative emotions, him not calling me on a regular basis, thinking that he is not into me, my friends telling me and convincing me he is not coming and long distant relationships don't work. But by pulling back I can still see that he is into me and wants to come see me.

He lives out in the country and he does not have cell service, he is not able to call me at night. He doesn't even have a computer and uses his parents.

Anyway, today he did call me and we spoke for a good 40 minutes, he kept asking me if I had a boyfriend. So I hope it works out. I know it will.

Since the confrontation with my friends, I have told them that I didn't want to talk about him anymore and they have left it alone. I needed to grieve on my own and I did, but he's back.

So I'm in if you don't mind and thanks for listening.

[Dauntedpoet]

Well I'm late to the party. My SO was here for the month of June and I'm still recovering. I'm 48 and he's 41.

[UrbanCottage]

First Post, 30+ and in an LDR

I know a handful of the members qualify for this area - just curious about any of the newer members who might be in this boat, and feeling quite old when you read posts about parents disapproving of your relationship and decisions about which college to go to

I loved coming here for advice when I first joined but I've felt very out of place for some time. So I just want to get a feel of who is still here and who might be more recent members and up for the conversations of adult challenges like career moves, uprooting children, or even the wonder of finding love again since by this point we've all pretty much been in one major relationship that didn't work out!

I'm so glad there's a nook for the 30+ crowd! This is my first post - I've lurked the site for well over 6 months, but since I couldn't relate to the issues of high school or college age members of the forum, I never felt compelled to post. I'm in my late 30s and divorced (no kids), and have a home, 2 dogs and a demanding career. My SO left the business world to get his PhD and work for a university; he has about a year to go before getting his doctorate. I met him on a Catholic dating site and had NO intention of getting involved in an LDR, but the relationship slowly grew in all the right ways, and keeps growing. We are 1200 miles apart, talk every day, and visit an average of every 2-3 months, depending on schedules. It's been 1 1/2 years.

I know the situation is unique, but that's what brings us together, right?

[FierceFoxie]

I'm 36 and the man I am dating is 30.

[triste]

Might be too late for this party as well. Oh yes! I just joined your forum, I was just going to grab some more coffee after reading the new posts in newbies and was thinking, wow, I think I am too old for this site! Then I remembered seeing the 30+ Here I am!
I also noted that I seem to be one of the few with my age listed?? My SO is 30, so we have a seven year gap. I have a ten year old from a previous marriage, and sole custody as his father lives in another country. So the preverbial double edged sword, on one hand fabulous since I have the only say for my son, but two, would be nice for him to have a father in his life, since now his male influence, my live in boyfriend of two years had to move so far! Well, not really, his Dad is actually much better at the father thing from really, really far away So I guess technically I have two LDRs, my current and my ex (we maintain good contact for my son)! So Blankita, I am here for you!

[triste]

FierceFoxie...glad to hear I am not the only one dating a younger man! My SO is 7 years younger.